They both said to me when I asked them they better be standing next to me, but I want the maid to stand next to me because she knows the best man very well. So any advice would it look funny to have the maid first??
2007-09-19 07:13:37 · 9 answers · asked by Kelsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't want to make the matron mad though?
2007-09-19 07:34:45 · update #1
Then leave the decision of dividing the duties up to them.
For example, Maid stands next to you during ceremony and holds your flowers at the appropriate time. Matron signs the license as a witness. Maid will be in charge of bachelorette party. Matron will be in charge of the bridal shower.
To avoid hurt feelings, tell those two they must decide between them how they will divide the duties. Good luck.
2007-09-19 07:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually wedding etiquette states that the Matron of Honor stands next to the bride, then the Maid of Honor then the bridesmaids. So unfortunatly you can't use tradition as your excuse to have the Maid of Honor stand next to you. If you really want the Maid of Honor next to you then do that and explain to the Matron of Honor that she knows the best man and you didn't want it to be too akward.
Or you can just say this is the order, deal with it it's my wedding!
Good luck!
2007-09-19 15:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would look funny to have the maid standing before the matron. If you feel like that is the correct thing to do, go for it! It's your big day!
2007-09-19 07:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by laura michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only ONE position, either a Maid or Matron of honour. If you would have followed this, you wouldn't have this problem!
However, if you already asked them (sigh), you put the Matron next to you.
2007-09-19 23:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it, have your maid stand next to you. I was in my friend's wedding, and she had her maid standing next to her, and then her matron after the maid. It was no problem. It didnt' look funny, and I don't think the audience even noticed-nobody said anything. It's what the couple wanted, and that's it. So do what you want and have your maid right next to you. I think ppl are so selfish these days demanding to be standing next to the bride, demanding what dress they wear, etc. It's not their wedding. I'm glad my bridesmaids are easy-going and not demanding of me :) Good luck!
2007-09-19 07:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's your wedding, it's your call who stands next to you. Please don't let bridesmaids/maid/matrons of honor let their cattiness ruin your wedding plans. Whoever you want to stand next to you for WHATEVER reason, it should be your choice.
If I were a guest at your wedding, I would see nothing wrong with it. Then again, I'm not even having a wedding party because all my friends started going crazy!
Good luck!
2007-09-19 07:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding--therefore its your decision. I would place them in order of height (if you have 3 or more brides maides) so that it doesn't look like you're biased. If the matron is your mother, then I would place her closest to you; if both are friends, then I would place the older one closer.
2007-09-19 07:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by Heart of Fire 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no tradition on whether the maid or matron take precedence, so it's entirely your choice.
2007-09-19 07:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have them draw straws or flip a coin to decide. Then, no one's feelings get hurt and no one gets to complain. Its an equal 50-50 chance and it was fair for each of them.
2007-09-19 07:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by tehuskey513 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋