my son is 6 yrs old is very tall for his age (4'3") he recently got his yellow belt with a black stripe his school had an inschool tounament my son came in second place because he lost 1 fight. the thing is the kid he lost to was 5 yrs older than him and a green belt. although the kid was the same size as my son i really dont think that was fair.
2007-09-19 06:05:56 · 17 answers · asked by Brutal 2 in Sports ➔ Martial Arts
i guess yall arerighti should just be proud that the Sensei thinks he is good enough to fight some one older and more exp. than him i mean they were tied up until right before the sensei called time and other boy delivered an awesome lead leg round house to my sons chest so my lil man only lost by 2 points
2007-09-19 06:49:35 · update #1
okay reaper how am i being selfish i just didnt think it was a fair fight because an 11 year old ranked 2 belts above my son is a little more coordinated than my son plus the kid outweighed my son by about 20 pounds but thats ok im just proud the sensei thought he was ready for that
2007-09-20 15:04:00 · update #2
Was the sensei involved at all in the organization / judging of this tournament?? ...if not - then what is he supposed to do?
2nd place is nothing to spit upon... it's a decent showing for a first tournament (especially for a 6 year old when they're going against much older kids)
... be proud of his achievement & have him learn from this - he'll do better as his skills increase & he gets older.
2007-09-19 06:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That probably wasn't fair at all, however it is the sensei responsibility to pair up equal students.
Keep in mind, most tournaments are for fun. As long as your son walked away having a good time. Don't detract from his accomplishment. He kept up with the best of them, and in the end when his skill matches his courage, he will be winning a lot more fights.
Keep encouraging him and don't make his fighting a green belt the issue. Trust me he did alot better by taking the challenge and going toe to toe with an older and more experienced fighter, and that alone makes him a winner.
good luck with your sons training
2007-09-19 06:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by mike c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that you have no complaint. Placing competitors together by rank and size is common. How far is yellow to green in your school? If they are close, fair. Size is judged more than age alot of times in tournaments. Your kid was about same size I'd guess, again fair. If he had won would you complain that the kid he beat was higher ranked, no you wouldn't have. Second is great. As for me I would just ask my child if he/she had fun. If so then that is all that counts. Don't push winning in such a way that you child believes that is the only way to be. Tell him/her how well they did getting second and how the other child was just a litter better that day, that's all. How a person, child or adult, acts after a loss is much more important than how they act after a win. The true person is exposed from a loss. Accept that he/she was second that day. Tell them how proud you are they made second place. If you want to get negative then point out the number of children that came in after your child. I'd guess it was a lot more than one.
2007-09-19 06:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by Zenshin Academy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him if the tourney was divided by age or weight. I remember as a teen being in the mens division because I was a little tank.
It should be one of the things he needs to let you know ahead of time for the next tourney.
If your kid was ok, don't make a fuss about it in front of your son specially if other kids are around. Take the teacher to the side and talk to him.
Most importantly, encourage him by telling him that he did exceptionally well against an older stronger boy but also not be swell-headed.
2007-09-19 08:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by Darth Scandalous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While this may seem unfair to you, please also consider the opposing viewpoint. Is it fair for your 4'3" son to be paired up against kids who are 2'3"? Plus, it could be possible that your son is one of those freaks of nature who is just unnaturally good. I'd prefer my son to be paired up against better competition and have to earn 2nd place then to be paired up against kids half his size so he can sleepwalk through to a 1st place. Perhaps this is how his sensei was thinking.
Also, while tournaments are great for self esteem, especially at his young age, please keep in mind the purpose of martial arts. I'd say tournaments and trophies aren't even in the top 10 goals when training in a martial art. And by you making a big deal out of this, you could be sending your son a very bad message.
Congratulate him on a job well done. Hell, make a HUGE deal out of how he beat kids older and more experienced then him. Make sure he knows that losing to someone as he did will only help him learn and become better in his art.
And remember, in self defense, fights are never fair.
2007-09-19 06:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by gnp_show 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Principal seems to be what you're after here, but let's stop and think about this for a second.
In real life ( the reason for learning a martial art) things are fair or weight or belt proportiate so let your son take his blows, learn what he learns and so on because that is the world he'll learn to survive in
2007-09-19 20:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by 8020rule 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was very fair. Belt ranks are not a show of skill in the ring. It is GREAT that his instructor thought so much of him to pair a 1st-2nd grader against a 5-6th grader. Believe me that is a huge compliment.
In sport fighting its best to fight the best people you can even if you never beat them.. esp the fastest and most skilled. You eventually rise up close to the level of the people you pratice with if not pass them up.. If you always fight the top 1% of the fighters when you are faced with someone of less skill you smack them easy.
2007-09-19 06:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by Money Shot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That kind of thing happens. I used to train TKD and Judo in my pubescent-teen years. When I was a yellow belt I sparred a red belt and won. We were however the same age, and roughly the same size. These kind of things happen. I don't think you should make a big deal out of it. In house tourney's SHOULD be more for getting an idea of who your top fighters are. Nothing more.
2007-09-19 08:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by Vinny C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son did very well!
Give your son a big hug and tell him how proud you are of him.
If your boy is in the top three he is doing well.
Size "and" rank is how students are paired up.In a school there are only so many students,I feel the match was a good one.Your son did very well.Be proud of him.
2007-09-19 13:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The martial arts are not sports. You son is learning how to defend himself in a street fight. At six years old he shouldn't have any colored belt rank at all.
2007-09-19 09:02:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋