he told u he loves u and that he would never cheat on you.
2007-09-19 01:04:47 · 14 answers · asked by caller-gurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When he made a commitment to you, that was his way of saying that it would be just you. He took that promise back. If he took it back once, he will again. Even if he doesn't you will always wonder. That is how my last relationship ended and he told me he still loves me and wants me back. I heard a great quote one time that I said to him, "I'm not upset that you lied. I'm upset because I can never trust you again." Just because he doesn't have a heart of his own, doesn't mean he deserves to have yours.
2007-09-19 01:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hahahaha. Sorry, but that line has been used so many times! My (EX)husband cheated on me and swore he loved me and it would never happen again. He cried...he was sorry...YES HE WAS...so sorry I shoul have left him a long time before I did! Guess what? One week later he was at it again. After 49 years I have learned that if they cheat one time, they will eventually do it again. I know a lot of people say that isn't true. That is wishful thinking. When men and women cheat they are fullfilling a certain insecurity issue that they have within themselves. They may not even recognize that they have this issue unless they take a real deep look at themselves. Once a man cheats on me he is out the door> No second chances on that fukup!
2007-09-19 01:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Paula D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's very hard to forgive someone to whom you have entrusted your heart and yourself. And he told you he loves you...it's lying...it's not love. It's just a game to him. And who would give his/her heart openly to someone...to be just played of? People have feelings. It's hard to forgive than to commit a mistake. That someone should've known that before he started that relationship with you. In fact, everybody should know that before going in a relationship like that. That someone should've known that you would be hurt if he cheated on you. He didn't respect your heart...your feelings...your love...but most of all, he didn't respect YOU. Maybe you can forgive him but definitely not going back together. Something so deep is not easily forgiven. And you should have some self-preservation. He already wasted your feelings and you give him a second chance? No! Why would you? You're hurt. What if he does the same to you again? It's really painful. You should have the courage to show him that you can live without him...that you can take it from here...that you don't need his love (or his game)...that you can find other guys out there...that he is not of worthy of you. In fact, he has not proven himself worthy of such love. If he had respect to you, he should've told you that face-to-face before he went out with another girl. That's the point. It's about yourself, your value, love and respect. But if he did trespassing on those, you should think about it more. But really, if that's my case, I would not forgive him. Let him rot...
2007-09-19 01:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by Mitchie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the saying is always once a cheater always a cheater.......... but sometimes it isn't ive been with my fiance now for 4 years we had a bad spelll inbetween our 2nd year we were both going threw alot of stuff and i found out from one of his friends that he had cheated, i confronted him and he confessed to it, i had a hard time with it for a while but then i got over it. in the past two years him and i have done everything together, not my choice his he wanted me to know he wasnt doing anything wrong and that it would never happen again. our relationship is better than ever now, i trust him fully, and he is my world nothing can come between us now and i honestly know that it would never happen again, so that saying isnt always true. do what you will with the one your with, but remeber people can change would you want someone holding something you did that hurt them over your head for the rest of your life? or would you want them to trust you and forgive you and let you have a second chance to show you they've changed?
2007-09-19 01:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by jssugarlips 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think everyone should get a second chance . so maybe you can forgive him once .but let me tell ya you will never forget and you will never be able to trust him again and . the little saying once a cheater always a cheater is true.he will never change even if he says he will .now don't get me wrong he might be good for a little while or maybe even a long while .but i promise he will do it again .so if you forgive him you are just setting your self up for another heart ache.but its your call .....so good luck...!
2007-09-19 03:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by camolovingbitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually that depends on what he had done.. but if you would come up here to ask this question.. i tink u've more or less noe what u would do..
Sometimes.. if u love someone so much.. u would forgive him..(provided it's not something really really really serious).. think about it.. is it something that unforgivable abt?? Think of the good times you guys had..
Just follow your feeling.. Tkc~~!
2007-09-19 01:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forgive but end the relationship. I would never be able to stay since it will never be the same again and I wouldnt be up for looking over my shoulder everytime we out together.
2007-09-19 01:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it would depend on the circumstances. If she cheated while i was deployed in iraq for a year, i wouldnt sweat it. Its just sex. As long as she is still clean and didnt get pregnant or anything like that.
2007-09-19 01:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh bull crap.
don't you watch TV or listen to country music? once a cheater, always a cheater. why would you take a risk on something like this? you could never trust him again.
you're better off without the slimy pig.
2007-09-19 01:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO I'm NOT 18... :-)
Psychologist stated that you CAN forgive ONE TIME IF (if) that is the only one!
A 2nd time means NO TRUST = Marriage OVER
2007-09-19 08:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by gandolff18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋