Got fat and i feel ugly and have no confidence. Im 27, 5'5 and weight 159, need help losing the weight?

Question

last year I was 120lbs when i met my bf and i ate healthy and was very active and had high self-esteem, but since we were dating we ate and drank out alot, he would tell me to indulge once a week and that he loved me regardless if or if not i gained weight. We're still together but now I have a low self esteem, im fat and i feel ugly i dont dress sexy anymore and i get jealous, and i always think hes with someone better than me, something that i was never like before. He doesnt put me down but hes also not a good motivator. Both of us have been eating healthier and exercise but i still see no results and hes lost alot of weight...Please help I need to lose the weight FAST. I want to get my self confidence back and be happy with him. Im afraid I'm going to lose him because Im so unhappy and insecure now.

Answer 1

First off, you aren't that "fat". Secondly, you need to know you are worth it and lose the weight for YOU. He may have subconsciously wanted you to gain weight because HE is insecure. A lot of men do this. That is probably why he isn't much of a motivator. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying he did this with any sort of malice. Make yourself exercise and eat healthy. You mentioned not seeing results. Change up your diet and exercise routine. Every one isn't the same. Just because the current program is working for your b/f doesn't mean it will for you. Join weight watchers or something/place that will give you the support you need. Good Luck!

Answer 2

As I'm sure you've heard, unfortunately you're not going to be able to lose the weight overnight. Remember - it took you a year to put it on. That being said, 159 lbs (even for your size) is not FAT.

I lost 70 lbs. myself, and had the same thing happen when I met my current boyfriend - I gained it all back. I am focusing on my health again, and have lost 14 lbs. so far. You need to work on your portion sizes. Even though you might be eating healthier, make sure you're not eating too much. Start cutting down on your portion sizes for each meal, and if you are hungry in between, make a small (healthy) snack for yourself - should be about 100 - 200 calories, max. Also, make sure you are challenging yourself when you work out. Start doing intervals - walk for 5 minutes, then run for 1 min, things like that. Or, if you are on an elliptical or something, increase the resistance 2 or 3 points every 5 minutes or so, then go back down. As your endurance increases, make the intervals harder, and more frequent.

Keep in mind...the bottom line is burning more calories than you take in. Lastly, make sure to give yourself at least one meal a week to eat what you want...this is very good in moderation. If you don't do this, you will probably be miserable, and end up falling off the wagon.

By the way, you are very lucky (as am I) to have a boyfriend that tells you he will love you no matter how much you weigh - remember that. Good luck!

Answer 3

This should be in Diet & Fitness, if you want more of that type of reply.

Eat a healthy, well balanced diet all the time...no skipping meals, no dropping calories below 1200 a day, and switch your meals to 4 - 6 small ones (instead of 3 larger ones)

Add to that at least 1 hour of exercise at least 5 days a week. Some cardio for calorie burning, and some strength training for muscle toning (to increase your metabolism). You didn't put the weight on overnight so you won't lose it overnight...be patient and diligent.

Answer 4

I have lost 17 pounds on the south beach diet in six weeks. But you have to be careful because if you lose the weight fast you may gain it back fast. The best way to lose weight is to consume less calories and to burn more calories. Concentrate on eating healthier foods and adding exercise into your daily routine. Keep motivated and you will succeed. Try to cut out bad carbs and sugar. I am 27 and have had two babies in the last three years. Therefore, I have no sleep, no energy, and no time. So if I can do it you can too. Stay positive. Your weight and height sound fine. Being sexy has to do alot with your attitude. So act like your hot, keep up the good work and your bf will think you got it all together.

Answer 5

Well your already half way there. Set up goals that don't highlight your weight. As you shape up- you'll gain muscle which weighs heavier than fat, you wont see a big difference in weight loss. At a good time during day or night put on some music and just start stretching. Get a mirror so you can actually see the muscles stretching that way you can see right then and there what you're doing, it also helps you with posture. Hold positions and breathe. Two fastest exercises at home. Squats - lunges and Standing up with weights- legs shoulder length apart, slightly bent. Now slowly lower your side with weight sliding down side of leg. hold at point where you feel light strain, breath lower more. Than straighten up slowly. Do this over and over mixed with squats and you'll see results in a week. The mirror is the trick - I seen people with muscles I wanted. In the mirror i could spot them then concentrate on them. I also hooked a bathroom safety bar on my kitchen entrance ceiling. So I hang there, pull knees to chest. The best thing-friends on poker night always wants 2 see who can do most chin ups and how long you can hold yourself up. I love that because we bet and I win. Good Luck

Answer 6

I feel your pain. When I was 25 I was a size 5 and very cute. Now, after two marriages and 10+ years, I am up to a size 14. I am mortified at myself for letting it go this long. I try not to let my weight bother me, as it does not define who I am. But, I feel extremely big right now and I am not proud of it. What we have to do is get active. It's hard to find an exercise that I like so that is my biggest problem. I have never been athletic. Watch your calories eat fiber - it makes you feel full so you don't eat as much. My Dr. also suggested drinking a full glass of water before eating to help me control intake of food. Portion sizes are just so darn big!

Answer 7

I would just exercise and count calories. Be aware of what you are eating. if he is eating McDonalds everyday, you dont have to order something everytime he goes. My bf eats fast food like everyday, and most of the time I'll order something to eat with him but I always give him the leftovers/split whatever i'm eating with him. Try this out! And as far as drinking a lot, I would drink something like Rum and Diet Coke, which only has 80 cals per shot instead of 130 for a beer.

Answer 8

no alcohol, no soda, water as your only beverage, and, do not eat at night. the clue is that you say you drank a lot and have gained weight. this is more common than you know and i am no expert, but, it may mean that you are unable to tolerate a lot of drinking. it may not be good for you, where someone else can drink and nothing happens, with you, there may be a sensitivity. at 159 you are not fat, but i understand how you feel, at your age weight drops off quickly, smile and good luck, i am sure it will all be fine.

Answer 9

I'm 5'5" and 120lbs and recently complained to my BF that I wanted to gain weight because I felt I was too 'skinny'. I'm too conceited and full of myself to ever think I was ugly, though. I don't care anymore about gaining weight.

I learned to accept my body and not get caught up in what the media perceives as ideal.

First, do not lose weight fast. Everyone has given some GREAT advice.

Adhere to it and good luck!!

Answer 10

first of all, join a gym. its easier to go to the gym when you know that your paying for it rather than having a workout thats pretty much free. Having free workouts are good if you really have the desire to work out. But personally, i would join a gym because they have alot of resources. Work on cardio..RUN ALOT!! Join a gym with a sauna (sit in it after a workout and sweat!!)
Watch what you eat. DONT DRINK SODA! and watch the greasy food.
Pretty much what you need is
1. a good consistant workout
2.dedication and determination
3.A good diet.

another thing to keep in mind. most guys wont tell their woman if theyre feeling unnatracted to u. the best way to pick up on it is if they are being distant.
you can lose as much weight as u want, it all depends on ur dedication and how bad you want it..