My boyfriend/fiance and I have been together for 11 years. I'm 26 and he's 28. We really do love each other so much.... that I know! Things have been really rough for a while now but this whole summer things have been so rocky. Long story short... we have some major disagreements like saving/spending money and his use of pot. He has basically given up on the relationship and says he just doesn't have it in him to "try" and compromise anymore. We've been debating breaking up the whole summer and he's being living at home w/ me off & on. Yesterday he came home and said he wanted to work things out but his attitude hadn't changed at all. We decided to break up w/ NO contact for a month. He's taking most of his stuff in a few days. In a month we will see how we feel. If we both feel we just CAN'T live w/o each other we will get back together and get married w/ no doubts. (he has LOTS of doubts and couldn't commit to marrying me in 6 months). He also has been saying he's....
2007-09-18 16:53:24 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
bored/unfulfilled. I really think he needs to figure out what he really wants. I am hoping this time apart will make it clear to him one way or another. If we decide not to get back together, he will take the rest of his stuff at that point and get his own place. He'll be staying w/ his mom until then. I already miss him (knowing I won't see or talk to him for a month). Are we doing the right thing???? I really don't want to lose him but want him to realize what he has w/ me. And if he doesn't want to get back together I guess he didn't love me enough to make it work. I am so scared that I willlose him. This is only day #1 and I already want to call him and tell him to come home but am trying to stick to my guns. PLEASE HELP!!!
2007-09-18 16:54:28 · update #1
Well, he has been with you for a long time since his teens and he is still in a "play" phase. He is not ready to give up the other life, pot sleeping with other women. He has to grow up which won't happen soon. Please move on it will hurt but there are other guys out there. Never let a man put you in a place where you feel you have to work three times as hard as he does to keep the commitment alive. My wife and I work fifty fifty but I had to grow up that's all there is too it.
2007-09-18 17:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by Big John 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry i really dont believe in "breaks" --- if you cant talk out the problems find out what you want from the relationship now what will it be like in 20 - 30 years ---- he may just be looking for an easy way to leave the relationship im sorry ---- best wishes
2007-09-18 23:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is the SMARTEST thing you could have done! I applaud you! Good luck, keep a journal, and really try to find yourself!
2007-09-18 23:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go, hes a loser that has you under his spell.....................
2007-09-18 23:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by gymnastbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋