Nursery is so expensive and his dad would love to stay at home with him during the day. The thing that worries me is he loves playing with other kids but his dad can take him to playgroups and parent and baby things cant he? What do you parents out there think is for the best? We are in the same financial situation wether our son is at nursery or my partner works as nursery is so expensive. He is such a good dad as he has grown up around kids because his parents were foster carers.
Thanks for the help
2007-09-19 05:25:50 · 22 answers · asked by thebippy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Goodness do what you feel right for your family.
Believe me when they start school, you never get that time again.
If your husband is happy with that and can take him to social gatherings once a day ie toddler group, park, etc etc then that is a perfect balance - social with friends and special time with your parent.
You could always balance it further and put your child in nursery a couple of mornings/afternoons a week but have the other time with dad.
Good for you, you found a caring involved dad, they are still few and far between.
I had to work with my first child and he was in full time nursery - i swore never again, it would be no children or i am at home. With my second she goes to nursery 3 afternoons for 3 hours a day and at home the rest. So i think i found the right balance for us.
Good luck.
My advice would be to you or your husband - enjoy this time but also make sure your child has outwith social time with friends and children his own age to develop his social skills but balance it with you enjoying being a parent............rem what they say.......... you never can get that time/age back again.
2007-09-19 05:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
In 11 years i have been in and out of jobs because my heart is at home with my kids, but then i miss work, then i get a job and feel guilty and quit.
I've finally set up my own business so i can have the best of both worlds,but i put my 2 year old into childcare 3 mornings per week for socialisation. Why dont you try Dad giving staying at home on a trial, let baby go to nursery for 1 or 2 sessions per week (Dad will need a break!) and there'll be a happy balance of home life and seeing other kids.
If Dad misses work then its easy to change your mind. He could take a career break. Dad can take baby to toddler groups, swimming, libraries, parks... They'll have a ball!
Your decision doesnt have t be set in stone.
2007-09-19 09:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Tartan Duck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I am working part-time, our 11 month old son goes to nursery from 8am until 3pm. Once I'm working full time (in about 4 weeks) my husband is quitting work, but our baby will still go to nursery for some of the day.
Our plan is for hubby to work part time from home, so he will have time to himself while baby is at nursery, then will collect him at lunchtime and spend time with him. He will also be able to take him to the local baby singing group and stuff, as they are on in the afternoons.
Our little one has only been in nursery for the last 4 weeks, but already he has become more talkative, more confident in his walking and interacts really well with the other babies in his group (he even has a girlfriend!!) Nursery has been so good to him - and even though it is expensive (we only get half of it back in tax credits), we both agree that we would give up some of our own "luxuries" to ensure that he could still go.
Hope this helps!
2007-09-19 05:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by Blue Kitten 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can always get back into some kind of work but you can't get your son's childhood back. It's a no-brainer really. If his dad is uncomfortable about taking him to playgroups this will only be temporary and it will be beneficial for both of them. If you're still in doubt, ask yourself the question as to what you would do if it were you rather than his dad who had the chance to be the primary carer.
2007-09-19 05:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband was made redundant 3 days after I'd had our first child. I went back to work after 5 weeks (because he is a NZ citizen and wasn't entitled to any benefits) and he took care of our daughter. This lasted for nearly 6 months and he took her to all the 'parent and baby' things. Often he was the centre of attention, being the only man there. The only trouble we had was with our health visitor who wasn't very broad minded and refused to visit our home without me being there, maybe she was afraid of something happening. The answer is do what's right for you and your family, if sending your son to nursery is going to cause you financial hardship, let him stay with Dad. They will end up with a very special bond.
2007-09-19 05:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nursery isnt essential as long as your husband takes your son to places where he can socialise. He will be as welcome as any mum at a playgroup or toddler group. I say good for him. Let him set an example to other dads. My partner would stay at home with our daughter who is now 16months if he could but he earns too much to justify giving up his job.
2007-09-19 11:07:09 · answer #6 · answered by mimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let your husband take him to parent and toddler groups or reading times at libarys look into everything they can do together i never went to a nursery and i dont think i missed out and i am 35 my kids went to a play group run by a local chruch who gave 2 hours of there time each week and for £1 and a cupper the kids had a great time
2007-09-19 08:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why cant he take him to playgroup, there is nothing wrong with a man doing that kind of thing, also i think it is good for your child to go to nursery, it gets him prepared for school you may have problems when its time to go to school as he will not be used to being with other children.
2007-09-19 05:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by LouLou 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if its cost benefit to be a stay at home parent till they start school then fine do that. Take him to playgroups, introduce him to cousins/neighbours kids. Teach him to read, paint, draw, sing and dance at home. Interact with him to encourage him. A mixture of all that has to come from the parent. Its crucial they get the bond at a young age and learn from you.
2007-09-19 05:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by a beautiful lie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awe its great that his dad wants to be around him so much let him stay at home with daddy and have some quality time and as u say he can go to the park and playgroups and parent and baby stuff and it will save u both money
2007-09-19 05:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋