i hate myself?

Question

i hate myself everything about myself. . . i cant stand the person that i am. . .i fail at everything and everyone. . . i dont deserve to live i don't even deserve friends
what's wrong wit me?
tanks

Answer 1

Im gonna state the obvious here. Low self esteem and self worth. Instead of focusing on the negative things that are happening and the failed relationships you really need to focus on the things that make you happy. If you go into something with it set in your mind that you are going to fail..you will. If you change your mindset AHEAD of time, your chances at success are much higher.

What exactly are the things you don't like about yourself? Maybe you should write them down and then make a plan. Each week...work on one of those things until you are satisfied. With a lot of things, you have to step outside of your comfort zone..for instance if you are very shy. You'll have to work on talking to strangers where you go..making eye contact and saying hello or smiling at them. That's a good first step for that.

If you do bad things to people and that's why you feel you don't deserve friends then you should work on being a better person. Treating other people how you want them to treat you.

I dont think that anything is WRONG with you..you just need to think about the things that are RIGHT and go from there.

Think positive and keep your chin up..

Answer 2

Been there. I'm constantly changing myself, improving myself, to become the person I'd love to be. The biggest results came for me when I started doing the things that scared me. When you do the things that scare you, you really feel like you've accomplished something and you really begin to value yourself. You'll realize you DO deserve to live and be a friend.

Here are a few things you can do:

1. Make a vision board. Take some poster board or a piece of paper and use photos and words cut from magazines that represent who you want to be, what you want to have, where you want to go. (This is from the Secret, which you might want to watch or read.)
2. Fake it 'til you make it. Try to act like the person you want to be. It will kick in on its own sooner than you think.
3. Fresh start. Move. Meet new people who don't know the old you that you don't like. Try a new school, job, style, apartment, whatever - and don't bring the old you with you.
4. Therapy
5. Make a list of your best assets, talents, favorite things and realize what IS great about you already. Don't allow yourself to write anything negative.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Okay, first of all why do you say you fail at everything? There has to be some good qualities you are overlooking. You are just being way too hard on yourself. You should never compare yourself to others, everyone is different. You have to find out what it is that is making you so unhappy.

You should also talk to your doctor about these feelings you are having. It could possibly be a chemical imbalance. Good luck:)

Answer 4

Who told you that you don't deserve friends? Who told you that you fail at everything?Would you tell somebody else something like that about themselves? lf another person was you....could you find anything in that person to like? If nothing else..couldn't you have empathy for that person? So have empathy for YOURSELF !!! Start working with yourself as if you were a friend who asked you advice on how to be better. Make "your friend" into a "fixer upper"...you know those shows that fix up people? You can't have plastic surgery..but surely there are things you can do to change what you don't like. You're probably young...you can count on that over the years you will change. Look how many movie stars said they were "geeks" etc. when they were young..but turned into glamorous movie stars. DON'T GIVE UP ON YOURSELF.!!! PS...I think you're in a deep depression from losing your friend. See..you had a friend...try to remember what she liked about you. Hang in there..keep on Y/A.

Answer 5

Yes you do deserve to live! Whoever told you that you don't deserve to live was a liar. If you were important enough for Jesus to come down from heaven to die for your sins so you could have eternal life in heaven, you deserve to live! If you don't like yourself, there are things you can do to improve yourself. Ask God to help you change into a better person. He obviously thinks you are special! You are precious and worth a lot to Him! If you don't like who you are or the way you look, do something about it. Don't get overwhelmed thinking about too many problems at once. Take one at a time and come up with a solution. Make a plan to improve. Set goals. Reward yourself for accomplishing the goals. See how far you have come! You are special and worth it. You can do it!

Answer 6

There is a big difference between , hating yourself , and DISLIKING yourself .Identify which of the two , and work on changing your ways , but not yourslef , cause otherwise you wouldnt be who you are.Take some time alone , here on the internet there are quite a lot help to find help.

Answer 7

Do this and You'll Love yourself:

Create Your Relationship with Our Creator
and have UnConditional Love and Peace in Your Life.
Universal Truth is the only source for Humanity.

Start your journey back home, to Heaven.

Answer 8

hmmm, you do NOT fail at everything. you haven't mis-spelled a single word in your post. That says alot in here hon, where about half seem unable to spell correctly to save their lives.
what is wrong with you? you have a terrible self image.....and you would likely benefit from seeing a therapist about that.

Answer 9

If you keep having that thought about yourself, you will keep on failing. You shoud see a doctor immediately.

Answer 10

It sounds like you have clinical depression. You should see a doctor and get help!