my son is 2 1/2 and he don't want to sleep in his own room he comes in my room everynight and say he want to cuddle with me. i keep putting him back to bed he just gets up and come back in my room . Ive tried to put his sister in the same room but he still does it. how do i stop him from coming in my room at night and just go to bed in his own room.
2007-09-19 04:39:18 · 21 answers · asked by jessica c 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i let him come in for 10 min and we do cuddle but after that he needs to go to bed and be a big boy.
2007-09-19 04:47:24 · update #1
be firm and let him know its time he slept alone
2007-09-19 04:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's sure is nice cuddling with a 2 year old but the problem is that once he comes in - it will be hard to convince him to sleep in his own bed at all. My scary cat 9 year old still comes in in the middle of the night. I don;t see it stopping anytimes soon. (I guess college!) What I do to have her sleep in her bed at least in the beginning is surround her with her stuffed animals, webkins whatever. She loves them so she doesn't want to 'disturb' them by getting up. So she will sleep in her bed til about 3 or 4 am. It;s a start anyway.
Good luck!
2007-09-19 04:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by Ernie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son did the same thing! I kept a stash of Curious George fruit snacks (his fav) in my bedroom and told him that for every night that he stays in his bed all night long "like a big boy" he could come in my bed when he wakes up and "snuffle" (snuggle) with me while he eats his fruitsnack. But he can't have one if he comes in during the night. Granted I'd have to take him back to his bed once or twice during the night, but I'd make sure to wake him up so he knew he was doing it... I think he was subconciously doing it in his sleep. It took abotu 2 weeks and about 3 boxes of fruit snacks... but he stays in his own bed now. Unless, of course, he has a bad dream... Good luck!
2007-09-19 04:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sugar 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe try to cuddle him in his own room as you're putting him down for the night. crawl in bed and cuddle him for 10 minutes or so and then, as you get up to go, say you'll come back and give him another hug in his sleep before you go to bed.
of course, i love the big family bed and don't really see a problem with cuddling my children all night if that's what they need. my 16 year-old daughter still wants to snuggle with mommy & daddy every now and then.
2007-09-19 05:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by lilitheden 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Bring his bed into your room. He may stay in it but if not, wait till he falls asleep and move him. This way if he wakes up he will still be near mom and should go back to sleep.
Once you get him used to this, try putting his bed back in his own room.
You may also want to try this whole thing in his room from the start. Although I would just set up a an inflatable mattress for you. In fact this way it may take even less time if you want to sacrifice. Those matresses are very comfortable though.
2007-09-19 04:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by m_c_m_a_n 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Did he just start doing this? If so, he may be having "bad" dreams. If this has always been going on, you need to "re-train" him. Obviously, his sister isn't the one he feels the need to be cuddled by. My youngest son used to love the time I set aside just to hold him close to me. He called it "holdie" time. During the day whenever he wanted holdie time I would stop all I was doing to do this. It only took a few minutes and he learned that whenever he needed me I had the time for him.I had 4 other children and this worked for him.
2007-09-19 04:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by jmhwme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem and my son is 3 1/2 now. He will go to sleep in his own room and ends up in my bed by morning. I just wait until he goes to sleep now and then I use a babygate to keep him in his room. That way if he wakes up he will just yell for me and it is easier to put him back to bed, because he never makes it to my room.
2007-09-19 04:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by ldysam1 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Does he have a safty item like a stuffed animal or a blankie? Make sure he has something like this to cuddle with. And maybe try a night light.
2007-09-19 07:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by PragerGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm and consistent, do you really want a kid in bed with you? It only gets harder to break this habit as they get older. I went through this phase with both my kids, I would not let them in my husbands and my bed, but to compromise I would let them pick one night a week they could "camp" in a sleeping bag on the floor of our room.
2007-09-19 04:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone goes through this at one point or another. When he gets up the first time, just gently remind him that it's bedtime and lead him back to his bed. Subsequent times, don't even speak, just lead him to his bed. Depending on how stubborn your son is, it should only take from one night to one week. You just have to be consistent.
2007-09-19 04:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, when he goes to sleep by you, put him back in his bed, and when he wakes up, explain to him that it wasn't so bad for him to sleep alone. You might need to do it several times though, after a while, he might understand that going to sleep alone is no big deal
2007-09-19 04:49:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋