should i tell my parents about my grades?

Question

I am a senior and have been a straight A student my whole life, i have never gotten a B, had a 4.1 gpa last year. This year is more difficult because i chose to take 3 ap classes (calc, eng, and spanish). My parents are saying that they wont send me to the university i want to go to (SCU) unless i get A's in ALL of my classes. I have been working really hard but haven't done to well on quizzes/tests so far in calc and eng. My mom keeps asking me if my grades are good and i am lying and telling her they are. I am really scared bc i dont know how to tell her that i did bad on these things w/out saying they were hard and everyone failed (but that doesn't even work.) I am really frustrated bc i am working really hard but she thinks if im not getting A's im not working hard enough. What do i do? Should i tell her now, where i will get punished badly for not starting out the school year well. Or should i try to raise my grades to A's and hope she doesn't find out my current grades?

my parents won't send me to SCU without a scholarship and if i dont get A's in all my classes and i don't get a grant/scholarship, i wont be able to go there. any help or advice would be great thank you so much

Answer 1

Be honest about your grades to your parents. It's best they find out from you rather than see your progress report card.

3 AP classes are pretty tough. They should be proud of you for taking on such a heavy load (and probably are). If you are really concerned about your grades, talk to your teachers. Ask them for help or find out what you can do in the form of extra credit to help bring up your grades. (You may think you are doing pretty badly when actually, you may be doing really well.)

Colleges look more at your SAT and ACT scores. Talk with your counsellors about applying for scholarships and internships NOW. They can guide you about what you will need to get into SCU. But you must remember, SCU is not the only college available. There are many and most of them are just as good as (if not better than) SCU. Keep your options open in case you don't get in to SCU. (I do hope you do, though.)

Good luck. Remember, be honest with your parents and be honest with yourself. Relax and don't stress out too much. Enjoy your senior year!!

Answer 2

There is financial assistance for people whose grades are less than perfect. Tell your parents now and ask for a tutor to help you. If you lie, they learn that they can't trust you, and it's much harder to win back trust that's lost. Also, as a senior, start talking to financial aid officers, so you know what the truth is. Schools weight the harder classes differently: it's more important that you take challenging classes than you get all A's in easier classes. Also, make sure your parents see you working hard: make sure they see you doing your homework, not just fooling around.

Answer 3

Hey, I get really scared too, but in the long run telling them before hand is always better, because they'll know what to expect. My mom is pretty strict with grades, so I get kinda nervous to talk to her about them. My dad is so-so, just tells me to do better, and I do try. Just keep telling yourself that they're only disappointed, which is true.. it's not like they won't love you anymore. They're your parents, they will always have to love you. Just talk to them, tell them that you'll do your best to try better, and actually mean it. Tell them that you are actually mad at yourself for getting lower grades, so that they know that you're not just saying sorry and not really meaning it. Yeah, it won't be easy, but you're going to have to do it. Take a deep breath before you say it, and just spit it out. It's always hard for me to start up the conversation, but I just force myself to do it. I also suggest talking to them when they're in an okay mood. Not when they're in a super good mood, because that will ruin it. And not when they're in a bad mood because then it'll be harder to talk to them. I really hope this helps, I feel your pain. Good luck.

Answer 4

You are doing colledge level work. You cannot be expected to remain at the "A" level in classes like that. That's why the classes come after all the others. They are HARD subjects.

Talk to your parents. And don';t get all wrapped up in needing "straight A's" to get into you prefered school. You should talk to a transfer counselor. Talk to admissions people at the school you want to go to. Write letters.

Relax and learn. Get tutors. Relax. Study the subjects. They are complex, difficult and doable. Relax.

Answer 5

With grades like yours, why are you afraid that you won't get a scholarship? Talk to your guidance councilor. That's their job to help you. As far as your parents, tell the truth, and tell them that you are working with the councilor to bring up your grades. Plus, the councilor can help you get scholarships!! They did for my daughter. And her grades weren't as good as yours!

Answer 6

give them the quiz or test and lets see how they do thats kinda harsh and lots of pressure on such a young person i bet they are bluffing