I would not tolerate her mean tone and rudeness toward me, I have done her many favors, and tried to be supportive. she says thats the way she talks to everybody, but i'm her mother, does that count for something? she was living with me at the time so she could save money. I was trying to help her. others have commented negatively about her attitude as well.
2007-09-18 20:27:40 · 11 answers · asked by diana r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should at least send her a birthday card !
2007-09-18 20:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by amazincajn_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 26 and love my parents to pieces, but at the same time have had my moments. Explain to her how you feel and tell her she will get no more favours until she changes her attitude. At 26 she is being damn petty for disowning you. I would send her a card. Give her a bit of time she will realise what shes throwing away. Good Luck.
2007-09-19 07:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by emma157 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such things as disowned when it comes with parent and daughter. The word disowned is just meant for a figure of speech and thats all.
The fact is that your daughter has your blood, she can never disown you.
So go ahead and do what you feel is right, even though she may not reciprocate. However in time, she will realize and appreciate..
take care
2007-09-19 04:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody said being a Mom would be easy. Take the high road so she sees what unconditional love looks like. If not, she will miss the boat altogether. It is when they push away the hardest that we must swallow our pride and emulate what we expect! Life is far to short to hold grudges and waste time wondering if love is worth it. IT IS!!!! Send her something that shows you remember how wonderful she is and she will come around. Be patient! Children at any age are a gift from God. They are non-returnable and you are all she has. Be the Mom you were meant to be and she may surprise you!
2007-09-19 03:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, give her a present. If you don't, you're just giving her another reason to be angry at you. She's going through a rebellious time in her life. Eventually, she will realize that you are her mom and that you've always been there for her. You have to let her do what she needs to do, but still love her, even if it means celebrating her birthday when she seems like she doesn't want any part of you.
Kids are funny - they want to get as far away from you as possible, but when it comes down to it, they always come back.
2007-09-19 05:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by lordmisrule2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum was like that, my mum has 3 brothers and 2 sisters in my mothers case the two sisters fell out with my mum over the belongings of their parents after their parents passed away.
You see my grandparents didn't do a will only a list on paper as it stood they took everything for themselves or their kids and sod the brothers and my mum.
So they had a major fall out aunts with my mum over petty little things.
My aunts would talk/phone or send card or anything they even didn't want to know my mams children IE me/older sis and younger brother as my aunts blames us as well as well as the three brothers and their families.
They never spoke to my mum my aunts for over 6yrs until 2yrs ago they realized the wrong they had done but like my mum said you can forgive but you can't forget.
But when aunt's didn't want to know mum and their brothers they still sent cards and present to aunts and their children as my mum and 3 brothers would not stump to their level.
All you can do is carry on sending card to your sister and presents, she will eventually come around and realize what she has done and good look at least you can say you didn't try to make a right.
2007-09-19 06:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had similar issues within my family.
As a mother, I think your child(ren) should have respect for you as a parent, as well as any "elder" For my situation, although not entirely the same as yours, I ended up mailing only a card. I figured better to not stoop to someone else's level. This has been since August that I mailed the card and have heard NOTHING in response. I'd say do what is easiest for you to live with.
2007-09-19 03:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by im_not_that_person_anymore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad kicked me out of the house when I was 13, in all that time I never got a card or even a phone call except when he was looking for my brother. My mom kicked me out of her house when I was 17 but stayed in touch with letters, phone calls ect. to this day I havn't seen my dad in many years while me and my mom are closer than ever. I guess my point is that even when I have been my angriest at my mom it always meant a lot that I knew she still cared.
2007-09-19 07:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by kevin hunter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a saying
'a mothers love is eternal, no matter what'
she may disown u
but there is no way to stop the blood that flows in her veins
no matter wad she is still flesh and blood
if u do not wan to give a present thn at least a card
2007-09-19 05:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by x040493t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a birthday present. Let her know that no matter what she does, you still love her and you will always forgive her.
2007-09-19 06:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋