I wish I was dead?

Question

I'm still living with my parents I'm only a teenager, I have so much work and I try so hard but I still don't think I am acheiving my parents expectations, I'm top set for everything and always do homework and extra activities, but my parents make me so stressed and don't realise how hard I am trying, I feel really low, tired and depressed and just wish I wasn't here, x

Thank you so much everyone you're all lovely, x

Answer 1

your are not alone if u ever need sommeone to talk to dont worry i am hear at [e-mail] or im me but dont feel low just think happy thoughts perents mean only the best for u if u need some help email me and i might be able to help u if u like

Answer 2

Please do not feel like that life sometimes gets on top of everyone.
You are working very hard, you are top of your set, you do all your homework and extra activities if you were my child I would be so proud of you for doing all that.
Why do your parents make you feel so stressed?
My daughter doing A level and is a top student,she sets herself time table of study time and free time for herslef pinned up so I know what she is doing but also know when she is studying so not to interupts as we moms do!
Try and make a timetable and put it up in kitchen so they can visual see what you are doing and when sometimes visual works well rather than saying and more important they can then see how much you are actually doing. It may help you also work out time for yourself so you are not so stressed and can relax a little.
I think you will find a timetable for home really usefull and also is there anyway you can talk to if not your parents but a school mentor or another adult to tell them how you feel. It is important you tell someone how you are feeling coming on here is a start and I hope you get lots of good advise.

Answer 3

Since you are on the computer anyway, type out a list in detail of all the things you have to do in a day including eating and sleeping. Tape it in the kitchen where your parents can see and once you accomplish say eating cross it off your list. Try it for a week. Show it to your parents then tell them what you would like to change. Maybe you would like an hour of game night with your folks to relax, or movie night or some activity that includes them. Why? So you can connect with them better and vice versa so next time you have hardship you will feel comfortable telling them.
P.S.
I am happy for you in your school work now all you have to do is be happy in your day to day life.
Take care.

Answer 4

Honey, this won't last forever. You sound like the classic over achiever and you need to stress down before you get any further into depression. I think you should let your parents read this question you have posted so that they realize this is very "real" to you. If my daughter posted this question and I realized that she went to this extent for help I would certainly view it as a wake up call. More importantly if you really feel this way call out for help. A crisis hotline, a family friend or relative, member of your church ANYONE! Life is so beautiful beyond your teenage years and soon it will be "your" life and not theirs and you can be who you want to be instead of being the mold they have tried to put you in. I don't think your parents realize what they are creating here, give them a chance to know what is really going on and maybe this will all change for you.

Answer 5

Of course your still living with your parents if your a teenage at school or college , but cope with it, do make time for your self for pleasure, make sure THEY know how hard and good you are, but growing up is hard, I am a lot older than you and I get this from my work place. You don't wish to be dead but things to be different, they change as things progress, you will go to college, university or into the real working world, the future is there for the taking, do not give up because you will make a fine individual who can with stand a lot of the pit falls in the near future, growing up is hard but you do leave home when your ready and with a good background and education behind you the world is your oyster, just wait patiently and try not to rebel.

Answer 6

You are doing all the right things...sometimes parents don't realize how much pressure they are putting on their children. They think they are doing what's best. Get out and get some fresh air, take a bit of a break, relax a bit. Then either sit them down in a casual setting and share some of your feelings (as not to overwhelm them) see what kind of feedback you get from them. Open the door of communication and see what developes. However, if you are not comfortable with talking with them in a casual setting, you could write them a letter. Remember to use "I" sentences. "I feel this or that" rather than "You make me feel this or that". Make sense? I really appreciate when my children are open and honest with me, rather than having to deal with frustrations all alone, that I may have caused without realizing it. Ending your life is a permeate solution to a temporary problem.....

Answer 7

I am a parent and i know the pressure we put on our children to do well, we all want our children to have a good life and standard of living so that is why many of us act the way we do !.
But i would rather my children talk to me and talk about any problems and stresses they may have and I'm sure your parents are the same ?.
Talk to them, tell them what you've told us, as bottling up your feelings is not good for you !!.
You've taken the first step by saying it on here, now just tell your parents too and you'll feel better.
All the best :-)

Answer 8

Your life has just begun -- and it won't end at the home of your parents. Think about it this way: Right now you are alive. Death lasts for a long, long time. Yes, you will undoubtedly "make them sorry" because I'm sure they love you and they would feel the guilt of your suicide until the dates of their own deaths. Hang around. Someday you will be married and have kids that your parents are going to dote on. I know! Good luck.

Answer 9

I'm feeling the same way, except i'm not as clever with you.

Talking to your parents may not solve the problem, i've tried. Set goals for yourself in life and be independent because your parents may not like what YOU want to do and there is no point pressurizing you. Just make them happy and do what you do, get good grades and prove to them who you are. And then you can go and do whatever you want to out there in the big wide world.

that what im going to try and do :]

Answer 10

well, the first thing you might consider -- start doing things for YOU.... your achievements should be for YOU, not your parents... set goals for YOU.... do extra activities because YOU want to.

if you are having such difficulties with your parents, why not approach the school counslor and set up some meetings.. sometimes we need a NEUTRAL party to LISTEN to us and give us good direction and advice.. you can take what you need from the counselor, and leave the rest.

and perhaps the counselor can give you good ideas about how to approach your parents with this issue... or you can all get together with the counselor to address the problem.

working for YOURSELF and taking care of YOU is the general idea. just because your parents want something, doesn't mean you do.

do your best, and take care.

Answer 11

i was an under achiever at school so think yourself lucky that your smart enough to get the qualifications to be an achiever... talk to your parents and tell them how they make you feel, this feeling wont last forever and look to the future as im sure with your academic abillities you will go far in this world!! but do tell your parents how you feel and point out the fact that you cant possibly achieve any more than what you do and your best effort should be good enough for them whether its a good or bad result!!!