I have a best friend who is a guy. his name is cordell. He flirts with me constantly but he has a GF. Well 2day i saw them together and he came into the cafeteria @ school. He walked right by me and never even said hey or anything! So he goes and sits down w/ his GF and they talk for a couple mins then he takes her hand and holds it the whole entire time and never left he side til time 4 class.
Well i'm head over heels in love with him and he doesn't even know! It hurt me so bad to see him with her and I felt like punching something but at the same time I felt like crying! Cordell has everything I want in a guy but he's taken and it shatters my heart to see him w/ his GF and I always wish that I could b the lucky girl standing by his side and holding his hand. Can someone give me some advice on wat I should do plez! Should I tell him how I feel or just wait it out and see if cordell and taylor break up anytime soon? please help!
I'm 13 and very emotional as u figured out by now
2007-09-19 09:39:16 · 45 answers · asked by ♥nikki♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-09-19 09:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by Molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very 'adult' to have figured out that what you are feeling is called a 'crush' for a reason. DO NOT say anything to your best friend about your feelings ... you are 'very young' and your feelings can and will 'change' frequently over the next several years ... you may eventually 'date' Cordell, or you may just stay 'best friends' forever ... but for now, just give yourself the time you need to 'accept' that this is a 'crush' and not 'true love.' You have PLENTY OF TIME for that 'true love' to come along ... and it will, someday, but NOT soon, I\if you try 'forcing' your feelings on your best friend now ...
YOU are the 'truly lucky one' as far as your relationship with Cordell goes, anyway. BEST FRIENDS last much longer than 'boyfriend/girlfriend' ...
2007-09-19 09:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww. :(
I don't think you should say anything, though. At least not now. I know a lot of people will probably tell you to tell him how you feel... but he's happy with this girl, it seems.
If you were dating someone you were totally crazy for, and your best friend confessed that they had a huge crush on you, wouldn't it put you in an awkward position?
You should wait a while... maybe they will break up, and once he's not upset anymore, you can tell him how amazing you really think he is. But for now, don't get in the way of his relationship.
I know, it's so hard. I've been through the same thing, more than once. It killed me inside to see them together. I remember once, I had this great guy friend named Zach, and I had a huge crush on him. He's an amazing person.
So, I was about to tell him how I really felt (he flirted with me a lot too, he was really sweet) when I found out he'd started going out with this girl he'd apparently liked for a long time (and she was crazy about him too).
I actually cried that day when I found out - he didn't see, but gosh, it hurt so bad. But I really do know how you feel.
But please, don't say anything to him right now. It'll be nearly impossible, but please be strong. <3
If it really is just too much, then I guess you can try to tell him. I just worry that it'll make things worse. He's not going to leave his girlfriend for you, and it'd be awful to have him know you like him and still not feel the same way.
2007-09-19 09:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by ashleymoore7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you don't even know, im little bit older than you- but i was the other girl for a VERY long time for a guy who has been going out with a girl for 3 years- it absolutely sucks. If you really like him, then try to get him by doing what ever it takes to be twice as cool and hot as taylor, and Cordell will see he mad a mistake. But if you know they won't be breaking up anytime, you have to try to get over it... I know exactly how you feel, but if you can just to erase him from your life, you might find out that you weren't really that in love with him. It takes time to heal, but you will eventually move on- I have!
2007-09-19 09:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by 666777111 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch honey I know how much that must hurt. Sorry to say but you need to tell him how you feel and ask that you not hang out as much. Let him know that you respect the fact that he has a GF but that it hurts to see the two of them together. Say you can still be friends but that you have to distance yourself right now. You have to put a barrier between you two. He needs to stop thinking he can keep flirting with you. The reason why hes flirting with you is because he's loving all the attention he's getting. You'll be loosing a great friend but you'll never get over him if you keep letting him get too close. Good luck and you'll be just fine.
2007-09-19 09:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by sun day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can really understand how you feel... bad but he sounds like a bit of a player i mean how long has he been with the other girl ? plus you don't really want to be his peice on the side you're 13 not 31! you have got a full life ahead of you. I got engaged at 15 and my life changed completley i knew it was wrong i finished it because i couldn't cope with being attached to one person when i still had my whole life ahead of me, when i finished with my ex it broke my heart and does still but yano life goes on and there really are worst things than lads even if you don't think so right now just sit down and think through things i had to and many more people do it all becomes clear in the end even if it means making a big decision! But chin up GOOD LUCK x
2007-09-27 09:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel.
I have a best friend who is a guy and we actually became friends beacuse we dated. but we broke up a month later and remained friends.
We got to know each other more and he eventually got a new gf. but everytime we were togther or on the phone he would always flirt with me and always give me hugs and stuff like that.
I was and am constantly there for him and have helped him through all his problems with her..like when they broke up.
I through all of this fell in love with him. and then told him and he told me that he loved me too. So this last summer we kinda had a thing.
But you knnow what sucks..all that is over now and he doesnt want to go out with me. Im just the friend =[ and he constanly complains about all these mean girls and i wonder why he doesnt just wake up and see that i am here! and now im stuck here heart broken =[
listen to the song Teardrops On My Guitar..it explains everything.
2007-09-19 09:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by KelliAnn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one thing, youre only 13!! you shouldn't be this dramatized. and if you really like him, then i would consider what his feelings are for you. For example: you said that he didn't say hello to you at the cafeteria. Why didn't he say hi to you is the question. maybe you said something wrong or another. If you don't think that the girl is right for him, you should tell him. but make sure that youre not doing it out of jealousy. you can't just make up stuff about her. If he likes you the same way and you tell him... he might just return that favor. But seriously, don't get so dramatic, guys HATE it when a girl is dramatic all the time.
2007-09-27 09:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by crazymama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see.......put yourself in HER shoes. What if she was YOU.....seriously think about this. How would you feel if some other girl came alone and stole him from YOU? That would hurt everyone involved.
Now...and I know you don't want to hear this and I'm sure you've heard it a LOT --- at 13, there is no way you know what true love is......I know it feels like love but you need to concentrate on other things right now ---- for real. Please take my advice. You are emotional and mostly it's because you are 13. I know you may not believe that but it's true. Sweetheart --- please remember this -- never make someone your everything because once they're gone, you have nothing" --- concentrate on your life and grow....have fun and don't worry about love right now. It's a crush. You'll even get past it soon.
2007-09-19 09:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 13 you're a bit young to be worried about that kind of thing. There are two possible options that I've noticed from my time in those years. Either he'll knock this girl up by the time you get in High School, or they'll be broken up in a jiffy. Don't worry about it. You like him, true. In a year you might not remember his name. There's no need to be so concerned about these things. Just have fun with your friends, stay out of trouble, and be friendly. If he doesn't notice you, that's his loss.
2007-09-27 09:35:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's a toughie situation.
Number one, be a good friend to him so that when his GF breaks up with him (trust me, it will happen) You can lay on the flirts into his heart.
But why are you itching for a BF when your only 13!!! Your heart will only be crushed and you will feel really broken inside! Even more than now. There's an itsy bitsy chance you'll stay together.
That's my advise. You can apreciate it or hate my guts. I'm jsut trying to help.
2007-09-19 09:45:40 · answer #11 · answered by ~*Felicity*~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋