do you belive it wrong to smack childeren,?

Question

i don't mean a beating i mean a smack to let them know that there doing somthing wrong.

Answer 1

The trouble is, too many people don't know the difference between a smack on the bottom and beating them unconscious.

Answer 2

A smacked bum never hurt anyone. I was smacked as a child and it did me no harm. My mother was very very loving towards us but if we really played up we'd get a smack and it usually worked and resulted in us stopping whatever it was we were doing.

Actually "beating" children is wrong and is child abuse.

But as someone else said once on here, a smacked bum sometimes works like hitting the reset button on your PC when its crashed. If the child is really throwing a tantrum and verbal reasoning is not longer working then a simple smack often does.

As a child I was a little terror - once I broke away from my mum's hand and ran into a busy main road! I did get a smack for that, just to enforce how dangerous it was!

Nothing more than that though. And a parent should never take out their frustration on a child.

Answer 3

In my opinion a smack is wrong. Being smacked with no proper explanation & no love always made me feel very resentful when I was a child - sorry but it's got to be said! (I think at this point I will agree to differ with those that think that a smack is fine!)

Would we as adults like to be smacked if we were wrong? We'd all have alot of bruises then! We shouldn't take out our fustration on the kids because we can't or won't explain in words that is easy for a child to understand, what they have done wrong & why - if possible without being patronising. They are cleverer than we think!

If my kids do something wrong I speak to them about it, or give them 'the look', or tickle them. It works with my kids - yes the tickling works too! They are my best friends & I am their best friends too - but I'm their mum 1st!

Answer 4

First of all im not a parent im a teen. My parents used to smack me when i was little not too hard (depending on what i did wrong) , it didnt do me any harm. But theres a difference between giving a child a smack and abusing them. A smack should be used as a punishment when they have done something very wrong, not as a warning or an excuse to take your anger out on.

Answer 5

People need to learn to discipline their children appropriately. I know a lot of parents who "talk to the children about what they did wrong". This rarely works unless you communicate with them as children and not miniature adults. Better to deprive them of something they enjoy (no cbeebies, no trip to the park, no playstation etc) than smacking but sometimes it's inevitable.
Just think though, would it be done because YOU are angry or because you want to punish the child?

Answer 6

I believe spanking is ok when a child does something wrong that may injure them, such as going into the street.

Probably the best way is to talk to the child and let them know what they did wrong and that they earned a spanking. Then take them in a private room and turn them over your lap and spank their bottom.

Hopefully they will learn from their mistake and do not to the same thing again.

Answer 7

I beleive that smacking children teches them that violence when something isnt going your way is acceptable... However I also beleive that a child of 2 or 3 does not understand what you mean when you tell them that their behaviour is antisocial!
A tap is acceptable with the correct wording...
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I watched a documentary on the subject when my oldest was about 3. It explained how parents usually smack children because they are angry about something they have done and its not going their way. If you smacked an adult for this reason you would be charged with assault. It made me change my ways and my son has never had a smack since. I adopted the theory when my daughter was born and although she pushes the limits sometimes she has never had a smack or needs one to be honest!

Answer 8

Depending upon the child, spanking is a valuable tool in raising children.

It is not the last resort, 1st resort, or a magic method. It is a tool for child guidance. I use many tools.

Best way is over the lap, panties down, lots of hand slaps to bottom... she cries... I hug and forgive... talk about it... give privacy... talk again later if child likes... continue as a loving family.

Answer 9

my son 8 months has an obsession with wires and plug sockets. Now he's mobile he needs to learn fast and a loud (not hard) swat on his nappy teaches him about danger. I wouldnt smack as a first option for minor things though

Answer 10

A light smack or swat never hurts anyone.

But spanking and corporal punishment does.

Spanking destroys the child-parent relationship, likely leading to future aggression, conflict, and rebellion. It's also painful, works only on the short-term, and teaches the child that violence is the answer. If you love your child, you will not spank. You never see other animals spank their young, do you? If you spank, you're pretty much at a civility standard lower than an animal.

And people are complaining about rebellious teens and violent society.....