On friday I attemted suicide by taking 40 - 50 valium tablets, I was taken to hospital and I amazingly survived (I was taken out yesterday). I spoke to the support workers and I told them I wanted to die because of the bullying I get at school (I'm 15) and I also used to self halm. Me and my mum were asked to go to school today to see the deputy head teacher and he said we will do all we can as this is a very serious matter.
But my mum just looks like she cant cope with all of this as my brother (24) suffers from depression, and she had to put up with this kind of thing before, its as if she is saying 'I dont want another mental one in the family', and she did say she shouldnt have had children. I know I will get support from these workers but my mum just wants it sorted quickly, finished and forgotten, she doesnt ask how I feel or anything and doesnt like talking about it, I just feel alone and always have done.
Please could someone else share their thoughts on this matter?
2007-09-19 01:13:01 · 7 answers · asked by lynx2051 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am so sorry for the bullying that occurred and lead you to try this tragic act. I am so glad you survived. I spent years wanting to die. I am now, at the age of 44, glad that I lived. I promise you things will get better. They can't help but get better. I promise you, if you just hold on, you will wake up one morning and be glad you did. For me that morning came on the day my son was born. Trust me it will come. I would also advise you to seek the Lord Jesus Christ. I gave my life to Him at the age of 13 and it has made all the difference.
It sounds like this is something your mother chooses not to support you in. Try not to dwell on that. I know it seems as if your own mum can't be there for you that you don't deserve the help. But you Do! You deserve all the good this life has to offer, and trust me there's a lot out there. I work in the mental health field as a peer support specialist. That's just a fancy term for a professional friend. Yes, I get paid to be friends with hurting people. I love my job. At any rate please seek help until the hurt goes away. You are in my prayers.
2007-09-19 01:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by starmoishe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mom has some issues of her own that need to be worked out. You can't let her get in the way of something you need to be treated for. And though many of us wish there was, there simply is no quick fix to this sort of thing. I suggest focusing on your treatement as best you can, and if this becomes a pervasive issue and she can't get over it and get involved to try and push some family counseling. She's basically neglecting you in your time of need and that's unsightly behavior for any parent to present. Stick to your guns though and get better. If she's not willing to be the adult here then perhaps you may have to take it upon yourself to be the mature one.
Try to surround yourself with people who are supportive. Other family members or friends who can sympathize with you and help you through all of this. Definitely rely heavily on the support of the workers as well. If she's not willing to show it then you do have to seek some loving attention from someone who is. It will hopefully help you through this difficult time.
Take care of yourself most importantly. At 15 you've got your whole life ahead of you and if you work hard at it it can be so much better. Those years of school can be some of the hardest but you just have to remember that they will all be done with in a few years and you don't ever have to see those who bullied you around again.
2007-09-19 01:28:12 · answer #2 · answered by njvoigt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attempted suicide is something that requires immediate attention by a mental health professional. Anyone who has attempted suicide should be on a suicide watch and be treated as an in-patient at a psychiatric hospital. Most people who attempt suicide and fail, attempt it again. A combination of anti-depression meds and psychotherapy is the norm. But it takes time for the meds to take effect, usually 4 to 6 weeks and therapy takes time, too. People who attempt suicide need a support network of family and friends. If you don't have that, seek out church and support groups. Stay away from negative people and negative situations. If you believe in God prayer is helpful in cases like these. Set positive short and long term goals and motivate yourself to accomplish them. Most importantly, find ways to love yourself, reward yourself. Hope that helps. God Bless you.
2007-09-19 01:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by Z3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, think about how much your mother feels about both of her son's with depression. It probably does not make her very proud. You should think about your mom for a minute instead of yourself and try and take care of her. Maybe if you would have taken care of the bullies at school by reporting them a or getting back at them some how you might not be in the situation you are in. You should try and get all the counseling from what ever source is available. Do something nice for your mother and tell her you are sorry for what you have done and don'e do it again.
2007-09-19 01:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, it sounds that you are a teenager.I am alittele older than you but I had the same experience like you. You should be careful commiting suicide is just erasing the problem but you should try to solve the problem. We all live in the world suffering from lonliness this is not you alone have this problem!! This is a good point to calm you!. But we should try to compensate for it one way and have a strong belief that one day there would be someone who fill this vacuum. Belive me. I think no one more than yourself can help you. But if you need to have a elder sister .do not hesitate you can email me : nastaranrs@yahoo.com
2007-09-19 01:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by nastaran r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i know alot of my friends who have depression, and have attempted similar things to you, but they have goten past it with the love and care, and help from friends, family and doctors..
it sounds like ur mum is scared and not seeing this from ur point of view..getting her to understand how u feel would help.
it helps talking to someone that has had similar experiences who has goten past it.
all u need is the love and care of ur friends and so on:)
cheer up buddy you can get past this
2007-09-19 01:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't commit suicide! your mother should have never said those things
2007-09-19 03:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋