Should any 14 year old boy be allowed to partake in a general adult discussion? I have a 14 year old boy, if I am having an adult conversation, they are not allowed in the same room as us, as it could be innappropriate.
What do you think?
2007-09-18 18:34:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
a 14 year old is not an adult, he is a kid and should be treated as one. an ADULT convo is for ADULTS(18+) only not 14 years old
would u allow an 14 year old in an adult only club(strip club)
2007-09-18 18:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
what kind of adult conversation though? there are some limits,.....
but soon you're going to be asking him to stop acting like a child and start acting like an adult that hes only a few short years away from being, and if you dont treat him like he is or can be an adult how is he going to know how to act as one. i cant ever remember my parents making me leave when i was 14 so they could have "adult" conversations i knew everything that went on in our family and they treated me like i was old enough to understand...because i was. after all it is only 2 yrs away from driving and 4 from actually being an adult. when do you stop treating them like a child and start and teaching them how to be adults. you cant wait till the day before they turn 18. and in most places 14 is 9th grade or the start of high school. besides you'd probably be amazed at the stuff your 14 yr old already knows about/does/heard. ....unless hes incredibly sheltherd which could be the case to and then thats no good either.
2007-09-19 04:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what you mean by "adult conversation." If you mean you just have some friends over to shoot the breeze about whatever, why not as long as he's being polite? Surely with your 14 yr old there, your friends would be sensitive enough to save any wildly inappropriate remarks for another time.
If you mean you have a friend over and you're going to gossip about your sex lives and reminisce about your drug and alcohol fueled antics in college, yeah, I guess I wouldn't do that around a14 yr old kid. (Though rather than making him curious by telling him to go away, it might work better to discuss tupperware and curtains until he gets bored and wanders off on his own.)
2007-09-18 18:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with ambivalence. If your conversation is "adult" as in mature or grown up (politics, etc) there is no reason why you should ban him from participating.
If it is a truly salacious conversation about sex, crazy parties, etc, then you shouldn't talk about it around him. But if you send him out of the room, he will get suspicious, and may even spy on you to see what he is missing out on. Save the gossip for sometime when he isn't around, like going shopping with your confidant, or on the phone when he is out of the house.
2007-09-18 19:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by jellybeanchick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 15 and have adult conversations with my mom and other adults. I guess it would depend on how mature he is. If you think he could handle it, I would let him listen or contribute to the conversation. Maybe he will learn something.
2007-09-18 23:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by Shelbi =) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depend on where he is mentally. If you feel he'd still get "giggly" or act immature at the mention of "Adult Topics" Then YES he shouldn't be there. But if by he's 16-17 and MATURE about things then ok, If not wait either till he is, or 18. GRANTED some 18 boys are still just that BOYS.
2007-09-18 18:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what is a general adult conversation? i don't like talking badly about people our family knows in front of younger family members or discussing the personal problems of others in front of them if that is what you mean.
2007-09-19 01:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by specky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think so. My parents and their friends treated my sister and I like equals, and it was very beneficial for us. My sister and I are now friends in our own rights with their friends.
If you are having a serious discussion that is not appropriate (i.e. sexual), then no, but don't exclude them just because the conversation might turn that way.
2007-09-18 19:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you are right until he is 18 he does not need to know about the adults conversation.he should be doing homework or playing sports or getting some exercise!
2007-09-18 18:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea why you asked this twice... Most answers seem to be here:
2007-09-18 18:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by Crypt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋