I have been going to this same church for 12 years, and this only lady has only been coming about 4 months. Well when i first met her, she was rude. Now the last few times at church, when i happen to catch her looking my way, she rolled her eyes all mean. WHAT ON EARTH is that for? I feel like I need to rebuke her but I'm not sure what that means. What other option is there?
2007-09-18 17:47:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Perform some kind of act of service for her if you can.
If that doesnt work just live with the fact that not everyone is going to like you. Be as nice to her as you can and she cant ever accuse you of doing anything mean to her.
2007-09-18 17:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by cadisneygirl 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
See behind her and realize that there is an enemy who will use anyone anything and anyplace to destroy your testimony and standing.
Sweet sister..Just learn to stay with the Lord on this one. I know its hard being in a church gathering and undergoing this kind of stress but the Lord in You is able to overcome even this. A kind word turns away wrath .. the Lord in you and I is a Kind person.
I have a similar situation that i am currently being passed through by the Lord and honestly sister.. its not easy.. this sister is older and should be wiser but then this morning when I was praying with my husband we just truly prayed for this sister and I tell you.. the Lord works in mysterious ways.. This sister called our home and was so sweet. I was in shock.
In the end sweet sister.. let the Lord fight these kind of battles.. These are the times where we learn to take the way of the Cross and be Xed out. The " I" is gradually being bend into a " C" for Christ. Not I but Christ who lives in me..
HALLELUJAH!
Keep abiding dear one.. and pray for this woman.
Ur sis
sandy
2007-09-19 01:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by Broken Alabaster Flask 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The Bible says that if someone sins against you, you are to talk about it with them in private. If they continue, you get a few others and talk to them again (church leaders, counselors, etc.). If they continue, you tell the entire church. If they continue, you kick them out of the church... or in other words, "Let them be to you as Gentiles and tax collectors".
I personally think the first idea is a good idea. The second and third ones seem kinda sanctimonious and would likely result in the person feeling threatened and cornered. The fourth one I can't agree with at all, but that's what it says.
2007-09-19 00:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by Snark 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Firstly, in your heart you must forgive her and be sincere. Then you can either pull her aside in private (if possible) on the way out or in and say "Hey, I'm sorry for whatever I may have said or done to offend you. It was not intentional. I don't like to have enemies and prefer to at least get along with others even though I may not agree with them. Do you think we can work this out and call a truce?"
That usually works with me on the rare occasion that I have that problem. Nip the problem in the bud. Don't let it grow, otherwise it's harder to solve.
2007-09-19 00:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are at Church to learn more about God, and love for you neighbors, and the salvation Jesus has for you. Don't go there and play these games with people.
You learned this in the sand box: If some one is offensive, move to the other side of the room, and what keeps you looking at her?
2007-09-19 00:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by Nifty Bill 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
"I feel .... (irritated, frustrated, whatever) when you... (roll your eyes at me, whatever). I would appreciate it if you would stop." If she doesn't stop, ask the pastor for an intervention. I wouldn't recommend actually getting involved in conflict with someone who picks you out of the blue to ridicule. She doesn't sound stable, and you never know what an unstable person might do.
2007-09-19 00:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by javadic 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The only Christian option is not to react, but to act toward her with the love of Christ. I know that's easier said than done with some people, but remember it's not just about you. God is working in her life as well.
2007-09-19 00:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by Paulie D 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
pray for the lady. Maybe she has an eye twitch and she does that all the time.
2007-09-19 00:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by The 2 points guy 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Next time when she roll her eyes at you, just push your right eye while looking to her and continue your walk looking forward. It is tit for tat, eye rolled for eye push beat.
2007-09-19 01:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would walk up to her after the service and say point blank " ma'am do you have a problem with me"? because if you dont I wish you would stop the eye rolling , it is rude, and if you do please explain yourself
2007-09-19 00:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋