One guy was married,one was a drug dealer,the other had a anger problem....all these guys I have dated have ended up being complete dickheads or just dodgy.Why do I attract these people.I am a respectable young woman (19 years old)Is this just how the world works I just can't find me a decent guy.Why,where are they??It's got nothing to do with the places I go,the way I act or the friends I have its just like I am a bad guys fantasy,anyone feel the same?
2007-09-19 09:47:55 · 56 answers · asked by sxy latina XXX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hola...como esta? like most lasses, you're drawn to their aura - good boys bore you stupido, si? Why not discipline your sense of admiration?
2007-09-19 09:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by nativexile 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you attract that which you exude. Meaning the way you present yourself is representative of the guys you attract.
Maybe tone down your profile and dress a bit? Make it something more sophisticated - something that would make a power broker on Wall St. even intimidated by you. Also, the way you hold yourself in terms of mannerism is important to. Seem serious and astute. Talk with confidence and intelligence and that type of guy will be the one you receive.
I'm a guy and know that a lot of guys are not decent, even if it seems the case on the surface. A lot of my dude friends are out to tap a chick if she is attractive - they don't care about much else! This is the real world and you have to be weary of that! I believe down-deep that I will have daughters someday so I really emphasize caution when it comes to men. I notice women tend to fall for their BS really easily! Although I've changed, I use to double-time my gfs in college all the time! I never had a shred of shame lying about it to many girls faces either. It's amazing the trust we put into peopler when engaged in relationships! I like to think that i have changed but who knows?!? It could be that life is too busy for such games and it is as you get older too!
If you do like bad-guys then there's your answer and only you are to blame. You know a nice guy when you see it! If you know a nice guy that initially doesn't attract you why not give it a little effort and see where it goes? It may not be great at first but all good things come with effort and patience! You'd be surprised what may happen!!
2007-09-19 10:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time out of the loop and work on yourself a bit - maybe you are too trusting in relationships, and whilst I dont advocate being a cynical suspicious cow (that job is already filled and I am very happy with it thankyou) I do think females in particular need to STOP trying so hard to make a relationship 'right' rather than admitting fairly early in the piece that there are things that just dont fit, and pulling the pin on it or at least stepping back a pace until things can be seen for exactly what they are. Cheer up chick, it can only get worse!! (Nah thats just a bad joke - if you learn to sit back a bit and give people enough rope, they usually hang themselves, and quite quickly)
Just remember the H Chicks favorite sermon - theres ALWAYS warning signs, its whether or not we choose to heed them or not!
2007-09-19 09:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you shouldn't even date these people... you're allowing them to enter your life when you shouldn't. You already know they're not worth the time of day. You can tell what kind of guy someone is by how they act and their hobbies and environment. Look for red flags... for example, someone who likes to party a lot may not be a very good person to be with. However someone who has a close relationship with their family is a sign of loyalty. Of course, there are exceptions to everything, but I'm sure you know what signs to look for.
Hang in there! Nice guys ARE out there. Do you go to school? Most guys that are getting an education turn out to be respectable men... though not always. Just keep your eyes open and set your standards higher.
Good luck.
2007-09-19 09:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by Cochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't 'attract' these guys...you let them into your life. You have the choice not to date them but you do anyways. You will continue to date these type of losers until one day you look outside of the box and realize that there are good guys with their **** together out there.
Those kind of guys are the guys that don't go out to the bars all the time looking for *****, the one's who are respectful to a woman(he may have a lot of girl-friends), will open the car door for you....consistantly and much much more.
There are good guys out there...you just need to open your eyes.
By the way...a 'bad guy's fantasy'?? It doesn't exist.
You dated a married man....if anything a guy would think of you as the ' booty call 'fantasy'....seeing how he didn't leave his wife for YOU..
While your searching for the 'good guy'...I would also advise searching for some dignity.
2007-09-19 10:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Beezy♪ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are an attractive young lady EVERY guy is attracted to you! The guys you end up dating are the ones who are putting themselves in front of you. They are just looking to have sex with you, but don't care about you. It's universal, I've seen it a million times. You have to realize that the good guys like you too, they just wait for a bit. They wait until you are single, or the right opportunity presents itself. What he won't do is act like a thug. They will try to be friends with you first. Do you have any guy friends who are straight and single? He wants you. Trust me. He will also treat you right. True, relationships can be based largely on sexual attraction, but a good one will have comfort as well. Comfort with your lover is a good alternative to the emotionally stressing "wild ride" that some thug loser can offer you. If you want a good guy, it's up to you to cut through the crud and find him. He's going to be there.
2007-09-19 10:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by visionary_in_2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I always had boyfriends that were jerks, cheated, hit me, and everything. I am 26 now and married to a wonderful man.
My advice to you is, try to date different types of guys. Someone you are not neccesarily attracted to, and I bet you'll find your soulmate.
Also, your only 19, you still have alot of growing to do. Maybe start making some changes in yourself, and you'll attract a better type of man. By the time your 21 you'll want to have fun, so if I were you, Id stay single untill after then, TRUST ME.
2007-09-19 09:53:21 · answer #7 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey i have my own stories i once went out with a guy for 3 months till he stated to me that he was a registerd sex offender lol i ran trust me a lot of men are losers but u gotta just try being single for a while and look at yourself do you have low self asteem and think these are the only people you can get? do u dress like a hooker on the first date? sometimes misery likes company if that dosent apply to you id suggest being single for a while get your self asteem up join a gym or take up a cooking class whatever your intrested in the right person will find u thats what my mom told me best advice i ever learned she said Aaron let the right man find you and i did im happily married and we got a house and go on fab vacations he treats me with kindness and respect hope it helps=Aaron
2007-09-19 09:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by Aaron B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a nice guy (C:
be careful, make sure you know what the guy is like before you get too involved, i guess, as your only 19, that you fall for people quite easily and get to involved too quick. Try taking things slow to find out what the temperature of the water is before you jump into the pool. After all, you don't want it too hot or too cold you want it like baby bears food, just right (i have no idea what i'm on about now, sorry)
good look.
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2016-04-22 21:54:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should take more time before deciding to go out with them and dedicate time of your life on it. You most probably dont attract idiots but its just that there are a lot of them compared to the decent ones. Just look around, its not that easy to find someone that you really like and is decent.
2007-09-19 09:54:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋