He's a nice guy in general...but the way he speaks to me is condescending and rude. If he's walking by and I call out to him to ask a question, he'll just keep walking...even while he's answering. And the majority of his requests sound like "You are going to do...", "I want you to..." ect....rarely a 'please' or 'thank you'. If I send him a message via IM, I will not get a response...It's as if he can't be bothered. I am getting fed up with being spoken to in such a rude unprofessional manner. Do I confront the boss?? Or look for another job??
2007-09-19 05:19:08 · 14 answers · asked by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't bother him with petty things...I can handle quite a bit on my own. But some situations require his approval, and I don't see why I can't get a little eye contact! And requests and demands are different things....he doesn't ask me to do things for him...he tells me to, like an overbearing father. It makes my blood boil.
2007-09-19 05:31:17 · update #1
I've worked for some assholes before...I know how good I have it. It's the way he treats me....like the **** on the bottom of his shoe...his tone, his demeanor. I work hard. I don't deserve it.
2007-09-19 05:41:47 · update #2
I work in a professional environment...it's HUMILIATING to be brushed off like that in front of clients.
2007-09-19 05:47:08 · update #3
Hi Rachel,
How long has he been there? Is it a high stress environment? Sounds like he doesn't like his job too much either.
Email him from now on, and save the emails. CC any other people whom the message might affect. If you have to resend it for lack of a reply, forward it with a "don't know if you received this yet?" and cc the others again.
And if you really have to, cc his boss if he still doesn't get it.
In the meantime, keep your radar tuned in to other job opportunities -- you want to be a step ahead.
Good luck!
2007-09-19 07:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm I've also had a few mean bosses...... the first one: I just ignored her and was also very distant towards her, but then I said something mean about her (behind her back, of course) and someone told her...... no need to say I was fired the minute after LOL...... which I was HAPPY for because I wouldn't have taken her rudeness for a lot longer.
The second one was a man: he was really mean to EVERYONE at the office, regardless of their position or the little/large interaction he had with them. He used to yell at me over the phone and even hung up on me once. I couldn't tolerate such behavior so I had a civil conversation with him and told him that I expected some respect because I never talked to him rudely or did mean things to him. He would quit for a while and then he'd be mean again. So I finally told him that neither of us was happy working together so I'd better quit...... and he asked me to stay and promised he'd make an effort to be kinder. And in fact he did...... I worked with him almost 2 years and at the end I was almost crying when I left that job because I knew I'd miss him....!!! And he said he'd miss me too. We became good pals after all. So I think that might be the solution for you: go talk to him and tell him how you feel, because nobody deserves working in such a hostile environment and I'm sure no one likes it. If he doesn't change..... then I do think you'll have to find another job. I was ready to do that if my ex boss didn't change his manners towards me. We'll see how much your boss appreciates your work..... if he does, he'll make an effort not to upset you. Good luck!
2007-09-19 05:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lprod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I too have a jerk boss! She's just a couple of years older than me and yet she tries to act like I'm so young, she'll use examples like "oh your too young to remember that" And she is not very professional either she gets an average of 3 personal phone calls a day and if we have a question we'll call her name but if she's on a personal call she'll pretend she didn't hear us so were starring at her for 5 minuets waiting for a response! She leaves during the day to get a message or go shopping and she has basically the same rules as us! Its freaking ridiculous, and when she sees we need help in the back she'll wait until the rush is over then say "Oh do you guys need help?" while the whole times she's at her desk reading court TV!!!
~ oh I'm sorry what was the question again dear?
2007-09-19 05:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by ▒Bella▒ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I will say if that's the worst of his behavior, you have it pretty good. There are bosses out there that are directly humiliating and mean to people. There are bosses who bully.
If a boss says, "I want you to..." -- that's not "rude" or "condescending." He's your boss, and he wants you to do something. Just say, "Yes, o.k." and do it.
If his tone is really that bad, you can decide to ask him about it. I wouldn't "confront him." I would just ask him. One time, when he is not busy, and you have a moment alone, I would ask him if you could talk to him for a second about a work issue. Then I would say, sometimes I get the feeling that you are being condescending to me or that you are upset with me. Am I doing something wrong in my work? I like it here, so I hope I am not conveying a bad attitude in any way, am I?
See what he says. He probably doesn't recognize that he's being condescending.
2007-09-19 07:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the worst thing you have to deal with at work is a boss who doesn't say please and thank your or who doesn't STOP to talk to you......you have it better than a lot of us!
At least your boss doesn't yell at you. At least you don't have TWO bosses who can't agree on the way things should be done!
If it really bothers you, speak to your boss about it. If he's walking by and you are asking a question, you could be interrupting him while he is on his way to do something and HE may not appreciate the interruption. Your boss shouldn't HAVE TO say please and thank you to get you to do your job. Yes, it would be nice and polite of him, but it is not required since he is paying you to do those things!
Remember, no one likes everything about their job. Before you leave this job, consider how much worse things could be at your next job.
good luck
2007-09-19 05:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford to, look for another job. But just remember...the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Unfortunately there are too many bosses out there who have no clue how to act human to their staff so either put up with it or get the hell out of there and when you have the chance tell him what a wiener he is!!
2007-09-19 07:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Miss Keir 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's uneducated and lacking in managerial skills but that's common these days. Since most people who are in management at companies are there due to a friendship or kinship with someone higher up at the company.
Leave honey, just get another job, eventually they will figure it out and your problems with this guy are just beginning, trust me. The sexual harrassment will be coming soon enough. ;-)
2007-09-19 05:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by bettercockster7 c 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is that way to everyone, don't take it personally. Some bosses are very busy and treat everything (and everyone) quick and fast because there is so much to do.
However, if he is that way only to you, then ask him or a co-worker why that may be.
2007-09-19 05:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by bikerchickjill 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sadly this man is an evil troll who thinks demeaning people gets things done. i suggest possibly speaking to him but he seems advert to change. i think u should start seeking other employment when u secure a job put in your two weeks and move on from this jerk. u can do better and deserve better.
2007-09-19 06:08:07 · answer #9 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, this a part of life, love it or hate it. Your going to meet these kinds of people every where. But always remember that you have your freedom, and i, personally would not tolerate being treated like that, i would get a new job. But it depends on what works best for you.
2007-09-19 05:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by zoe_yay 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋