My sister (a new driver) took my car without asking me, how should I let her know this isn't to happen again?

Question

She took my car without asking me. She was given her own car, a Honda Civic. She is a new driver, she's had her license for less than half a year, and has been driving on her own for about 2 months.

Two weeks ago, when I was napping, she took my G35 coupe, which has almost 3 times the horsepower than the late model Civic, and picked up her friends and went to the mall.

I just found out now when one of her friends told me. The G is a difficult car for new drivers to handle, I don't want her hurting herself, it's a completely different car than the Civic, on top of that I usually leave "safeties" like traction and stability control off....had the car started to drift, she wouldn't know how to control the drift.

How should I make it clear that this isn't to happen again? I have let her drive my car before, but with me in it, and with the safeties on.

Answer 1

Chigga explain wat u just told us here on yahoo...explain her it's a difficult car for a novice with no valid amount of practice. Tell her that the day she becomes a good , best driver u'd urself give her ur car to drive on ur own or u'd buy her a new car as a gift for her but till the time she truly gets to be a good driver ask her to not use ur car or anybodys elses for that matter.

Bribe her for now, soft manipulations buddy make her belive that u'd buy her a new car on her birthday or somehting.

On top of that if she also wishes to drive ur car then tell her to drive it when ur init only coz that way u'd make sure shez safe and not taking unnecessary risks.

maybe u can keep ur car locked?? have u got a place where in u can keep ur car locked lol that wud be the ultimate step. C ur car is quite awesome n sexy compared to hers so she must have felt like showing it off and having fun with her friends so u can't truly blame her but then explain her wat the difficulties r... C wat kinda response u get from her after u explain. Strictness doens't work always but yeah even after warning the same pattern follows then u gotta put ur foot down strong. So just take a chance and explain to her the risk she'd put u and ur family in if at all she drives and gets into accident or some trouble.

Answer 2

I think the most important thing here is your Dad. There are too many questions here, too many possibilities to just tell you what's going on. I think that you have gotten a lot of good advice here. First thing you should do is talk your Dad into seeing a doctor (not a psychologist) to maybe get a catscan and some blood tests done. There could be brain swelling or internal bleeding going on or something. There are too many reasons to list for why he may be acting this way. Maybe the retreat was in the woods and he came in contact with something poisonous or maybe breathed in some mold spores or something. If it ends up that he is fine physically then you can start looking at some spiritual solutions. If you find nothing wrong with your Dad physically, you have a good idea about calling other people from the retreat and you guys should do that. Find out what actually went on during the retreat. You might want to look into why your cats passed away. There might be something in the house that made them sick and maybe it's making your Dad sick. Again, there are so many possibilities as to what's going on. I am curious if your Dad has been back to church since the retreat. If he hasn't, ask him why. I have witnessed strange behavior like this from someone and it was because of things they were doing spiritually. On the flip side, I have an Uncle who had never done drugs in his life and tried a joint just once. It ended up being laced with something and caused him permanent brain damage. He was never the same after that and has to take medication for the rest of his life. From the outside looking in, it would appear that he just sort of flipped out one day and some people might have viewed him as being possessed. So it's important to check out the physical explanations first and try to get the facts. Then go to the spiritual if necessary. If everything ends up being okay with your Dad physically then either something bad happened at the retreat or for some reason he is suffering a mental break. I would take the advice of Irish Lady if you find that there is no logical explanation for how he is acting. I'm sorry for all of the things that are happening to you, especially the death of your cats and your Grandpa having cancer. Bad things normally happen in clusters. That's just the way it is. So do blessings though. Something always gives and I am sure that good things will be happening in your family soon. Please focus on your Dad and get him help.

Answer 3

Hide the keys install a hidden interlock switch to shut off some key item like fuel system or pump. Besides she looked better in your g-35 than her lowly Civic. Traction control VDC turns back on each time you cycle the key. Turn into the slide! And the G-35 is not difficult to handle many girls drive them. You need something like a Corvette ZO-6 or Viper to get into the difficult to handle range. Or my car with traction control turned off in the wet.

Answer 4

Take your keys (all sets) and hide them where she won't think of looking and keep the doors of your car locked at all times. She should get the hint. Also, like everyone else has written, tell her that your insurance doesn't cover any other drivers. This same scenario happened to me with my brother, but he didn't seem to care about the insurance talk so I hid the keys at all times and also kept the doors locked. He finally got the message.

Answer 5

1. "You do NOT have persmission to drive my car when I am not with you. You WILL respect me on this limit I am setting for your safety because I care about you."
2. "If you take my car without my permission, it is called grand theft auto, and I will press charges rather see you die in a bad accident because you are driving a car you do not have skills to drive."
3. Hide the keys - every copy of the key, or keep them on you in your pockets when you nap.

Answer 6

id set her down and talk to her,you are right on this one,that's way too much car for her to handle,and you have to look at it like this,if it happened once it will probably happen again,that's a hard thing to do is tell someone they cant and aren't allowed to use something,but this may be for her own good,id also keep my keys well out of sight ,that will help stop this from happening also,you really don't have a choice here she has to be told,just try and be nice i guess,and see if that works ,hopefully it will,good luck on this.

Answer 7

I'd tell mom and dad, but if you are older... I would be up front and tell her the reasons why you do not want her to use your car, and second and foremost that is completely disrespectful to take something that doesn't belong to you, and use it. Also, if she was in an accident not only could she be hurt so could you with out having her on your insurance. I would be pretty upset. My sister is getting her permit this winter, so that will be fun!

Answer 8

1.) Let her know that you are well within your right to report the car stolen.

2.) If she is a minor, mom and dad are authorized to have her license revoked until she is 18.

3.) Do what i did and teach your sister how to handle the car under extreme circumstances so that in the future you might feel comfortable with her driving it alone.

Answer 9

Tell her she is not insured in your car--nor her friends---she is not to ever do it again or you will report it stolen when you find the car gone. The cops will striaghten her out real quick. It is illegal to drive a car without the owners permission, she will be brought in---she will regret it. if she doesn't like it--tough !! Watch your keys.

Answer 10

Tell her that if she does not have your permission to borrow the car you will report it stolen. That way you will not be responsible for her actions otherwise you could be charged with any charges she incurs including vehicular manslaughter or other worse. Love her but don't destroy your life for her. Good luck & best wishes, Sassy.