I am a mom of a great one and a half year old son and my parents do foster care and are currently adopting a little boy who we have had since his birth. I always understood that his mom wanted a better life for him and I love my new brother but as a newer mom I still couldn't understand letting someone else raise my baby.... I am thankful to her because my parents have all girls and now they have a son. I also love the whole idea of adoption. But when you are a healthy young lady and you are financially set and you were married and have another kid would you give your 1st born up?
2007-09-19 02:23:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its just an opinion question.....
2007-09-19 02:33:15 · update #1
As a mother this too is difficult for me to understand. Thank God there are women out there that give their children up for adoption. My Mom was unable to have more children after I was born 50 years ago. My parents adopted my sister when I was six and she is my best friend and I don't know what I would of done without her in my life.
2007-09-19 04:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by proud grandma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone is meant to be a parent just because they can reproduce. My guess is that she knows that.
I know this is a hard thought for most people, but having children does not nessessary bring happiness and fulfillment to people. Some people just do a horrible job parenting because they just don't have it in them. Better to let someone who can do a better job raise a child that will just become a burden.
Congrats to your family!
2007-09-19 02:38:21 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all married people want to have children. I know I'm not having kids. Maybe she got pregnant by accident, and instead of an abortion she decided to give the baby up for adoption. That's what prolife people what you to do, right? Give them up for adoption?
2007-09-19 02:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming from someone who had to put her own kids up for addoption, it is a very hard topic see i was in an abusive relationship and the state stepped in it is the hardest thing for a mom to do and you could never know how much it hurts not being able to look your own children in the face every morningjust to tell them that you love them, but everbody has there own promblems to but like with me i had knowbody to watch out for me when i was 15 i had my first child, but it is people like your parent and yourself that give us hope that ower children are being raised in a loveing house hold, and dont ever feel bad for asking this question because i used to wonder the same thing until it happened to me.
2007-09-19 03:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a very personal decision, and one that no one else can make for you. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors (even sometimes when you know someone very well) maybe her relationship is abusive, whatever her reasoning is, isn't it wonderful that there are people like your parents who can give this little boy everything that he deserves?
2007-09-19 02:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of "if's" in the scenario you outlined. Your circumstances may differ considerably from that of other young mothers. Each person has to make their own decision, and live with the consequences, good or bad!
2007-09-19 02:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by cautious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that, when people give their children up for adoption, it's for the welfare of everyone involved -- the child, and the mother...
sometimes people are ill-equipped to care for a child -- money or not....
take care.
2007-09-19 02:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋