Ok, so I just met this guy that I really like. He is nice, funny and so hot. I'm always shy at first (and i think he is kinda shy too) so I didn't get to say or do everything I wanted.. but now that the "ice is broken" I am ready to see him again and this time not be so shy. I really wanna get to know him. So my question for you GUYS is; Should I call him or text him? What if I know he's going to be somewhere, should I show up there to see him? How do you feel about this? Would you be flattered if a girl showed up to see you or would you think it was annoying? Or what if a girl calls you? Does that make you feel good or do you think it is your job to call her? Please just give me advice on what I should do!! And I am not talking to little boys please, just guys my age (19) Tell me what you would want a girl to do to you...
2007-09-18 19:30:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it would blow me away if you showed up where i was specifically to see me....that's what i would go for if i were you....beyond that i'm sure he'd love a call if you have his number....go for it girl.....
2007-09-18 19:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by #1 bossman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 26 and I would definitely want a girl that likes me to call me. If your nervous about talking to him don't worry, worrying is the worst part once you start talking it will be fine. I was just in a situation where some girl liked me for a while and I liked her, but we were both either too shy or stupid to do anything about it and now she is with some other guy. I missed it by two weeks when I finally told her how I feel. Not to happy about that. I probably wouldn't show up where ever he is unless your invited. Wait to see if he is interested in you first. Most of the time guys are more than happy when a girl says that their into them.
2007-09-18 19:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by Brian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Holy. Lady, you're thinking into this WAY too hard and too early in the game.
You like him right? Okay, so then just call him. I know what you mean though with rather calling him or texting him... Some people are more comfortable with texting, and some are more comfortable wiht calling. Some guys never even text, or are too lazy too. I would say call him. I usually just call and say 'whats up' just make some chitchat, then i throw in 'oh hey what are you doing friday, lets go check out this restaurant'. I ask really non-chalantly, and in the middle of the convo. Because, just calling someone to ask them on a date, is soooo ackward. Make it a convo, and ask them to just hook up somewhere. that's what I usually do as a guy.
For a girl courting me? haha... well... unless he's a big talker on the phone, not many guys actually normally have long convos on the phone. so he may feel a little weird if you call him for a convo. To be honest, i'd feel more comfortable estabilishing a closer relationship in real life before I start talking on the phone... so to start, texting would be comfortable for me. or the best for me.. haha ... facebook. if ya got him on facebook, throw him some messages on his wall and stuff. let him know you're interested. anyways, try not to think so hard about it, and don't go too fast. if this guy really is shy, you might make a first phone call ackward if you try to turn it into a convo. and showing up where he's going to be... that might be creepy, unless the place is pretty public and you're there oftne too.
Anyways, all in all, don't think so hard about it. text him, msg him, whatever. i'd say take it slow. if the girl im into right now called me, i'd be caught so off guard, and stumble all over the place... but i'd be happy. :) but that's just me. so.. take it slow.. and dont over analyze.
2007-09-18 19:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by jayguy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I like when a girl calls me. And showing up where im at is ok, just not at my place. I mean thats cool but dont get mad if i already have company :) But yeah that would be flattering to me. (im 23 in case you were wondering)
2007-09-18 19:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
text him first and see what is gonna happen, if he likes u HE WILL GIVE U A CALL BACK
that's what I did with my boyfriend, we met in a resort, had a nice conversation then he asked me when can he see me again, I gave him my number. the same day when I left the resort he text me. I didn't call him but after a while I text him he called me back, had our first date the next day.
and we r still togather...
so don't call, don't make any effort to be in where he is.
If he likes you he will call u after texting him.
good luck
2007-09-18 19:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call and setup a time to talk that way he can focus on you rather than worry about the reason he was there in the first place.
2007-09-18 19:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by Gray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would just text him, and ask if he's busy or not, if not see if he wants to join you for a bite somewhere.
I personally prefer it this way, it gives me a chance to think first before I say yes or no....because if a girl asked me face to face, I will say yes, even when I want to say no....lol, I have no spine like that, lol.
2007-09-18 19:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
showing up might seem kinda stalker, how would you get this particular bit of info...
...and its not necissarly my job to call her...if she wants something to happen she can call...texting is good. just a "hey how ya doin"...or a "gimme a shout sometime"
good luck
2007-09-18 19:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him yes. he will be flattered.
but as for showing up...depends where he is and what the occasion is..
personally i wouldnt just show up.
i would call him. and never know you may get a nice invite
2007-09-18 20:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not show up where he is, just call him and talk to him and if thats too difficult text that way it wont be that akward moment of silence
2007-09-18 19:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be near the place he will see you but make no effort to go to him let him come to you.
2007-09-18 19:35:50 · answer #11 · answered by pwned_by_1337 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋