My ex got in touch with me recently. We broke up 6 months ago. He was the love of my life.
I went to see him and we started talking about why the relationship ended. He indicated that he wanted to give us another chance. I was reluctant to get my heart broken again, so I acted stand offish. A day or so later, I realised I that I acted distant, so I texted him and told him "Im proud of you, your doing great things with your life, so keep in touch" and all he texted back was "OK"...
Soooo...... am I making a big deal of this, did I blow my chance of us getting back together?
2007-09-19 06:57:13 · 24 answers · asked by Enchanted One 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you didnt blow your chances I think you need to tell him how you feel!! He cant read your mind!
2007-09-19 07:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by amanda h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, you have no chance of getting back together, because you've already told him no and haven't done anything to let him know that you'd like to reconsider your answer. Your general well-wishing text is just a friendly gesture - he isn't able to read your mind and realize that it was a veiled acknowledgement of undying love.
If you want him back, you need to tell him that you've thought it over and would like to give it another chance. You need to be clear in all your communication and relationships - fate can only take you so far.
Personally, though, I think it's a bad idea. Couples usually break up for a reason, and make-ups don't usually last very long. And, in all honesty, he is NOT the love of your life, because your life isn't over yet. He might be the biggest love of your life SO FAR, but you have a lot of years of loving ahead of you. Don't let your past dictate your future. Give yourself a chance to find true love again, and to grow.
2007-09-19 07:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi BeeZee,
How are you today?
Was splitting up your mutual decision or was it sparked off by one of you, ..who was the one who first mentioned splitting, ..who threw in the towel?
What did you feel during those six months when you were apart... did you really feel like getting back with him, Was he a really good bf to you? Did he really care for you, not superficially but also care for the small nuances that make up the care system?
If you are focussing on "your" not getting hurt again alone, it is bad... Because if both of you were equally serious then it means that he went through a tough time too...
Do not rely on texting, it is way too impersonal to convey important feelings. Why dont you arrange for a meeting with him, sit down with him and talk about the important things...I feel that deep down inside, both of you cherished your relationship.
If there is no complication of a third person in either of your lives after you split, you must definitely consider giving both of yourselves a second chance.
It is never too late...So before meeting up with him, try to spend some time with yourself and analyse the relationship in depth.
* Did you fall in love with him for the right reasons.
* Have you given your best to it, are there things that can be rectified from your side?
* Has he been understanding when you have had tough times?
* Have you both looked for solutions rather than placing the blame on each other?
...Do this for your sake and his.
*hug* and Prayers.
Take care.
2007-09-19 07:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by nk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, you did the right thing. You didn't reveal your inner conflict in the text message and that is good. Guys aren't attracted by desperation. Better to leave it as it is now because you are the one who acted maturely. You protected yourself, and then you encouraged him in his endeavors. Good going! The hard part is leaving it where it stands now. Trust me, he will respect you more if you do. Let it go. If you are meant to be friends, he will re-appear in your life. If not, you have learned a valuable lesson about self-esteem and control. The right person will come into your life when you are busy living out your own dreams. If you feel vulnerable, reach out to someone in need and volunteer or take a class in ceramics or something that interests you. Move forward and you will succeed in all you do. I am in your corner! Take good care and God bless you.
2007-09-19 07:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by pamela f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you did. I think you proved you point of being able to live without him, which is not a bad thing at all, it shows you don't NEED him. Give it about a week and then ask him back out for lunch or something, start getting to know each other again without rushing back into something. And yo uneed to remember why you broke up in the first place and see it has changed.
2007-09-19 07:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How stand offish were you? It depends on why you broke up in the first place. I'm a firm believer that unless it's a relative, like your mom, brother, dad, or you kid...then there's a reason why things didn't work and my car doesn't go in reverse. Keep it movin'
However, if it was just a series of miscommunications, then, call him and try talking to him. Just flat out ask him if he'd still like to give it a try.
G'luck
2007-09-19 07:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by raticals.com 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you know what love is young in life. That way you know how to judge your relationship with someone. There is no rush to get back together, take it slow. You guys did break up and he has to regain your trust. Don't be to desperate, you will grow in love, that I am certain of. Just be more open so that there is no communication problems between you to. Most of all trust in your heart AND your head, they will keep you safe. If you feel you ruined it, back of and get a feel on how you feel around him, that will help.
2007-09-19 07:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by Kisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are willing to tell people by posting this question, is exactly what you need to tell him - you are reluctant to chance having your heart broken, but he is worth your getting back together. Any relationship has its ups and downs, but evidently you realize that he can be "the love of your life".
2007-09-19 07:07:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of texting why dont you try calling him- there is no emotion in texting
if you broke up for non-cheating and non-abusive reasons id say give it another shot if you think it may work out
if youre scarred of getting hurt again (which is normal) then take things VERY slow - hang out almost as if your just friends until you feel comfortable opening up again
2007-09-19 07:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Awesome-O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 01:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by sicilia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you havent blown your chance coz if you think about it he wants you back and with you saying what you did in a text it was a bit more of friendship text that you sent so he was probably quite upset thats all it was and thats why he replied okay, he is going to be there for you he wants you so if you want him get in touch and tel him how you feel xxx good luck
2007-09-19 07:02:16 · answer #11 · answered by milliondollar-playmate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋