So my girlfriend of 2 years took an internship in Florida (we are in the New York area so obviously long distance which it has been off and on but nothing like this) for 5 months. Mainly to figure herself out and school. Anyways she's very affectionate and loving but literally soon as she got down there I began to feel shut out (pretty much no affection at all). Thus we went on a break whiles she's down there (mainly her idea). Now we've had a few discussions where i could tell she really misses me deep down but she doesn't know why she's pushed me away and not been affectionate. Now she says she's met a guy down there she thinks she sorta likes but I shouldn't worry because everything down there is temporary and doesn't matter and that I'm the one she really wants to be with and loves. She says he doesn't compare to me.
Anyways I can't help but feel like a safety up here. I'm not even remotely interested in looking for anything temporary. But how could she? How do I deal with this?
2007-09-19 03:52:08 · 8 answers · asked by M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess those are some good points. I just don't understand why everything changed so fast. Even before this other guy was in the picture. And to me she is worth it and I'm inclined to put up with it. But that just pretty makes me a push over and I'm afraid that'll just cause more problems later on.
2007-09-20 05:37:03 · update #1
your being a p*ssy and that's going to get you trod on!
women like real men not wimps
don't take this c*ap from anyone
or at least make sure she video's it for you!
2007-09-25 23:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if she truely cared about u like she says she does than even thinking about seing another guy is out of the question. She is playing you! She is trying to see what all she can get away with! Every woman plays that game! I have been through that before! If you let her run over you then she will do it all the time. Let her know that you want to be the only man in her life and if she can't accept that then u are better of leaving her. Don't let her make the choice! Make it for her. If she really loves you than she will let that other guy go and she will come back to you and if she doesn't than she really doesn't honestly love you. Don't let it get to far are you will just end up hurting more in the longrun. Good luck!
2007-09-27 10:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by bug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible to like or even love more than one person. If you want to be #1 in her life, do things that help get you there. Think about it, you're just a boyfriend and she's still sorta available to other guys who have the opportunity to show her what they have to offer. If you're willing to play her game, you'll have to step up and prove that you're the best man. If you're not willing to play that game, get out of it and move on. Either she's worth it or she's not.
2007-09-19 11:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can tell she doesn't love u that much. if she really loves u she wouldn't push u around and there's a threat u know it. that guy may probably end up getting her and trust yourself and see what's going on later the best is not to commit too deep to this relationship but still keep an eye on her sometimes or try to ask her.
2007-09-27 10:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Victor N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do yourself a favor and break off completely with her. she is toying with your heart and emotions.if she is sort of going out with someone else at the moment then she obviously does not and will not have the same feelings for you as you do for her. the sooner you get over her the better off you will be, you need someone in your life you will not have to worry about or question
2007-09-27 10:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is more/less telling you that she wants to keep you for when she gets back, but she is going to be seeing this guy while she is there. I would NOT put up with that crap. IF she loves you, she wouldn't even be looking at other men to see.
2007-09-19 10:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by Paula D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro, let me tell you this........ Love is not a noun , but a verb.
It is feels good inside but it's better given to another person.
And since you 2 are so far away, how would you expect to show her love to you?
2007-09-27 10:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ernest H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never be second best.
2007-09-19 10:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Spokie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋