my grandpa recently passed away?

Question

i was very close to him.
i feel like a piece of me is missing.
all day all i can do is think of him.
i'm a sophomore in high school and need to get back to school.
but when i go i just cry.
i don't feel comfortable around anyone.
and no one understands and just asks if i'm okay and if they can do anything for me.
but it just makes me cry worse.
i want to be able to go to school but be left alone.
any suggestions?

ps we haven't had his funeral yet.
so it hasn't been that long.
so for i'm not letting him go.

Answer 1

I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what you are feeling, as each of us grieve in our own way. All I can do is tell you how I felt when we lost my father two years ago. We had been preparing (we thought) for a long time, as he had been ill for years. Still, his loss was overwhelming to me. I knew I would have to say "goodbye" to him and for me that meant I traveled to one of his favorite spots by the lake on which he lived. I sat on the bench where he had sat so many times, and I allowed myself to cry until there were no more tears. I then, audibly said goodbye to my Dad. I told him how much he meant to me, and how much I missed him, and let him know that I would be OK. I released him to eternity and vowed to live my life in such a way that he would be proud of me.

I still miss him, but I would never wish him back to the pain and illness he experienced for so long. We had no issues unspoken. I can look back at our times together now with peace.

The pain you feel is important...allow yourself to cry...and find a way to say goodbye that is significant to you.

Blessings!

Answer 2

I was a couple of years younger than you when in the same year, I had 2 grandfathers pass away. Different times of the year, but that was one of the worst years of my life. Suggestions for you- he wouldn't want to see you sad and miserable to where you can't get anything done at school and fall behind now would he? He'd want you to move forward with your life and to be happy. So think about that a little. Also- what I did to help, was every day after school, I'd go to my grandfather's graves. I'd tell them about my day, I'd cry and cry and let it all out until i was finished. I'd tell them I missed and loved them. And let me just say that this really helped me.

Tell people you need your space, but don't push everyone away. Do your best to have a great time, and if you have a bad day, it's ok! Try to remember the happy times you had with your grandpa! I'm sorry for your loss! It's definitely not easy. And you'll always remember how wonderful they were. I made photo albums for each person who passed away in my family- my favorite was my great-grandmother's that I just recently did because she was hillarious. So many silly faces she made in this album, but it makes me smile. and when I have a bad day, I look at the photos and smile.

I wish you the best!

Answer 3

My Grandpa passed away not to long ago as well so i know what you're going through.
A few years back my older sister died of cancer, and one of the cards that we got had a poem on it that for some reason really comforted me, I know a few bits don't really aply but anyways...

-POEM FOR THE LIVING-
by:
Theodora Kroeber

When I am dead

Cry for me a little.

Think of me sometimes

But not too much.

It is not good for you

Or your wife or your husband

Or your children

To allow your thoughts to dwell

Too long on the dead.

Think of me now and again

As I was in life

At some moment which is pleasant to recall.

But not for long.

Leave me in peace

As I shall leave you, too, in peace.

While you live

Let your thoughts be with the living.


I hope this can help you be 'at peace' with what your going through,
And as for the people who ask you if your okay or if they can help you are just trying to be comforting to you. I don't want to say 'let it go' But if you would except it then people arouond you would too.

I hope this helped some
~Casey~

Answer 4

i am sorry about your Grandpa passing.it is a hard time and everyone handles grief differently.it may help you to talk about it with a counselor or maybe just for a brief period of time you may find anti depressants helpful.try these things and know you are not alone.your Grandpa wants you to be in school and do your best.you can plant a tree in his memory or something that you know would honor him and would be special to him.pray about this and ask GOD to ease your pain so you can remember your Grandpa with smiles and laughter!!! good luck.

Answer 5

TO THOSE I HAVE LOVED,
AND TO THOSE WHO HAVE LOVED ME

When I’m gone, release me, let me go
I have so many things to see and do.
You must tie yourself to me with tears,
Be happy we had so many years.

I gave you my love – you can only guess
How much you gave to me in happiness.
I thank you for the love you each have shown
But now it’s time I travel on alone.

So grieve for me if grieve you must.
Then let your grief be comforted by trust.
It’s only for a while that we must part
So bless the memories within your heart.
I won’t be far away, for like goes on.
So if you need me – call and I will come –
Thought you can’t see or touch me I’ll be near.
And if you listen deep within your heart you will hear
all my love around you soft and clear.
And then when you must come this way alone,
I’ll greet you with a smile and welcome you home.

Answer 6

i am sorry to know your grandfather has passed. i do know exactly how you feel. been there, done that. i think you should find a special person to talk to. if you can not afford a therapist, then let it be some one whose shoulder you can cry on, but who you also trust to not tell your business to the street. if you keep this all bottled up inside of you, you're gonna implode. or explode. or something.

Answer 7

When my grandpa passed away, I started a journal for my kids. I wrote about what was special about grandpa. I wrote about the things my kids would miss. I wanted to capture everything special about grandpa to pass it along when I could. I couldn't stand thinking about his goodness dying with him.

Start a "grandpa" journal. Write down what you miss. Write down what you want your family to know. Write down what you want your kids to know. Write down what you always want to remember.

Grieving is such a personal journey. But - if you realize that your grandpa can live through you, then you have a new choice.

Answer 8

it's good to mourn but you need to move on. you can emotionally move on without having to simply forget about him.

and yea people dont understand you cuz everyone is super complicated but at least they care enough to ask if you're ok.