I dated a guy for over 2 years and broke up with him about 3 times becuz I am so busy and never see him. i really like him but he let himself go...a beer gut, yellowish teeth (very nasty-total turn off). i tried to give him hints to work out and use whiteners for his teeth but no luck. I know I sould superficial but I like what I like and dislike that stuff. I miss him lots what should I do?
2007-09-18 21:43:13 · 11 answers · asked by Calisofie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No matter what anyone says looks that deal with hygiene are IMPORTANT>
2007-09-18 22:32:46 · update #1
All people's bodies eventually deteriorate, but a man who who chooses not take care of himself when he has the ability to do so has a character flaw. If he neglects things that are important (i.e., health and hygeine), what other things might he neglect in the future?
Examine your heart. Did you break up with him those three times strictly because of his appearance? Or was the reason more that he stubbornly holds on to bad habits? If you are more concerned with his character than about his appearance, anyone who calls you superficial is ignorant.
At the end of the day, if you decide to continue your relationship with him, don't do it expecting him to change - you have to accept him as he is. If you know in your heart of hearts that you can't live with this kind of character flaw long term, move on.
2007-09-18 23:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by isaiah14v31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really serious about it, do it together. This might sound corny but get some whiteners, brush your teeth and stick those suckers on. You can even make jokes or do impersonations with them on (Now that's good clean fun right there!!). If you think he needs to work out do it with him, encourage him; reward him for it.
Also you may want to consider what breaking up with him has done mentally. It can be just as frustrating, if not more for a guy. Depending on the relationship. I would personally tell you to question yourself first though. Are you willing to go through with it? OR is there the possibility that you might get "Too Busy" again? I'm not trying to sound rude or take sides, but you can't play with someones heart and expect them to be the same person.
I know I wouldn't be.
2007-09-19 04:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well love is love.... If your going to judge a guy by his gut or teeth then there is no tru love there... Love a person for who they are... Not what they look like! Yes personal hygene is important but thats for you to decide
2007-09-19 04:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by John D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appearance is one thing, bad hygeine is another. I for one would want a girl who looks good and keeps herself in shape. Is that shallow? Probably, but thats just what I want. Its also healthy to work out and stay in shape.
2007-09-19 04:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can put all these things aside, then it proves your love is strong enough for him and you can be in a relationship.
But if you just cant, then dont put either of you through more trouble.
2007-09-19 04:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i see your already looking for a guy 20-30 yo with your other question. what happened to "missing him lots"?
2007-09-19 05:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all boils down to how you feel about him, regardless whats on the outside.
2007-09-19 04:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by Erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't moved on go for it, tell him face too face what you feel.(honest always wins.)
2007-09-19 04:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by fred a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
over the years of the many relationships i had, personality compatability is not everything.
lifestyle compatability also makes a difference.
so try to ensure both matches wat u r looking for
2007-09-19 04:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by sydneybeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be ready to giveup when you cannot take.
2007-09-19 04:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by sureshcm m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋