I been with my boyfriend for over a year, but lately I feel like we have so many problem. I don't know what to do I really love! It make me mad when he tell me that his 1st luv call him to wish him luck. I'm scared that they might get back together. Even though he tell me he loves me! Just the other night I ask him if he could see himself gettin back with one of his ex and he respond don't know cause we don't know about are furture . What should I do?
2007-09-19 00:54:30 · 14 answers · asked by confuse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He seems honest - he wants to promise you his love for you, but doesn't want to say that because he's scared that things might change. He wants to avoid lying by saying "I don't know", just incase he ends up returning to his ex-girlfriend.
I can assure you that he really does love you at the moment. My friend has an ex-girlfriend, and he always talks with her but only as best friends. It has been this way for a long time. So you see, not everybody returns to their ex-lovers.
Also, even if he returns to his ex-girlfriend, there is a high possibility that they will split up again. (Which means he will come back to you.) The fact that they've split up in the past means that there is a potential of hostility between each other.
Anyway, don't give up, and don't get angry, because getting emotional is one of the main reasons couples split up. Try to live through your days just as usual.
Good luck!
2007-09-19 01:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now because you are in love you think that you'll be together forever, but it doesn't always work out that way. Make sure you don't abandon the things that you love now that you are with him. Also persue your goals and consentrate more on thinking of a future without him. Make sure you have a support bas should you break up.
Maybe you should be the one wishing him luck and start saying I'm proud of you when he does something great or even simple. Guys like that.
2007-09-19 08:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hurts to hear about it but he is just being realistic. He must have love you that is why he confided about that call of his ex gf...or he could be implying about getting out of your relationship, he just have not enough courage to dump you... but don't be scared. Try to assess yourself in the situation. You may say come what may and try to enjoy every minute being with him while you're still on. Or leave if you can't take it anymore. He is not the only man in this world and there are still better person that you will meet if he's not really the one for you.. Remember, everything does come and happen for a reason. :)
2007-09-19 08:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel there sweety, you must be feeling nervous that he might getback with his ex. Well let me tell you something. If he does still love you more than his ex, then he shouldnt be getting back with her. And btw i reckon he should tell you that his ex texted him goodluck, he should know how you would feel after he said that. But maybe he just doesn't want to keep secrets and hide from you, that just also shows that he loves u . And when he said " i don't know about the future.. tell him how much you love him. well goodluck hun, and hope ur the only one that he loves :)
2007-09-19 08:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pretty much float with the situation for a little while. Talk to him about your issues with him being so confused about his feelings for an ex, or tell him you sometimes feel unsure of his feelings for you. The best thing is to be honest, but honesty doesn't necessarily require bluntness. Just tell him you love him, but have doubts about his feelings for you. However, don't jump his case about the ex. If he thinks you don't trust him, he may just distance himself.
2007-09-19 08:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kaiti P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't trust him with his ex. You know wat they say, first luv never dies. I'm currently in a relationship with a guy that i really luv but i sometimes wonder whether he still thinks about his first luv. Sometimes i think that the way he treats me has a lot to do with his first luv. I think he punishes me for everything she put him thru. So just dn't get too close to him. Always keep space for disappointment.
2007-09-19 08:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by tchiyana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe hes just scarred about the future, like maybe hes scarred of commitment to you and doesnt want to look too far ahead, he wouldnt b with u if he didnt want to be so make the most of the time you spend with him and then he'll forget about his exs and realise ur great
2007-09-19 07:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be afraid to lose him...its not yet the end of the world...i also think like you before...but hey i survived,its been almost 6 yrs for us together and suddenly he gave up...enjoy life...theres plenty of boys out there waiting for you...no need to rush on things...well except when your already on your 30's,you need to find him before its too late....
2007-09-19 08:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by pot 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nothing, just be cool baby. if he wants to leave. FREE HIM. You dont know whats up yet. Oh, wait his ex did WHAT? I didnt read that part...
2007-09-19 08:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need not to bring that stuff up!! don't talk about his ex's and don't mention yours. you need to focus on HIM and YOU and your relationship. if it is meant to be then it will be... but basically you need to stop stressing about something that you can't control. if he loves you... then he will be with you... right now, he hasn't said anything about being with her... you should just focus on YOUR relationship with him!!!
2007-09-19 08:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋