we are having our wedding in new york city and we are having an open bar. it is all included in the price and we are paying 20% gratuity. do members of our party have to tip when they order each drink or does our gratuity cover this?
2007-09-18 22:45:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
we're irish
2007-09-18 23:02:43 · update #1
When my brother got married in Atlanta there was an open bar, and there was a tip jar on the bar. Guests will probably put a decent amount of money for one tip.
2007-09-18 22:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by Thia 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your gratuity covers this, however any additional tips will be gratefully received by the staff for a job well done.
If you don't want a tip jar on the bar (which would make people inclined to think they had to tip) then you are well within your rights to say so.
To the Americans who were confused by this question, America is a tipping culture, Ireland is not. In Ireland it is not customary to tip with every drink. Open bars at weddings are a relatively new thing to the masses in Ireland that used to be a luxury for the rich, spending your entire life savings on a wedding used to be considered unnecessary. When you consider how much the Irish like to drink, this was probably a sensible precaution to avoid bankruptcy!
It's a very generous gesture to provide an open bar at a wedding. It should be considered automatic for guests to provide a small contribution to costs, but it's not.
Good luck with your wedding and remember you can talk to your caterer about anything, that's what they are there for.
2007-09-22 16:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20% should cover it (even in NY)
However should any of your guests wish to tip for really exceptional service it's up to them.
Will your guests know that you are paying in the price? To be fair to them you could indicate that gratuities to the bar staff have been met as a discreet note on the invitations.
I guess you also need some local advce as customs vary widely from place to place.
Have a great day!
2007-09-22 09:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should not be tipping, but the waiters will doggie eye them and take anything offered. If I were paying for this affair and a 20% gratuity, I'd make sure through the caterer or hotel that tips were not accepted by the staff.
2007-09-19 06:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your gratuity covers it, but why put a tip jar?? Guests at a wedding should not to pay for anything. ... and what does being Irish have to do with it?
2007-09-19 13:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If the guests are America they may tip automatically but if I was at a wedding I wouldn't.
2007-09-19 06:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Charlene 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wedding where you have to pay for your own drinks is ... a little weird. And it's not what you wanted or you wouldn't have arranged for an open bar.
The tip-jar or you paying the tip should do it.
2007-09-19 09:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think wedding guests normally arrive with the idea that they will be spending any money at the event.
2007-09-19 05:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by Theresa 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Anywhere....Tips should be voluntary, people get paid to do a job, tips are perks not mandatory .
2007-09-20 09:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Offer them a double! be generous... you aren't paying anyway, lol
2007-09-19 05:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by sjr 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋