How do I get my children to sleep in their room along without me laying next to them?

Answer 1

you don't. children need to learn to fall asleep on their own. If you begin laying with them while they are trying to fall asleep they will expect it to always happen.

Answer 2

Oh God my heart is aching remembering those days. I spent 21/2 years with my daughter, reading, singing and sneaking out when she was asleep only to have her wake a few hours later to start over.
Relax it does get better but it takes a lot of time and perserverance. I couldnt do the controlled crying thing but I did get a book which helped a lot. It recommended putting child to bed with formal routine every night, eg relaxing time, pjs, story, teeth, bed, whatever suits you but the important thing is to stick to it rigidly. The second thing is to leave your child for 1 minute the first night, say I have to go to the loo, and come back . Sit apart from child then after 10 mins say you have to put on washing or whatever. Come back after 2 mins. Repeat this, always returning aftrer short time until child falls asleep alone in the bed! The next night do the same and each night thereafter. You can start to extend time out of the room as the child relaxes knowing you will come back. Do not give in and do not get back into that bed. She needs to learn to fall asleep alone and then if she wakes up later is less likely yo panic when you are not there. It worked for me after a month or so and I had tried everything including homeopathy and masssage. Best of luck and remember there is light at the end of the sleepless tunnel and you will not make the same mistake with any other children you have. We live and learn

Answer 3

Try reading them to sleep!

Young children need to feel protected and safe; keeping that in mind, keep reassuring them that you are right next door (or very close by), the door is open so you can hear everything "for them", they have a night light, etc.

My oldest daughter didn't want to sleep by herself and the reading really help take her mind off the situation. If they are calm when you start reading, they'll be asleep after a few pages. After awhile, start reading to them in the living room, den, or whatever you-all's favorite place may be, and then send them to bed.

Think up a process (different steps) that will work for both you and your children, both of you must be happy with the arrangement for it to work.

Answer 4

No matter how tired you are everytime they get out of their beds you put them back in. Don't give in because it will only get harder. Get them used to a favorite sleeping pal, a blanket or book to read to them before they fall asleep. Stick to a routine it will work but you cannot waiver. Your the mom, so be the mom and make them listen. It will work out God Bless!

Answer 5

well, my friend did this. lay in the bed tonight. tomorrow night sit in a chair next to the bed. then move the chair a few feet from the bed. then move the chair to the door. then move the chair out, turn on a night light and leave the door open. then the same but half shut the door. its up to you whether your kids leep in a room with the door shut. anyway, it takes a few nights but it worked for her. good luck.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Sometimes you just have to go "cold turkey"- put them to bed, tuck them in, kiss them good night, and leave them to cry. It's hard to do, but.... sometimes it's the best way to break the cycle.