i have a friend that is 50 yrs. old. recently his 24 yr. old daughter died from an overdose.my friend often did dope with her and now he totally blames himself for her death. are there any web sites that would talk about this issue and helping him overcome the guilt that he now feels?
2007-09-18 19:18:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He probably needs therapy, but nothing will ever get rid of the feeling. Parents are our most influentual role models - good or bad and he probably did contribute to her death. I am glad he sees that and hopefully he won't use her death as a reason to get high; and instead uses it to straighten out and live without regrets.
2007-09-18 19:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is right to blame himself and should blame himself for the death of her daughter....
However, the most important thing is how is he going to "pay" for his guilt?. Should he start just feeling sorry for him self and just continue with the dope? Then he should be really stop existing in this world totally, as he did not realise that dope kills her daughter.
He should take this opportunity and have the courage to stop having dopes, and to work for social organisation that help children to quit dope or recover from dope.
Use his experiences to benefit, others...
take care..
2007-09-18 21:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by trymejames 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This group has chapters all over the country and there maybe one near him. Just click on the link in the left column to find the chapter nearest him. They have regular meetings & even visit hospitals to offer support to parents of critically ill or injured kids.
http://compassionatefriends.com/
2007-09-18 19:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that he had no control or knowledge about his daughter overdosing.Remind him that had he'd known he would have been able to save her.ask him if he would have saved her? Ask him he loves and misses her and tell him that time will help.He just needs mourn but in a healthy way.Keep reminding him that he needs to put this all in the correct perspective to heal himself.Let him know that is what she would have wanted too.
Good luck!
2007-09-18 19:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no greater pain for a man than the death of his child, especially a daughter. Yeah, do a search for local support groups and it should give you some places to look. I am in one called Raindrops here in Oklahoma that helps allot. Give it a try. Hope I helped. I will think of him in my prayers......
John
2007-09-18 19:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by ethx1138 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-20 01:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to see doctor and get help there that is first and the meds to go along with it then the other stuff comes later.
2007-09-21 15:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about psychologist, can help him to overcome those problems..
2007-09-18 19:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋