Why an Indian wife desserts to a husband who is careful, handsome, healthy and wealthy to join a petty job?

Question

This is happening in a case where a particular couple was happy with two male kids with three years interval youngest son is of few months only. The girl's father who is a Police Officer has misguided his daughter to join a job 600 KM away in a difficult area against the wish of his Son-in-law so that both (husband & wife) could not live together. Here agrieved husband has purchased a house in the name of his wife with his earnings where wife's financial contribution is nil. This house has value of over Rs. five million. The girl's father has hidden agenda to grab this property by creating differences between his daughter and son-in-law. False complaints have been tried by the Girl's father under the threat of domestic violence act all of them have been proved base less. Due to atrocious behaviour of in-laws now the agrieved husband is living on different place other than the purchased house from more than three months. How this marriage will be restored so that values remains intact?

Younger sister of this lady is psychic. Another sister of this lady has left her parents after getting a job and married to a person against the wish of parent in diffrent community and even lodged a complaint of assault in Police against her mother. Her mother is habitual of lodging false complaints even she has did a false complaint of rape against his brother-in-law. Deserted Husband of the lady has made it clear to his wife that you are going your own against marrital wedlock so you will come your own. Moreover she is habitually abusive and frequently tell lie. Even then her parents are blindly supporting her things and taking side of wrong. Kindly react how such persons can bring up their children well living apart. Or let them give up their false ego for love and happiness of family.

Answer 1

Any person purchasing a house property worth 5 million rupees is not a fool & will do so in name of his wife exclusively & won't even include his own name in the titles of this property, I don't believe it. Either this property was purchased from the money given by the in-laws as a part of dowry or he utilized his own black/unaccounted money by transferring in the name of his wife in the form of this property. Now when he see that this marriage is on verge of breaking he wants to take back the ownership rights of this property in his own name, for this purpose he wants his wife back so that he can get the necessary paper work with regards to transferring the titles of this house property in his own name can be done & after that he won't mind giving her divorce. Do you think as an Advocate I won't understand the whole game plan in this case? The very fact till date his wife was not working & now her father got her a job at 600KM away must be near his residence as per the request of his daughter. The wife herself is not interested to continue this relationship & hence she left him. No wife leaves her husband & family just for a petty job unless it’s mutually agreed between both of them. The question of breaking her own matrimonial home by any parent doesn't arise unless their daughter herself shows reluctance to continue such marriage. This hold good in this case too. Just by saying her father being a Police official is trying his legal hands to break such marriage is not acceptable as the police officers are having legal knowledge restricted to Indian Penal Code, Criminal Procedure Code & State Police Act & Rules where ever they are posted, beyond these statutes they hardly understand anything more unless any police officer has done degree of law otherwise. Now coming to your question how this marriage can be restored? This man should go & compromise with his wife & request her return on her terms & conditions. Lastly just forget at the moment of getting this house property titles transferred in his own name or his name added till this whole issue cools down otherwise his bad intentions will be exposed to his wife & her parents & they all will resist any such move by him. The facts you have mentioned after posting your original question, no where will be helping his case as what her sister did or her mother does will not be taken in account between these to by the family court. In a dispute between the husband & wife the family court is interested in the evidence pertaining to the parties, their mutual relationship & their marital dispute. In such a case this man did a big mistake in purchasing a house property exclusively in his wife's name, this fact you cannot deny. Now what all he can do is to first get her back by hook or crook then decide whether he wants to continue such marital relationship with her or not. In case he thinks their living together won't work out then let him seek divorce from her on the basis of mutual consent. Let him compensate her financially by providing permanent maintenance either by selling this house property & giving her a share out of it & keep the rest with him or just forget this house property once for ever & let it be a settlement amount for such divorce. I don't see any thing more in such a case.

Answer 2

God has given everybody brains. She should think of it because it is her life. She is spoiling a family. When things go smooth and fine you have 100's of them around you. It is like the saying where there is sweet there are ants. I won't be surprised that the Father is doing it because for the sake of money I have heard father selling their daughters too. The best piece of advice will not work in this case unless and until she takes a decision on her own as to what is the best for her, her kids and family. ( family - kids and her husband). Let her not forget the simple thumb rule once she is married then the husbands house is permanent for her life.

Answer 3

If the lady is interested in working and earning something of her own, the husband should sincerely try to get a job for her in the place where he lives and bring her back there so that they can live together in their dream house. The father in law has to be handled through the department higher ups and keep him away from their purely personal family life. If there are other reasons which you and I do not know, then appropriate corrective actions will be required.

Answer 4

I think before making the decision to take a job away from the family it should have been agreed on by the both marital parties. If it was the father that influenced his daughter to leave there has to be a bigger problem. If the father in law is the problem then you need to find away to let him know that he has no place in your marriage. The husband needs to talk to his wife and find out what the real issue is with out the father in law. If there needs to be a mediator have your minister with you to give both of you counseling and direction

Answer 5

is the wife doing all this as per her wish or is being forced by her father? first of all the father cant force her because if she is forced she can tell her husband about it. that means she isnt being forced she is doing it because she wants it. it only means she herself also is interested in property. why does the husband want to stay with her after all she is doing? only the husband seems to be interested in saving the marriage. the husband has to accept he made a mistake by buying the house on her name. he has to pay for the mistake now. the house should have been bought on both their names.

Answer 6

Forget the house, its a gone case. If the husband is stupid enough to buy a house worth Rs. 5 million from his own money without his name in the title deeds he deserves a wife who will take it away from him.

Forget the wife too, she too has made up her mind to take the house and dump the husband.

Answer 7

What about the children...where are they?
It seems to me the most important thing is the welfare of these kids....but to answer your question you need a lawyer to sift through all this to guide the husband what is best....so he gets what he deserves....it's a shame what families do all for the love of money and what money can buy...I hope everything works out but in closing you need a professional person to get this straightened out...before it gets worse...
Mama Jazzy geri far from you...wishing you the best...

Answer 8

The matter should be better understood by the lady, she have to take decision only this will help the person.

Remember this is society there leaves goods & bads together you & me can not change the society.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

"CONSPIRACY"......some people just care about themselves and not even their own children are important. I was once told greed is the greatest motivator. I know first hand how evil people can be when $$$ can be profited. Some people will even destroy or damage their own children's life just to make a buck.