....and I'm at the end of my rope.
I have our son 4-5 days a week and he has him 2-3 days a week ("joint" custody), and he decided to stop giving him his medication without discussing it with me. He told our son he was out of pills, but I think he was just too damn lazy to call the pharmacy to reorder them.
Then he said that he doesn't need them because he hasn't seen any problems out of him - well duh - HE'S BEEN ON MEDICATION UP UNTIL NOW!!!
So now my son comes to my house, has not been on his meds, refuses to take them b/c his dad said he doesn't have to anymore, and begins the bipolar cycle again. He started the nasty attitude this morning so I'm on pins and needles and scared that we're in for another roller coaster ride.
What do I do? I need help calming down & collecting thoughts before I confront his father this afternoon.
2007-09-19 01:43:45 · 11 answers · asked by redslippers 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your husband is definitely in denial. You have the majority of the custody. What were the reasons for your separation or divorce? In any case, your son is in need of stability. Obviously your "ex" is very irresponsible. Do you want a clone of your "ex" living with you? Just think of the future. In no time, your son will be a teenager with raging hormones coupled with being bipolar. Keep your son on his meds. Put your foot down with him. Go back to family court if you can and ask for a modification for your child's medication and counseling for the father. As for the father, if he thinks you have too much power over your son in the discipline department, just answer him "you gave me the power by not being a man!"
2007-09-19 02:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by ms 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Withdrawing the child's medication without proper medical supervision is CHILD ABUSE!! Get back to your lawyer to have the courts review the Joint Custody. This man is not fit to be in charge of a dog, never mind a child with a mental disability! Get the child's doctor to order a review of his condition and prepare a medical report for the family court...and do it NOW! There is no time to lose in looing after your child's health and welfare.
2007-09-19 09:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by cautious 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't "confront" your ex with this. It will only make the situation more hostile, and may have a profound effect on your son. Contact the therapist who prescribed the med and tell him or her what is going on. Ask if he/she can help. That's just imo, but you don't need anymore stress because of that jerk, and a good way to show you can handle the situation is to stay calm.
2007-09-19 09:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have your son's doctor call your husband. Tell the doctor exactly what you said here and ask him/her to call your husband and explain the important of the medication and how interruptions can cause your son harm. Also call your lawyer and tell him/her what is going on, you may need a court order to protect your son.
This isn't just a matter of not giving your son his medication. If he has this diagnosis, your husband is endangering him no differently than if he let him play with a loaded gun.
2007-09-19 08:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've needed meds before and I know how much they can help if needed. It is very cruel of your x to do this. He may not realize how important this is, but you do. If you can't make him understand, then don't hesitate to talk to your lawyer and make him give your son his meds or else.
2007-09-19 08:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
how old is this kid? call your doctor and the law ( at least have it on file in case of an od.) if your giving him his meds. and he isnt then their could be a severe reaction over this .sounds like his dad is playing doctor & dont understand his condition or dont care. talk to his doctor and see if this isnt a form of child abuse/negelect.
2007-09-19 08:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by joes_mom86 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe his Dad knows about these drugs that almost never cure anyone.... Maybe he knows something everyone should know.. Bi-Polar drugs is nothing but an rat test.. I'd rather smoke pot.. Be careful what you wish for..
2007-09-19 09:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by MinnesotaRick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a court order
2007-09-19 09:10:58 · answer #8 · answered by 2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
call the doctor that prescribed the meds. tell them what is going on and have them talk with your ex.
2007-09-19 09:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husbands in denial regarding your son. The both of you should get counseling.
2007-09-19 08:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jerome M 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋