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The same boy that told him last week that "your mommy is spoiled and so are you". Now my son came home with red marks on his legs and said the same boy hit him 3 times today. Should I say something to the teacher? What do I say?

2007-09-19 09:14:07 · 13 answers · asked by honeybear 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

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Yes! I wouls tell her exactly what you stated here and explain that you are concerned. I would also ask how the teacher handled the situation and if the others boys parents were notified.

2007-09-19 09:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by Daisy 2 · 4 0

Of course you should say something to the teacher, speaking as a teacher! Even in the upper grades, teachers can't see or hear everything all the time. It's got to be much more difficult in pre-school with the little ones. The teacher needs to know this and needs to put an end to this before it gets worse. At this age, the teacher not only needs to speak with the child, but with the mother, particularly since a pre-schooler wouldn't say something like "Your mommy's spoiled and so are you," without hearing it from an adult, more than likely, the mother.

Tell the teacher exactly what you said to us. Don't go in their angry or confrontational since that will only make the teacher angry and defensive and nothing will be resolved. (Been there, done that.) If she seems not to care or gives you a "Kids will be kids" lines, you need to be firm, but pleasant and explain that if it continues, you will need to speak to the principal or other supervisor. Document every instance that your son is hit or this other kid says something like your example, but especially the hitting. Allow time for the teacher to deal with it, but if it continues and she seems to not be doing anything, it's time to go to her supervisor. I'll tell you that when I taught in public school and saw how the head start people dealt with the kids, I wouldn't send my son to head start. Good luck and don't just give up because they give you the run around. Your son has a right to this program and to go without being bullied.

2007-09-19 09:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Just call the teacher and ask her if she knows about the incident and to see if your son instigated it--most kids are provoked somehow. Did your son take the other boy's toy? Did he cut in front of him in line? Did your son hit him first? You'd be surprised with how many times your own kid will have provoked the other child's behavior and then leave it out when they're telling the story. Just talk to the teacher and see if you can get the whole story and let her know that there have been problems between the boys in the past and ask her to keep an eye on things and that if there are any issues she should let you know. Making her aware of it if she's not should alleviate the problem.

2007-09-19 09:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 2 1

Yes, you should definately say something to the teacher.

Your child is being bullied and the situation needs to be addressed quickly before things get worse!

Tell the teacher that your child came home with marks and when you questioned him he told you about this other boy. This IS the teachers concern, especially if its happening during school hours.

This behaviour is not acceptable and the other boys parents should also be made aware that their son is acting this way.

2007-09-19 09:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 5 · 2 0

Kids are mean to each other, so don't jump out of your skin when they turn on your son. Also, don't be surprised if you hear that your son has been mean to other kids as well. It sucks, but there it is.

However, someone hit your son hard enough to leave red marks on his legs for hours. That is alarming, especially if he was wearing pants. You should definitely bring this up with the teacher, as well as with the director. Just mention your concerns about the same way that you wrote them here.

I hope you get this sorted out to your satisfaction.

2007-09-19 09:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by Meghan H 3 · 1 0

sounds like your son is encountering his first bully. You should definately make sure the teacher is aware of the situation before it gets any worse. And let your son know that when someone hits him he should immediatly tell the teacher. If this doesnt work, tell him to knock the kid on his butt. That may teach him.

2007-09-19 09:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by Denise Perez 2 · 0 0

I know that hitting isn't the answer, but dint let your son be bullied, tell him if someone hits him to hit back in self defense.My daughter had the same problem till she hit her back, they became best friends after that. Alls that other kid needs to know is that he cant bully you son around, alls it will take is once. Yes tell the teacher, she should have been paying more attrition and talked to you.

2007-09-19 09:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by cami b 1 · 0 0

You most certainly should alert the teacher of this incident. School bullies need to be stopped early in life. I truly think the lack of discipline is what is wrong with our schools. If his teacher is aware of this, she'll keep a closer eye and perhaps catch this child in the act which will allow her more leverage to discipline him.

2007-09-19 09:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

the different boy did get in difficulty, he exchange into instructed to no longer do it returned, and alter into in all probability redirected away out of your son. Daycares and preschools do no longer use unfavourable reinforcers, or any sort of punishers anymore. little ones in head commence are often decrease earnings and in threat for developmental delays (i'm no longer putting down all people who makes use of headstart, mine went there too), and teenagers in threat for delays tend to have much less expressive language, and could hit lots greater. as long as there is not any longer something aggressive, like biting, kicking, or something severe, it is not a huge deal. My son merely finished his summer time software in a undeniable ed college, and that i exchange into instructed he exchange into suitable all 6 weeks. That suitable secure him hitting somebody every day a minimum of as quickly as to get his factor for the duration of. Hitting comes with age and absence of language, or no longer having the flexibility to apply language whilst they're aggravated. merely talk on your son and encourage him to no longer hit. He sounds like a fabulous peer sort (oftentimes coming up teenagers with not on time, or probable not on time teenagers), do no longer permit this hassle you or him too lots. as far as handeling it with the instructor, don't be stunned or aggravated if she would not even keep in mind it, because of the fact like I suggested, hitting interior the eyes of the college and instructor, will take place interior the class.

2016-11-05 21:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

if the teacher did not send home an incidence report then you need to inform her. Leave out the whole "spoiled' story, just relay that he was hit at school and you would like to ensure it does not happen again.

2007-09-19 09:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by parental unit 7 · 7 0

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