Why does is seem like the two go hand in hand? And what can a person do to stop being promiscuous years after the sexual abuse happend?
2007-09-18 20:58:35 · 6 answers · asked by cherrybomb 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
As our brains develop and mature there is this akward switch that tends to happen. When we experience trauma in our life, especially something as damaging as sexual or physical abuse, we tend to seek out those things in people and within our own actions. Women who were physically abused as children often seek partners that will be physically abusive towards them, men who were physically abused as children often go on to abuse others. The time frame means nothing. It's in a way, seeking comfort in something that was uncomfortable and traumatizing. The only way to really stop it is to get some help. Sexual abuse is sadly so very common and people don't realize that they need to be treated for it. It is seriously important to get over those things if you ever want to have a stable and healthy relationship with anyone.
So to just get past the foreplay. Go seek help. Talk to a doctor or GP about it, see if they can't steer you towards a psychiatrist who can help you get through these things or even start off simple and try out some support groups for abuse survivors. Otherwise this will just be a continuing cycle driven by impulses in your brain that you'll probably never be able to break, which could lead to minor or major depression as you feel your self worth lessen and lessen.
2007-09-18 21:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by njvoigt 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They go hand in hand because when a child is sexually abused they think this behavior is "normal". As an adult, without counseling to work through the damage, they can have a problem with promiscuity. Not all people who are abused do, but there is a link with some.
2007-09-18 21:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep they go hand in hand. Being promiscuous makes a person feel like they have regained command over their sexuality - something the abuse took away from them.
If they can get a strong understanding partner they can be reigned in.
2007-09-19 01:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 kinds of learning in life. One is from books ect. The other is from experience.
Sexual abuse teaches us that sex is a form of 'currency' to win or give favor.
Sexual contact becomes our value system.
We value (or devalue) ourselves by it, through it, and with it.
It can give abuse victims a fleeting feeling of security that they crave.
Because that security is only momentary there is the constant need to repeat the dose..
Promiscuity is NOT about sexual pleasure as most people think.
Promiscuous people are not sex gluttons.
PROMISCUITY IS ABOUT ADDICTION.
Just like a junky.
The answer to this is therapy.
There are extremely skilled professionals out there who can help.
They will reutrn a person to a sense of their own true self worth.
Godd Luck
2007-09-18 22:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is true that sexual abuse can lead to promiscuity. It is caused because the person no longer cares for themself or their body. But you have to think, there are life threatening STDs out there and there are people out there that care for you, so you dont want to put yourself out there by being promiscuous. (When i say "you" i dont mean you, i'm just saying in general)
2007-09-18 21:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by Tracy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW BABE, you got some great answers already!! i cant say anything that hasnt already been said except if you need a friend, you know where i am.
2007-09-19 01:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋