My friend Rodrigo asked me out today, and i told him no. then he looked all sad and said i figured so. i told him i just didnt want a bf rite now, then he didnt say anything or smile at me in class like he usally does. he ignored me in the hallway to. i feel bad cause i do lik him a lot, but i'm only 13, and i fear he is one of those guys who wana make out wit u all the time, and i'm not tht kind of gurl. also i dnt want it 2 ruin our friendship.what should i do?
2007-09-18 16:05:46 · 31 answers · asked by K. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him how you feel if he is really your friend he will understand. I think he took it the wrong way that is why you should talk to him and explain how you feel so it is not uncomfortable to be around each other true friends always understand. good luck!
2007-09-18 16:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by Toni C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww poor guy! I know you probably don't mean to, but imagine asking a guy you're head over heels in love with, out. Then he said no. Wouldn't you be really upset also? He was probably really into you. You need to call him, send him and email or just talk to him (just like the old days! hehe) in the hallway. Tell him you're really sorry but right now you're not ready, and you don't know if you're right with him. Get to know him a little bit better. You may find something about him that you really like, or that you were really wrong about! Good luck!
2007-09-18 23:11:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did just FINE! You spoke up for yourself & you have your reasons. Most times I find if we'd only go w/our "gut" feelings, our "first" reaction feelings, we'd be so much better off. Don't worry because you did what you wanted to do. GOOD FOR YOU! I admire you for sticking up for yourself & not "feeling sorry" for someone else into being pressured into doing something you didn't feel comfortable doing. Don't worry about it. IF he wants to get all bent out of shape about it, that's on him. None of us gets everything we want & just because he didn't get what he wanted, let him pout & get upset about it. That again is all on him. So he doesn't talk to you, that's not the end of the world. At least you found out what kind of a person he really is. I'm very PROUD of you being able to say no at the age of 13. Just keep it up when you don't feel comfortable about anything that might come up in your life. At least you stood up for yourself & that's a good trait to have in life. Keep it & use it when ever you feel there's something you just don't feel rite about or feel comfortable with. There's a reason you feel that way, go with your first instinct & your first reactions. IF your friendship is ruined because of that, it wasn't meant to be in the first place. You did the right thing & GOOD FOR YOU...(^_^)
2007-09-18 23:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's embarrased, guys instantly think that it's something wrong with him, he probably will make up reasons why you don't like him. If I was Rodrigo i would want you to tell him that I really like you and I'm being honest, I just don't feel like I'm old enough to have a gf. He probably will still think it's him, but right now he's just crushed and his self-esteem is low.
2007-09-18 23:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by Thinker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him "i'm only 13 i'm not tht kind of gurl who wana make out wit u all the time and i dnt want it 2 ruin our friendship"
2007-09-18 23:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
approach your friend and try to talk to him. you should tell him how your feeling and maybe things might turn out to be different than you expected. im not saying it was mean of you to think that he was the type of guy who goes after a girl just to make out with but you never know. he should respect you and so if you want to take things slow let him know that, maybe you should give him a second chance. or let him now that you still want to be friends with him and not make things awkward between the two of you
2007-09-18 23:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by i <3 Dunks 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just give him a little time to think things over. And tell him you're better off as friends and you cherish your friendship and dont want to lose it cuz trust me, its not good to date friends like that. He will figure it out too, that he'd rather have u as a friend than not have you at all
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2007-09-18 23:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him and let him know exactly how you feel and why you think it would be best that you just stay friends cause you don't want to ruin the friendship that you already have..
2007-09-18 23:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's probably embarrassed right now. Give him some time to get over it and tell him that you love being his friend but that's all you want right now. Let him know your sorry if you've hurt his feelings.
Good luck ;)
2007-09-18 23:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by Janna 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont worry about it my friend had asked me too and i said no he did act weird for maybe like two days but he eventually got back to normal!! if this guy is trully your friend then he'll talk to u agian just give him some time!!
2007-09-18 23:14:51 · answer #10 · answered by g 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋