I just recently got back with a guy I date back when I was in high school (7 years ago) I am absolutely loving it and he says he is too. It takes alot for me to be with someone, and now that I'm with him I just worry that I will lose him even though he says he wants to be with me and that he really likes me. I kind of worry if I don't hear from him even when he says he'll call. Sometimes it may be that he's busy, but sometimes I wonder. I know he really likes me but I can't get these thoughts to stop.
What is your advice?
2007-09-19 04:58:46 · 39 answers · asked by redblippygirl23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it's really up to you to decide. It seems to me like you may be a little paranoid. If he doesn't call he's probably just forgotten. Don't get me wrong, he should call if he says he will but don't make such a huge thing out of something that could otherwise be insignificant. If he is happy with you and you are happy with him then enjoy it. You will only drive him away if you get paranoid from your fear of losing him; nobody likes being in a relationship with a person that they constantly have to reassure.
Wish you all the best in your relationship, and just relax a little :D
2007-09-19 05:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ever think that he might be thinking the EXACT same thing that you are thinking?
The first question you need to ask yourself is why you decided to try dating this guy again -- why was it not worth pursuing the first time around? It takes a lot to get back together with someone after time off. You remember how things were, but know now that there's been seven years of changes that you've both gone through. As a guy who's gone through this, I know that you've got to be real careful how you approach this. So if there was a problem or something that drove you guys apart the first time, make sure it's something that the two of you can deal with now.
I have no doubt that he likes you. Neither you nor he would go through the trouble of this new round of dating unless you liked what you had and wanted to have the same good feelings all over again. But I think he's hesitant to commit either because a) he has had dating problems over the past seven years, b) he fears losing the freedom of being single, or c) both.
Give it time. Don't expect everything out of him tomorrow. Use your best judgment about where you've been with him, what he wants out of life, and whether you fit into his game plan at this point. I hope everything works out for you.
2007-09-19 05:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by NormJunior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some name it paranoid,I name it being cautious. The guy subsequent door has made me think paranoid now and then, for the reason that I submit along with his noise simply see you later after which I name the police. Before I can grasp up the mobilephone, the neighbor stops making noise and drives away. This has occurred so frequently I've come to consider that he both has a faucet on my mobilephone or he has a buddy within the PD. That's approximately it. Keeping my handbag almost my frame while I'm external is extra warning than paranoia.
2016-09-05 19:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remind yourself of all your good qualities and what you are bringing to the relationship. It is really easy to start worrying and second guessing everything. Also, don't let your life revolve only around this new relationship. Continue doing what you love to do like going out with girlfriends occasionally, hobbies, sports, etc. There is nothing more annoying (to men or women) than a person who cannot define themselves outside of their love life. Enjoy each other but don't lose yourself, basically.
As far as the phone calling, does he do that all the time? Says he'll call and never does? That deserves a slap on the wrist.
Good luck and have fun!
2007-09-19 05:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by ga.peach67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree -- you sound very insecure. You need to find a way to get over that. Sometimes counseling helps....I know what you are feeling must hurt you inside. Find other avenues also that keep YOU busy. You are not on this earth to just be with someone. You are a human being also and you deserve to be happy. This can not be making you happy. Live life a day at a time and enjoy every moment --- NOT JUST with him. And remember -- NEVER MAKE ANYONE YOUR EVERYTHING ---- BECAUSE IF YOU LOSE THEM, YOU HAVE NOTHING. If you are this insecure in the relationship, you could lose him.
2007-09-19 05:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you are about 25 based on 7 years since HS.
25 year old guys like to hang out with other guys and while he may in fact love you, He may not be ready to commit full time.
Give him some space and some time to grow up. Men are still a bit immature at 25. We start to settle down around 28 or so.
2007-09-19 05:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shows that you're loving him every bit of every second.. Its nice for a while but if ya continue with this and really get paranoid and exhibit this to him, then double than 7 years..or triple it. Lose the worries or risk losing him, dont think too much about him.. everyone has a life that includes the both of you.. Its obvious that you fear of losing this 2-good-2-b-true thing. Gone be your worries...good luck
2007-09-19 05:19:35 · answer #7 · answered by wallace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well worrying is just gonna stress you out. take it easy on your emotions as well don't let yourself get to attached just in case anything might happen that you may dislike. If he says he is busy believe him but if you want him to keep coming around then don't give in that's if your sleeping with him. Don't ask to many personal questions he will think your smothering him and that will make him stay away. Just have fun when you go out or see him. talk about the future not the past about things you like in life or what your goals are. Ask him what he likes to do and get together and do it. you'll be okay.
2007-09-19 05:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are loving your relationship and he is too then just have fun! Don't worry so much. If you take a laid back approach and try not to stress out over every missed call you will both be happier with your relationship and the future of your relationship will improve. Try to think, "if I stress out and think irrational thoughts, I am going to act irrational and jealous and possibly screw up something good".
Good Luck =)
2007-09-19 05:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by Mindy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn from the power of suggestion. Try something simple that may help you clear your mind of negative thoughts. Every morning when you wake up, tell yourself the good things that he's done and why your' happy and with him. Always remember the mind is very powerful and that the things we think about can control our actions so start it right. Has he even done anything to make you doubt him? If not then relax and have faith in yourself, your abilities and in him.
2007-09-26 21:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Jessie7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋