Did your parents love you unconditionally growing up? Do you love your children unconditionally?

Question

I would like to see how the parents out there view the love that they have for their children? And because we are all somebody's child- I would like to know what kind of love you grew up with and how do you feel it effected your life or your capacity to show love to your children or significant other or even reciprocate the love back to your parents. Please don't offer jokes and stupid remarks that are only going to waste the page. I would like to have only serious replies.

Answer 1

My mom loved me - I believe - as I was, unconditionally but she died when I was 12.
My dad did not show any kind of love. To him it only mattered that the children become successful like he was (both parents overachieving MDs). Studies were the most important thing.

So I grew up to be a "human doing" not a human being. Responsible for myself and independent. I could after all only count on myself at times of trouble. I always looked for positive feedback for my achievements. I was the super mom, great career in software, lots of worldly goods, athletic, and with 3 boats and motorcycles we were always on the go or traveling around the world. I could not sit still to read a book or just relax and enjoy a sunset.

When my only child was born I overindulged him, and showered him with love and affection. He is now pretty spoiled rotten, unmotivated, can't figure out what he wants to do with his life, likes to have fun but no work. Irresponsible, immature. So from one extreme to another. I was too busy, like my parents, to see what was really important. Now I feel terrible that I brought into this world another human being who is not well adjusted and fully prepared for anything that life throws at him. His personality is very timid and insecure due to lack of his own achievements and we did not push or require him to do any real work of any sort with a maid in the house. I thought I was making life easy for him but I was wrong. On the oher hand, I can handle just about anything because my life has been hard work and mentally painful.

So everything in moderation. As a parent, you have to give your kids chances to fail, let them get hurt, make them work, and make them feel unconditionally loved but also teach them to be responsible for what they do. I gave unconditional love but failed to do a good job with everything else.

Answer 2

Yes, my parents loved me unconditionally. Yes I love my children unconditionally.

Although times have changed i love my child as much. For example when I was a child my parents wanted me to be home by 6.30 pm in the evening and sit for study. Although, i tried to impose same rule on my children, it does not work, today the children have a different way of life. After seeing the internet and the boom in economy the behaviour of today's children is different. We have to accept the change of life between generations and let them live their life.

Answer 3

No I was not loved unconditionally as a child, I was physically, mentally, and sexually abused as a child.
I loved all of my children with a love so strong that it feels like my heart will explode with the love I feel for them.
I did my best as a mother and I made my mistakes too, I didn't have much of a role model. I never wanted the things that happened to me to happen to my children, I was to say the least over protective of all five of them.
I have taken on three more children, 2 going on 5 years after there mother died suddenly, and my nephew the day we brought him home from the hospital 11 years ago when my sister couldn't, I should say wouldn't take care of him, long, long story.
I will never understand why anyone wouldn't love a child. The minute I saw my first born I melted with such love, I couldn't hold back the tears of love and the joy I felt at having that beautiful little girl in my arms to love.
I can't believe why my mother and father did the things they did to there children,what a shame. So much pain to live with, all four of us had to deal with many issues for years and years. A very long healing process to say the least.
I wanted a real family and am blessed to have mine.
I have many wonderful memorys of raising my children, I will never stop loving them with all my heart. I pray that they love their children as I loved them... UNCONDITIONALLY... I love them and will to this day I still protect them with my life I love them so much!!!!

Answer 4

During my childhood I always wished for love from my parents but that was during the 1980s and things were a bit different back then. My parents never hugged me, saying I love you was never ever mentioned. It was not a physically abusive childhood but the mental scars will be with me forever. I grew up thinking that I was my step fathers daughter, my mom felt it was best that I didnt know who my real father was, big mistake! Long story short, my step father always treated me different then my siblings, he never spoke to me, it was cold, very cold, and my mom just stood by and let it all happen. Now I am a mom and let me tell ya what, not a day goes by that I dont tell my kids that they are loved and hugs are givin on a daily basis. I dont ever want for my kids what I went thru. It is not a healthy thing to relive my past and I try not to, but I dont think a person ever forgets their childhood, its also strange but for some reason the ugly memories stand out more so then the good ones?

Answer 5

My Mom loved me as well as she allowed herself too. My Dad always loved me in a more accepting way. I love my kids unconditionally in my opinion and theirs, however the meaning of that seems to be different to different people. I raised my kids to be responsible for themselves and to be honest above all else. Tough love has come into play as well. The love between my kids and myself has always been secured and dependable. As for my parents - my Mom can't accept any more than she gives and my Dad remains giving and getting freely. Funny thing is my significant other seemed limited in the long run, just as my Mom is, and we are no longer together. My next true love was also very similar in my Mom's way of loving. This relationship is not stable and we will never marry.

Answer 6

Yes. You are right. I would do anything for my daughter. However, I know in my heart that she would do anything for me. Why do they feel like they need to say this? It is a given for my daughter and me. However, she is still young. Teens will be the hardest for any child. It will suck. And I know she will resent me on a lot of things. However, I hope she will thank me when she grows up. We have an unconditional bond that will last forever. I would do anything for that kid -- even if it meant working three jobs and never sleeping just so that she was happy. And I don't have to tell her that. She just knows it. I think that eventually your parents and you will realize the same.

Answer 7

I love my kids with all my heart. I do at times wish my oldest would make better choices but that would never change the way i fell about him. Just because we dont see eye to eye on things doesnt mean i would change how much i love him EVER.
My Mom, i would say loves my sisters and I the same as i do for my kids.

Answer 8

My mom loved us unconditionally, and my "father" loved his golf game. Unfortunately, my mom died at a very young age of breast cancer.

I now have a wonderful daughter (adopted when she was 2 days old), and thankfully I am following in my mom's foosteps. She is loved more than I can ever imagine. My "father," on the other hand, is still a jerk. I guess when he gets older he won't have very many visitors in the nursing home.

Answer 9

My mom loved me unconditionally, but not my dad. Nothing could ever stop me from loving my own children unconditionally.

Answer 10

My mother loved my unconditionally...to this day, if I do something wrong, she blames someone else...my brother and I were her life,,,,I have been that way with my children,,,I love them like my air!!!