would you dump or consider dumping them, would you be commited to still loving them?What if the "other" gets badly burned, losing all facial beauty, or that of someone developing terminal cancer, which would kill in 5-10 years, would you dump them? What do you believe would be the right thing to do? What would be the Biblical thing to do?
2007-09-19 08:46:33 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Biblical love is self-sacrificial love. If you "dumped" a person based only on uncontrollable circumstances, that is in no way expressing biblical love, and I would see that person as self centered more than Christ centered. (I'll not open the dating can-of-worms)
The reality is that God knew that that accident would happen, and the response of the persons involved often times reveals the real intents of their hearts. If you got into an accident and your friends leave you, then it simply proves they were never really friends to begin with.
But there may be other motives involved. If the accident causes the person to be bitter and continue to grow in bitterness at others and at God, then it may not be worthwhile to continue to pursue a marriage relationship with that person even if they were harmed.
There could be a thousand scenarios in this type of circumstance, but put simply, biblical love is love that you sacrifice yourself for another person.
2007-09-19 08:57:33 · answer #1 · answered by dooltaz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't even know whether anybody can actually say what they "would" do in a situation like that until they're there. Most people say they could never eat human flesh, until the plane they're on crashes into the Andes.
I know the proper thing is to say that you'd never leave that person; and yet people break up all the time, even when there's no devastating facial scarring or cancer or whatever. It's all well and good to say "Till death do us part," and in any serious relationship, that has to be the mentality or it's doomed to fail out of the stocks; but in real life, people change, and not everybody can really stay together "till death."
But I'm getting away from your real point, I know. I can tell you that if my boyfriend was in a wreck, or became ill, or whatever, I can't imagine leaving him on that account, because I love him.
2007-09-19 08:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it would really depend on how the person dealt with it themselves. If they slipped into a their own world of self-pity, depression/hopelessness, I don't think I could stay with that person unless we were actually married. While I understand such a thing would be horribly tragic and the person would probably go through such feelings regardless, at some point they would need to realize that they need to get on with life, no matter how confined/restricted/limited that person was. I'm not saying the person would need to be a PollyAnna, but countless people have been blessed by and blessed others through their tragedies. I don't have a lot of tolerance for self-pity I guess, we have to deal with the circumstances God gives us, good and bad.
2007-09-19 08:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by prismcat38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quad- thats a lot of work... but I'd stick by her. Who else would take care of her? I certainly wouldn't abandon her. I WOULD hope that she could still talk though... but disease and injury show no mercy.
burn- looks aren't everything. I was talking to my gf for quite a while and had already fallen for her before even meeting in person... all I had to look at was a picture. I loved the woman on the other end of the text/phone... we all end up turning ugly in the end anyway. I love her- not just her skin.
Cancer- I would STILL stick by her. She'd need me more than ever at this point, be it for support or whatever else. To abandon her in death would be far more torture than the disease itself. I wouldn't be able to live with myself after doing that.
The Biblical thing? Not really my concern... I'm not a Christian.
2007-09-19 08:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the relationship. If I had only been seeing them a couple of months, then those deep issues would kind of be too much for a fledgeling relationship to support. I would still be a friend to them however I could. Right now I'm with a guy I've been seeing for a couple of years--I really don't see how any of those things you mention would change anything between us.
2007-09-19 08:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the right thing to do would be stay with them and take care of them and I hope I wouild be able to do that in the event of a tragic accident. unfortunatly even careres can have break downs. I am about to start in a job looking after a severly mentaly and visicaly disabled woman I think if I can cope with that I would be able to look after my partner should the worst happen but I will pray it never does.
I also have a friend in a weal chair although not totaly disabled he can not walk alone or talk properly being paralised down one side after a car accident. but he is still very bright and fun to be with.
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2016-11-05 21:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to say you'd stand by them, but love is more fragile than people like to believe. I'd do whatever I felt compelled to do. Whether that would mean staying, staying and hiring support, or leaving, I don't know. I have one life to live, and I would not take such a decision lightly, and any mate of mine would be intelligent enough to understand that.
2014-06-27 08:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by Godless AM™ VT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care what the biblical thing to do is, I wouldn't leave him.
My love for James isn't based on his working limbs or his face (although it is kinda breathtaking) or his health. My love for him is a decision I made/make to love him as my spouse, best friend, lover, etc.
That's not biblical. That's just basic human being stuff.
2007-09-19 08:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by Acorn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing my brother's fiancee did after he got hit by the semi and was told he'd never walk again was to dump him. BTW, it took him a couple of years, but he did learn to walk again.
Me? I could never do that.
2007-09-19 08:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by glitterkittyy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋