started weepin,i m sad and depressed.i hate being alone.i dnt know if there;s any place where i can adjust and stay happy.i hate myself.
2007-09-19 05:55:47 · 12 answers · asked by riyamehta_delhi 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
grow up please, why did u leave ur old job if u were not ready for change. im sure there is one cool person for you to have lunch with and talk about adjusting. please stop whining it doesnt help.
2007-09-19 06:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
It takes time to adjust to a new job. Don't expect everyone to like you right away. I know that this is hard to believe, but on some of the jobs I had, there were some people who never came to like me at all -:)
How are you doing with your depression? You need to be on an antidepressant and you need to be seeing a counselor. Hating yourself, feeling helpless, and feeling hopeless are symptoms of Depression. You've talked about having these feelings about 4 month's ago.
Did you start on an antidepressant and then go off of it? I don't know if that's the case but if that's what happened, you need to start back on the medicine again.
It took a lot of courage for you to apply for a new job, get hired, and then start the new job. You need to give yourself credit for that and give yourself a little pat on the back.
In any case; you need to be on an EFFECTIVE antidepressant. If you have been on the same one, at the same dose, for a long time; then you need to talk to your Doctor and ask him to either increase the dose or try you on another medicine.
I hope you feel better soon. There are people who care. When you are feeling better, please e-mail me so I can know that. I will feel better then too.
2007-09-20 01:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I remember when I first moved away from home and I was so lonely. It is called homesickness. Although, sometimes it feels much worse than it sounds.
I started making friends in my new city and started enjoying my job. Then I started doing better at my job, got a promotion, and therefore felt a bit more confident. I then started to fit in better.
You could move back home, but sooner or later you'd have to go through the same thing again. Might as well try to adjust now.
Good luck and God bless!
2007-09-19 13:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have to agree with smartassawhip, these are feelings you expressed months ago, and here they are still affecting you. Well done for getting a new job. That took effort and it's paid off, you owe it to yourself to give it a good shot - by sorting out your depression. STOP letting it control you. Then you will find that you can adjust and be happy anywhere - as the difficulty is inside you, not outside. Best of luck and every good wish. As smartassawhip said, there are people who care.
2007-09-20 06:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by kerrywoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 stop calling your mom. She doesn't need that . You are obviously old enough to be in the work force and should be wise enough to see what the problem is in your life and deal with it. Change your attitude re your job and those around you and this will improve your self image and bring satisfaction. Look at your job as something you look forward to doing and look for opportunities to mix with other work mates. Your job is a big part of your life but not all your life. Enjoy your time at work or if that is not possible then you should change to something more suited for yourself.Remember you can work it out yourself don't look to mom to solve all your problems or you will not experience any growth. Cheers, remember Jesus loves you and died for you and wants the best for you, talk to God.
2007-09-19 13:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by Steiner 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find out the reasons as to why you hate your new job. Can the problems be rectified? If yes,then start working towards it. If you feel they cannot be rectified,then start searching for a new job and before joining,make sure,the job criteria is as per your liking. You got to deal with such problems alone,Riya ! Come on,be brave.Am sure you will get thru.Don't start hating yourself for such petty reasons.
Good Luck !
2007-09-19 14:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sunflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to seek some professional help. Not all people are able to cope with change. Take it slow just a day at a time. If you aren't ready to deal with people take a book to work with you and read on your breaks and lunches.
Maybe you can read a book about dealing with your emotions.
2007-09-19 13:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry! I've hated every job I've had, especially my current one I've been at for 3 years! I've been looking for a new job for months but can't find one to save my soul! Just take it day by day and maybe you'll make some new friends and adjust. Sometimes it just takes some time.
2007-09-19 13:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's wifey 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? If you are still living with your mom then quit the job if you are that miserable. If you can afford to walk away from it then do it.
2007-09-23 12:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by Diana A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a psychologist, you are severely depressed so obviously we are getting a very small piece of the overall story here. There are obviously other issues going on in your life that has led to your depression.
2007-09-19 13:07:34 · answer #10 · answered by bettercockster7 c 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
My dear frnd, let me tell u about someone i know...
i have a female frnd of almost ur age.... y i am telling u about her is because she symbolises that family of females who have it in them to face the world head on, find the solution to there question, seek happiness even in trouble....
see i dont know wat u r going through... all i have to say is frnd, God is always der nxt to u, u just need to open ur eyes to see him der... JUST BE A FIGHTER AND NEVER GIVE UP NO MATTER HOW HORRIBLE THE SITUVATION MIGHT BE ALWAYS HAVE FAITH IN GOD AND COURAGE IN UR ACTIONS AND SOON U WILL SEE LIGHT OF HAPPINESS...
JUST KEEP FAITH AND I KNOW U R A FIGHTER AND U WILL FIGHT BACK, U WILL FIND WAT U WANT........
LET ME TELL U A STORY.....
ONCE UPON A TIME A GIRL WAS WALKING ON THE BEACH-SAND(REPRESENTING HER LIFE'S JOURNEY). SHE HAD GREAT FAITH IN GOD AND SHE USE TO PRAY HIM ALL THE TIME... SHE USE TO FEEL HIS PRESENCE NXT TO HER ALL THE TIME (REPRESENTED BY FOOT PRINTS OF THE ALMIGHTY ON D SAND NXT TO HER FOOT PRINTS).
WHILE WALKING. SHE FACED G8 TROUBLE AND SADNESS DUE TO SOME REASON. SHE IMMEDIATELY TURNED FOR HELP TO HER GOD WALKING NXT TO HER. BUT ALL SHE COULD FIND WERE ONLY ONE FOOT-PRINTS ON THE SAND SO SHE THOUGHT ITS HERS. BUT WEN SHE ASKED GOD WHY HAVE U LEFT ME WHEN I AM IN TROUBLE, GOD SAID MY DEAR THOSE WERENT UR FOOT-PRINTS THOSE WERE MINE AND U WERE IN MY ARMS...
I HAD LIFTED U IN MY ARMS SO THAT U DONT FEEL THE PAIN OF THE HARSH JOURNEY, I TOOK THE PAIN FOR U....
SO U SEE BELIEVE IN GOD AND BE A FIGHTER....
EVERYTHING WILL WORK OUT....
BEST OF LUCK
2007-09-22 22:26:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋