I'm living with my fiance and we fight all the time. But, he is so hard to deal with. Anytime anything difficult comes up, we just end up arguing because he just walks away and ignores the conversation. He works 10 -12 hour days and says he deals with enough b.s. at work and doesn't want to deal with it when he comes home. Small things that may upset me i ask if he'll work on , he say's he'll try but won't make any promises because he doesn't compromise for anybody, including me. I'm at my wits end with the fighting, and i feel like i'm the only one trying. What should i do?
2007-09-19 07:00:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
End the engagement and move out.
2007-09-19 07:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Q 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off do not get married till this is worked out. Second if he is working 10-12 hour days then he is already working 50-60 hours a week. There are only 168 hours in a week. At least 50 are most likely sleeping. That leaves him with 58-68 hours a week to put toward eating, making sure he gets up and is ready for work. That doesn't even get into the time it might take him to get to work and back home after his day at work is done. Eating showering and getting dressed typically take up 1 and a half (1.5) hours a day for most people so that works out to 10.5 hours a week. That leaves him with 47.5-57.5 hours if he works from home. If I give him just the average of an hour in the car per day of work that leaves him with 42.5-52.5 hours to devote to everything else. There are a few questions I have about this to maybe have a chance of giving an actual opinion on this question. How stressful is his job? What all would you like him to do? How much does he already do if any at home? How much do you do that he doesn't really see? Once you figure out how much time the 2 of you actually get together that you are actually awake for then maybe I could give you an informed opinion.
2007-09-19 07:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by Joey R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a pity.....
This guy likes u so much but he just can't stand the enormous pressure he is facing at work and I don't know what would his reaction if u asked him to get another job for both of u and for ur love :)
U shall consider in mind that men needs more love when he gets more pressure in his work
2007-09-19 07:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by Wozo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another BF! If he's being a Ahole now, wait till you get married! Get out while you can because it's NOT going to get any better. If he loves you, he would NOT be hard on you and work is NOT an excuse to yell @ you.
He needs to find another job that he enjoys going in everyday! It's the hardest to go to work and be miserable everyday!
2007-09-19 07:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by MarkyMarkC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you should be asking why hes your fiance. It takes two to make a pair.
If this is how hes always been maybe you should ask yourself why you want him to be different than the person you fell in love with. If hes changed since you met him, then understand there will more than likely be more change in the future.
2007-09-19 07:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Rick R , Super Duper Samurai 侍 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should support him and try to understand him. when he comes back he is so tired and u start fighting. this is what make him to ignore you and walks away. so u should deal him with love and patience. and if any problem occurs again, don't worry we r here to help u out....
2007-09-19 07:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go have sex with someone you dont know
2007-09-19 07:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by clifton f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋