I am about to say it is going to cost $80 a person, I can't afford for four of your friends to come.
2007-09-19 04:03:04 · 38 answers · asked by Kelsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That is so rude. They should not have asked. It's your wedding, invite who you want.
If you want them to understand how rude they have been you can say 'sure they can come but you can pay for the extra meals, that $80 per head'. Watch them decide that it isn't that important if their friends are there.
Just thinking, tell them it is $100 per head and make a profit! lol
2007-09-19 04:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They just want everyone to see them and you dressed up so pretty. But it's a wedding, not a party! (Well, sort of a party too if you think about it..)
#1: It's YOUR wedding, invite who you want to.
#2: Make sure they know how much this is costing you and that you only have enough room for so many people and they're lucky to be included. But be nice when you say it!
#3: Tell them they can all throw a party after the wedding (or when you get back from your honeymoon) that all their friends can come to, but that it won't be paid out of your pocket. Again, tact is a good thing...
2007-09-19 04:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by misshiccups 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They would be honored to be part of your bridal party. If they have a partner, then I would see the logic in asking but if it's not somebody you care for or know, then that is disrepectful to ask. You need to be upfront with them and simply explain that you can't afford more than those already invited. Are they willing to fork out the $80 for that friend? Probably not! Besides, most churches or reception halls have a limit of how many people you are allowed to invite. Put your foot down girl!
2007-09-19 04:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by nbt95337 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, typically you invite each individual and their significant other. If they don't have a significant other, you generally invite the person "and guest" so they can bring a date. You do not HAVE to invite people with a guest, but it is nice since a lot of people are uncomfortable attending weddings alone.
If your bridal party is asking for people beyond their one "and guest" then you're perfectly right in telling them to bug off. Explain that it's very costly and you have limited space and funding. Unfortunately, you just can't invite everyone.
2007-09-19 04:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell them no. If you're generous enough to do an "and guest", then tell them to pick one. Lots of people have no idea how expensive a wedding is and don't realize that asking to bring four friends will cost you $320. If six members of the wedding party did this, it would cost you nearly $2000. If you do for one, you have to do for all, so don't go down that road. They also don't think about space. Your reception venue can hold only so many people, even if you were willing to pay to entertain your friends' friends. I would simply tell them that due to cost and space considerations, you can't add guests who are not on the original guest list.
2007-09-19 04:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of a bridal party asking can their friends come. If you mean to the wedding they should be able to bring a guest with them but not all 19 of their friends. Are you friends with their friends? Do you even know these people who you will be paying $80 a plate for? NOOOO that is just unacceptable. Tell them no.
2007-09-19 04:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Issuing an extra invitation to one person of each attendent's choice should be adequate. Serving as a attendent of bride or groom doesn't entitle one to entertain 4 guests of ones own to a champagne supper and dancing at your hosts' expense. A wedding is for people that the bride, groom, or their parents actually know and care about.
However, if your attendents have gone to a great deal of expense and trouble on your behalf, hosting showers and staggette parties, running errands, buying clothing and accessories they may never use again -- then you may want to be a bit more openhanded where your own purse is concerned. Or, if your hall can accomodate the extra people, offer to include 2nd & 3rd "extra" people is the attendant is willing to cover the extra expense.
2007-09-19 04:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding you make the call. You invite who you want not because your bridal party wants to invite their own people. You have a budget, so they should understand.
2007-09-22 19:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're wrong and that's rude. Aside from the bridal party expecting spouses or serious boyfriends or girlfriends to be invited, they are being unreasonable. They are supposed to be there to help you and the groom, not create issues or cost you money.
2007-09-19 05:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by barelyblue82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Cause they're confused. It's not a random party, it's a wedding.
Being part of a bridal party is a responsibility and it may mean that they don't get to hang out with people of their own choosing for one day.
Thank them for the suggestion and don't invite THEIR friends.
2007-09-19 06:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋