We are not extremly rich but not poor.
2007-09-19 07:06:59 · 21 answers · asked by Dee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Consider that some people will WANT to give you money regardless of your financial status, just because you are married, because of tradition, etc.
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2007-09-19 07:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by tlbs101 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Whether or not you do a money dance should have nothing to do with your financial status and everything to do with your family's particular traditions. If it is a family tradition that everyone will be looking forward to, have one. If its something you decided to do for the hell of it, bad idea. This is the kind of tradition that is cultural and shouldn't be misused as an excuse to get extra money for the honeymoon or a down payment on a house or whatever. Don't listen to people when they tell you that everyone is doing it these days. Everyone is also getting divorced these days, and that isn't what you want to do either is it? That may sound harsh, and I'm sure I'll get lots of thumbs down for not telling you that its your day, do whatever you want, but in a society where the general consensus is to be greedy and selfish, be the breath of fresh air that your guests will love to get and skip the money dance if its not already a deeply entrenched family tradition. Good luck, and don't forget to have fun with the planning process.
Edit: While the charity thing is a nice gesture, you still run into the problem of people feeling obligated to give money for whatever reason whether it be to fund the honeymoon or for a cause they may or may not support. If you want to do something for charity, donate money in lieu of favors. The downside of the money dance isn't just what you do with the money, its that people feel awkward if they feel obligated to participate in something that wasn't expected. If everyone else is getting up to dance and they happen to not have any cash on them, then they feel like the stingy jerk who didn't want to donate money to charity. Like I said, only if its a tradition that is expected.
2007-09-19 14:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by tehuskey513 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sure, its a fun thing to do at a wedding and I've never been to one that has not had a money dance.
There is always the option for people to just come up and dance with the person even if they don't dish out a buck or more to dance with the guests of honor.
2007-09-19 14:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do the money dance if you want to. People who have money still do it. It's kind of a tradition in my hometown area... I've had 2 aunts get married this year and they each had the dollar dance. My one aunt was really well-off, the other, not so much.... so it doesn't really have to do so much with money I don't think. We aren't having the dollar dance at our wedding... but that's us- we are going more of a non-tradition route with our wedding, and making it more about us than anyone else. So if its somethign you want to do, dont' feel bad about it, you'll get ppl up there to dance with you! And it would be a good bonding time with everyone who does dance!
2007-09-19 14:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by m930 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The dance is not just about the money. At a lot of weddings (especially if it is a rather large one) it may be the only chance people get to dance with the bride/groom. You should do it. If you don't need the money, you should donate it to charity.
2007-09-19 14:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by lady9780 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would personally never have a money dance as I find it insulting to be honest. We are also hosting a formal sit down dinner reception so there is no way I could fit a money dance in there. However, regardless of my opinion of the custom, this is YOUR wedding so do what feels right for you and your husband-to-be.
I do have to admit that I like the last posters suggestion of donating it to a charity quite a bit. - Hype it up, pick a cause that you and your husband both support and have your DJ announce the charity and such before you do the dance.
2007-09-19 14:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by Tempus 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I've seen several references on this message board to a 'money dance'. What is it? I don't think I've ever seen it. Is it when you pay a dollar to dance with the bride or groom?
I've always thought that asking for money is not appropriate - especially if you're well-to-do. You should probably base your decision on what the norm in your region/culture is.
2007-09-19 14:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by SE 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is also a Polish tradition to do a dollar dance for the bride and groom. My husband and I had one at our wedding as I'm part Polish and it gave us a chance to dance with everyone at our reception, it was nice. Like the others said, it has nothing to do with your income.
Congrats on your upcoming nuptials!
2007-09-19 14:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by dp 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i understand the money dance is a filipino tradition, i've only been to one chinese wedding and the bride and groom did a money dance.
honestly, i think its stupid, you have a wedding to let your friends share your happiness not to help you pay for your wedding and your family are the ones to give you some money not the invites and i think its stupid and ghetto, regardless if you're rich or poor. if you're neither, just do a small wedding so you worry about not getting enough money pinned on your wedding dress!
2007-09-19 14:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by Adrienne L 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
It's appropriate to have a money dance - whether you're poor as paupers or rich as Roosevelt.
If you really feel awkward, donate the $$ to a charity of your choice.
2007-09-19 14:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
In my area, EVERYONE does the money dance--it's just so traditional. I doubt I will do it, and I'm sure people will make complaints about it, but I really don't think the decision to do one or not has anything to do with your income.
2007-09-19 14:10:49 · answer #11 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋