Is it okay to have two showers?

Question

Invitations have already been mailed for my bridal shower. One of my bridesmaids is now offering to host another shower for me. I'd love to have a lingerie shower, but I invited almost all my female friends to the bridal shower. Is it wrong to have a lingerie shower in addition to the bridal shower and invite some of the same women to both? Would it be appropriate to indicate that a gift is not necessary at the lingerie shower?

Answer 1

Oh honey - don't even worry 2 more seconds about this. There are some brides who have 5 bridal showers!!!! I had 3 myself! I had 1 where I live that included people (like co-workers) who weren't going to be able to attend the wedding. I had 1 in the town where I was getting married (& also where the groom & I have lots of family). And my friends threw me a bachelorette weekend that included a lingerie shower because let's face it....the only people you want seeing you open naughty lingerie are your closest girlfriends! MOST brides have more than 1 shower so don't worry.

Answer 2

I'm having a few showers myself, one is a funny ha ha lingerie showers, where for some reason my bridesmaid has decided to make it "gag gifts only" so I can only imagine what fun lovelies I'll be getting from that. I didn't want any gifts from that either and I don't think it's inappropriate to indicate it either, but if some gets you a gift anyways, obviously accept it graciously and remember to send a thank you note.

I'm also having a normal bridal showers for close friends and family, and also some of the people at work have taken to throwing me a mini shower during lunch as well.

Answer 3

I think it is fine to have two showers, but I think that for the second one, you have to indicate that small, inexpensive gifts are expected.
An example of such a shower would be a recipe shower where each guest is asked to bring a recipe, an ingredient, and a utensil used in making the recipe.
I'm not sure how you could have a lingerie shower where the gifts were inexpensive.
And no, I don't think that you can indicate that a gift is not necessary. I think that people would feel embarrassed coming to a shower without a gift. That's the point of a shower.

Answer 4

I had two showers, one was given by my sister, who was my maid of honor and my bridesmaids, and the other was given by my future sister-in-law. Some people were invited to both showers, they people that were invited to both only gave one gift. I wouldn't put anything on the invitations about a gift, I think if people want to give two they can if not, they won't, I would let the person throwing the shower worry about that stuff, that isn't something you should worry about as the bride. Everyone knows that the bride doesn't have anything to do with sending out the invitations and the wording.

Answer 5

Two showers are acceptable. I know people who have had more than that especially if you come from a big family. Then, sometimes, you might have a shower with the girls at work.Or, your friends, so the ideas are unlimited. Invite whoever you want. I am sure some of the same people would love to come. It is appropriate to request no gifts, but highly unlikely they will listen. Congratulations!

Answer 6

Usually, the "personal" shower is given by the bridesmaids for the bride.. However, if you feel that you want to invite people you've already invited to the regular shower you can. Have it maybe be a "personal" shower show type event where the guest can also buy lingerie for themselves INSTEAD of just buying a gift for you might make it more appealing. Have "fun" shaped finger foods and make it a girls night. Good luck

Answer 7

Yes its ok, a bridal shower and lingerie shower are two different things and as long as you say a gift is not necessary they will not feel like they are pressured to buy another gift. And the lingerie shower is all fun and games. Congrats, have fun.

Answer 8

Since you are not having the showers for yourself, it is fine to have as many as people want to host for you.

You won't look greedy since it is your bridesmaid inviting everyone for the lingerie shower, not you.

Those who have been invited to both will then just give as much as they can at the second shower, or possibly share the cost of a gift.

I would get the invites out quickly so that those who are invited to both can plan their spending amounts in advance.

Congrats on your engagement, as well!

Answer 9

Having multiple showers is OK sometimes. For instance, your co-workers might have one shower for you, and your neighbors have another. It is when the same people are invited to several showers that the trouble begins.

A shower, by definition, requires each attendee to bring some sort of gift. The only way to graciously "double dip" and have the same guest attend a second shower is to secretly provide her with the gift she is to bring, and probably gift wrap it for her as well. Even so, such a guest is likely to weary of attending so many parties in your honor.

I think the most correct thing to do would be to tell your bridesmaid that you are grateful for the thought but would feel uncomfortable with a second shower.

Answer 10

Sure, My sister-in-law had a Pleasure Party, where a consultant came to the house and did a show, the way it worked was you go in the room and place your order for the stuff you want and then you can put X amount of money towards what the bride wants, you can do $5 or $20 whatever you want, and then bride doesn't know who put what towards her items or her chose. It was so much fun.
They have parties just for lingerie also. Not sure what you have planned for your bachelorette party but you could add this to the beginning of the night around 6pm and then save the club or bar hoping for later in the night around 10pm.