I am 24 and have been self-consious ever since I had my little boy 8 years ago.
Self Consious about how much my body changed and my breasts, my stretch marks.. You name it.
I feel like I am pushing my boyfriend away cause I don't want him to see me naked or etc...
He tells me to get over it, and he loves my body.
I except this but I just feel like I can't come out of my 8 year shell that I have been in. Would it be better to talk to somebody about this.?. I have been crying every night.
2007-09-19 03:34:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yes it would probably better to talk to a therapist about this. You sound so depressed about how you feel about the way you look. Sometimes, I feel the same way about myself too. Hope all goes well. Take care.
2007-09-19 03:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by Meemaw's Pride & Joy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this.
Yes, I do think you might benefit from some cognitive therapy. It sounds like you may be really depressed based on what you said about crying every night.
One thing that might help you is to remember why your body has changed...I know your son was worth it. I am not saying you are unappreciative or anything. This is an everyday reminder of the great little person you brought into this world. I too have stretch marks and my breasts sag, lol...you name it, I've got it. It doesn't bother me that much because I have accepted the fact that this goes along with motherhood.
I would say that you need to do whatever it takes for you to feel good about yourself( that is not too expensive) and then try to let it go. There comes a point where you simply have to accept "this is how it is" and I mean that with all due respect. I do understand where you are coming from, but your boyfriend loves your body. One of the most attactive things in a person is confidence. Good luck to you and hope this helps.
2007-09-19 10:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be a good idea to speak with a psychologist or (if you can't afford it or feel uncomfortable about going to a professional) an older woman whom you trust and who has maybe been through the same struggle. There's no shame at all in speaking with someone and it doesn't mean that you're "crazy" or anything like that. Sometimes we all just need to be able to vent our issues.
Every woman feels ugly or self-conscious about her body at least some of the time, but if you are crying yourself to sleep every night, you're clearly not living the happy life that you deserve!
2007-09-19 10:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin Sofia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would joining a fitness center or gym help? Even if you are thin, getting toned up and fit could help you feel more confident, and remove your focus from the stretch marks. If your BF is happy, listen to him! 8 years is a long time to be unhappy, and you have 2 people who love you (your son and BF), so trying to gain some confidence would be really good for them too.
2007-09-19 10:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hai friend....
first of all you accept your problem & decide to overcome that problem.
live in present. forgot past things. enjoy every moment.
do meditation & relax your mind. give yourself self-suggetions
all the best to relieve your probs
http://indiahb.com/beautytips_healthtips/meditation/meditation_techniques.php
2007-09-19 10:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by vivekje 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋