My old ' Scene' Mom?

Question

Here's the deal. I'm not into labels etc. I am a sixteen year old girl and my mom is 38. I like some of the new looks, with the two tone hair, and hello kitty, etc, but I do not classify myself as ' scene. '
my mother however, is a different story. She even has a myspace page with her pictures all over it, with the pearls, the jewelry, the contests. - and wrinkles, yuck. I feel like she is making a fool of herself, but my friends seem to think she is cool. She has a reverse mullet with pink strands and the blonde with black underneath. Is she making a fool of herself, or just trying to deal with getting older? Will she ' outgrow' this? It's so weird, dude!! and embarassing. she goes to concerts too, with the emo boys. PS - my mom LOOKS her age, it's not like she's even getting away with pretending to be young. what's worse? she calls herself ' Mod"

I basically want to know how to stop this. I have asked her to please, at least tone it down, but she refuses...I'm seriously thinking of moving with my dad to Tacoma because of this.

Answer 1

well she is the mother, but she is not acting like one. Have a talk to her and if that fails, there is nothing you can do. I am sorry you have to put up with this, but give it time, she may get over it.

Answer 2

My Mom was 17 years older then me and it was really tough when I was growing up. She was petite and classy, and had a great look, and here I was just plugging away being a teenager. You are not your mother's keeper. You have no control over how she dresses or how she conducts herself in public. You can only be the best person you can and stop 'dissing' her. I realized this in my teenage years, and now that I'm in my 40's and my Mom is just in her 60's, she still is somewhat insecure enough to continue with the same behavior, but no I just sit back and shake my head. I'm not like that; my sister isn't like that, and I know that people don't judge me by my parents actions.
Don't get me wrong, I love my Mom, and she was wonderful growing up, but the obsession with being younger, I think, came from not living through her younger years. She had a baby at 17, your Mom was 22. There is a lot of growing up thats done in your 20's, and maybe your Mom is trying to recapture that?
Don't sweat it. You'll laugh at it when you get older. Just finish school and don't have a baby in your 20's. Live, love and get it out of your system, then you can glide through the rest of your years!!

Answer 3

Wow, your mom does not seem to have a problem. She is doing what she likes and dressing the way she likes. Maybe its cause I am closer to her age, but I say let her be herself. It might be a faze or it might just be her way of expressing her fun side, but it seems you are the only one that has a problem with it. think about it, most 16 yr olds want to look and dress older and most 35 and up want to look and dress younger. As for myself, I have been told that I act immature, but those types are not into having fun and are way to serious. she is not the only 38 yr old out there with myspace and funky hair, and neither is she the oldest not to conform to how teens think older people should do and act. sorry am no help to you but...really she is just enjoying life. Oh and by the way..wrinkles they are inevitable..you will get them too

Answer 4

It is the job of every parent to embarrass their child to the point that the child makes decisions for themselves and becomes self reliant.

This is a good thing. Use this bit of feelings to your advantage and choose your clothing and hairstyles so that you don't embarrass yourself like her.

Get a job, Go to school, Give your mom some space. With a child that has so much opinion to share or inflict on her she could probably use the break.

Prayer also helps.
Here is an example: Dear God please don't let me have a child that will criticize me as much as I do my mom.

Get rich and send her to a by limo to a ritzy spa and makeover. Until you pay she has the right to choose how she plays.

What ya gonna do when your dad starts dressing funny. Personally I would make a point to drive you to school in my clown car and honk the horn on my nose to show you love.

Have you thought about trying to just be grateful that you have a mom that is still alive.

Answer 5

I gather from your question that your parents are divorced. If so, this might explain your mother's strange behavior. She may lack self-esteem since the breakup and figures My Space is a good place to meet people and get encouragement. She may be going through menopause. When a woman starts menopause, hormones are all out of wack. Some women get short-tempered, and some women act and say things they wouldn't normally do otherwise. I would give it some time - she'll probably get bored after a while. If she is "trying to regain her youth", she'll find out in due time that talking to some of those people on My Space is not healthy for her. God bless!!

Answer 6

I think that your mother has some very serious issues with her age and self esteem. since she does not appear to be concerned about your feelings or even be aware that you may not be comfortable, I think if the chance is there to live with your father than go for it. Maybe she will wise up, but don't count on it. For you, there is a big plus, Tacoma is close to Seattle and it is a great place for a person of any age. Good luck.

Answer 7

I'm sorry, but are you seriously trying to tell me that you are embarrassed that your mother is enjoying her life?

The only one who seems to have a problem with what she's doing is YOU. Oh, and she looks her age? Wow, 38.... wrinkle city, chest hanging down to her knees...

And she has photos on myspace? And she likes "scene"? Wow, that's SO bad! Only people under the age of 25 (or younger? Which do you think? Maybe 18?) should ever enjoy the new stuff out there...

Get real. She's not trying to "deal" with anything. You should have half the outlook on life that she does. If you want to move away because your mom is a unique individual who everyone seems to like, then she'd be better off with you living with dad.

Sorry, kiddo, I call them as I see them.

Answer 8

Your old enough to move out and she is lonely. You will be gone soon then what does she have an empty home with memories of you and the fact that she missed out on her childhood. she is going through a crisis. Move get go and she will realize that she has either
1 made a big mistake or
2 she is happy and hooked up with a younger mate to fulfill the youth she missed.

Answer 9

wow - serious midlife crisis going on. have you ever thought maybe she's trying to get closer to you - maybe to be on your level to some degree? Maybe try telling her that it makes you uncomfortable and it's creating a distance between you two and ultimately you might go live with your dad. She just might take a closer look at herself and the role she is playing in whether you stay or go. Good Luck!

Answer 10

Wow thats seriously messed up. Have you told your mom you thinking of moving to your dad? I think if it affects your social development and grades then its in your best interest to move to your dad. She is in denial of getting old if you ask me. At least she isnt wearing your clothes lol thats the bright side I guess. Just give your dad a call and arrange stuff then give your mom the choice of toning it down or waving bye to you. You have to end this now or it will get worse. good luck