My mother refuses to greet me and I am living in her house?

Question

My 15 year old daughter and I are currently living in her house. We will be moving out soon.

However, in the meantime my mother says goodbye and hello to my daughter but completely ignores me.

She is also pushing me to move out. I also found an e-mail that she was going to send me listing all of my "bad" points in her opinion. She also said how I should cook, clean and do more in the house. I do help her out, but am now turned off because she is pushing me to help and has the audacity to think of writing an e-mail with 10 points of how I have to change.

I don't know how to deal with her except to ignore her and count the hours until I move.

Answer 1

Unforunately, parents have a habit of trying to help their kids better themselves. Some go about it in the wrong way. Try and look at that list as positive maybe. Are there things you agree with on it? Instead of seeing glass half full, she sees it half empty. Could be she is disappointed in where your choices in life has taken you, was hoping better for you. Life is full of choices, we all make mistakes.
If you are back living with her there was a reason and maybe she did not agree with it, thinks you are old enough to have figured life out by now.... Letting a 'child' back in is a tough thing to do. Tough love? She had a life b/4 you moved back. Maybe a little resentful? Feeling being taken for granted?
Sit down or take her out to dinner and tell her how much you have appreciated her support, thank her for being there for you when you needed it the most. What you have learned from it all and from her.
As long as you have lived and learned from it, all will be fine in the end.

Answer 2

Is there any merit to the way your mother feels? Are you paying her rent while you are staying there? If you are not paying rent, then I do not think that it is unreasonable for you to do more around the house for your mother.

However, the email and not talking to you is childish. She should approach you and speak to you about it instead of doing that.

If I were you, (and I wasn't paying rent) I would try to do as much as I could around the house, and count the hours until you're gone.

Answer 3

You have answered your own question- no one should have to endure ignorance from anyone.