me and my girlfriend have been together for seven months and her parents do not like me and they made us break up. they want her to date this other guy that they like but she doesnt want to. if i went over and talked to them and told them i only have good intentions with her and that i have been getting closer to god (big issue with them) do you think that would cause them to rethink? or is there no hope?
2007-09-18 17:57:25 · 22 answers · asked by Richie P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well here is the thing. i have always believed in god. i really have. but i realized that i wasnt as close to him as i should be. i did go to church with them. i read my bible quite often and take notes. i have like 20 pages of notes. im not getting closer to god to get closer with her parents. but the reason i think they want her to date this other guy is because he has been closer with god longer. but i gotta start somewhere right?? i really do love this girl. i dont just think of her as my girlfriend but she is my best friend. i really mean that too. oh and by the way im 17 years old.
2007-09-18 18:15:44 · update #1
I had my first gf 10 years ago. My in-laws hated me. My father in law said that he was gonna shoot me and my gf's brothers as well.
They liked someone "better" for her but guess what. We love them anyway but we went for it and we are still married with 3 wonderful children.
PS: My in-laws looove me to death now !
Yes, there is more than hope for you. It is a challenge!
HOW WEIRD! My gf and I were 17 at the time.
You all have God in common. You just need to prove them that you deserve their respect by your actions..
2007-09-18 18:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by 7 Habits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the following answer is a little thick so please bear with me....
A young lady before the age of 18 has the responsibility to obey her parents and as respect has it so do you sooo.
by you and her no longer being in a committed relationship at your age nothing should be lost...
right now you need to ask your ex if it would be ok if you two could still be friends (it shouldn't be anything more than that anyway)
Viola, nothing has changed except the fact you can no longer say your going together anymore in front of her parents.
Lay back, breath, send a note to her (as a friend of course) care for her like a friend,be a dedicated, wonderful responsible friend and the day after she graduates and turns 18 ask your friend to marry you after college and give her a big shiny diamond.
Now how's that?? Life is what goes on between your own two ears, not with the rest of the world.Have a happy life!
2007-09-19 01:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love conquers all. Show them your real good intentions. And take a closer look why her parents wants the other guy. The parents must have seen something from the guy which favors in the sake of their daughter?
2007-09-19 01:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by dalton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a parent, kids 18 and 21. We have been threw a few bad and good boyfriends. As a parent, I am never prejudice about someones looks, race, religion (even if none), or there goals in life. Most young adults don't have there goals in place and have not been too interested in church since they completed CCD classes. Or maybe your family was not very religous and your still deciding how you feel about it. My daughter does not believe in god although I raised her to believe and think she is missing out on a lot.
My advice to you is to be yourself and as long as your treating their daughter well and are being polite to her parents even if they choose not to be nice to you, you have done all you can do. Your main concern should be your girlfriend. If she knows you are trying to get along with her parents, she will see they are the unreasonable ones. I don't know if this girl is the one you will marry, but many spouses don't get along with their mother and or father-in-laws. You don't have to date or live with them. Just limit the visits with the parents if it bothers you, and when your with them try to bear with it. If they ask you questions you don't want to answer, ask them why they want to know. That usually gets them thinking and maybe they'll realize they are intruding.
They should be glad your not a drug dealer or in trouble with the law. I just want my daughter to be happy. Good luck.
2007-09-19 01:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes words are not enough. You will probably need to prove it to them. Why not start attending church with them, if you are seriously interested in getting closer to God? Just ask them if you can go with them or meet them at the church every week. That would go far in trying to earn their respect.
2007-09-19 01:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definately worth a shot. Don't make it confrontational, "I'm going to date her whether you like it or not" is only going to make the situation more tense. Tell them you respect them and want to do your best to make tem comfortable with the situation. Maybe make some compromises and let them get to know you better. Ask what you can do to help earn their trust. Be ready to answer any and all questions they throw at you. Good luck. Ask your girlfriend for tips.
2007-09-19 01:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there's hope. They're probably also looking for honest, if there is truly honesty in what you say and your answers to them , then they'll give you a chance, what's not to like right? Seems this family is religious, and they're probably looking for, polite , honest, and responsible males. I'm sure you'll figure out what you want in the end. Good luck =)
2007-09-19 01:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by reader 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are pains in the butt. If you're willing to go and talk to her parents and stand up for y'alls' relationship, I think this girl might have a pretty good guy on her hands. Hopefully her parents will see it the same way. Be respectful and honest with them. Also remember they are trying to protect their daughter, sometimes parents have hard times with changes.
Good luck!
2007-09-19 01:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the best way for you to get closer to your girlfriend parents is to talk with them...tell that you only have good intentions toward their daughter..( if your girl have different religion, well i guess the best way to win the parents heart, is to convert your religion.).. you might also go with your girlfriend every sunday to church ( with the parents of course)..in this way you can show to them that you are the right guy for their daughter.
2007-09-19 01:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her parents do not have a heaven or hell to put you in. yeah it would make things easier for the both of you if they did like you but you can only be you. you can ask them exactly what is it that you have done or said to make them feel this way towards you. if you have never disrespected them in any way, you are not mistreated their daughter, you are a law abiding productive citizen, have a job, not a drug user or dealer. if they do not have a legitimate reasons for their feelings than forget them and proceed. they can not dictate who their daughter sees. you should get closer to God because you have a genuine feeling to want to do that not because you are trying to please someone. get to know God for yourself and for what he can change in you and your life. who knows this girl may not be who God has for you. GodBless
2007-09-19 01:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋