Emotional dependence stems from emotional ABUSE. When a parent convinces their children they are sick, and make them RELY on them, that is a HUMLIATION TACTIC of ABUSE. If people did not have those 'weaknesses' to tide them over till they get to their STRONGER perspective/answer, they would commit suicide.
We all have defense-mechanisms. They are precious to us, they allow us to manage, to cope, and to heal.
They allow us to grow, and to communicate with bounderies.
I am very good, at letting the obnoxious, and irritatingly annoying things go in people, b/c I know how it feels to be tormented by someone who wants to hurt me, just to be sadistic.
We worry TOO much on the HUMILIATING/EMBARASSING/ANNOYING things in people, we do NOT face the REAL/TRUE oppressors.
"Why?"
Because its' hard, and its' time-consuming, and no one wants to deal with the REAL issues.
Theyd rather pick on/cyber-bully the ones who could really be good, precious friends to them.
Like me.
2007-09-18 15:40:32 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
don't let the cruelty of others get to you...there are sick people in the world who love to torment those they feel are weak...and as for a parent who would make you feel sick all the time...trust your own judgment, and know that you are the one who will be making that decision from now on maybe that is there way of never losing you...to make you always feel dependent on them...in spite of that, love them and do your own thing..and as far as cyber idiots, go,..ignore and block and choose your friends carefully...God Bless honey x
2007-09-24 00:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it's true we live what we learned.
your parent was obviously an anxiety-ridden mess... if this is how you are living today.
if you are having issues, there is therapy.. and believe me when i tell you this -- it WORKS when we WORK IT.... it takes us an entire childhood and sometimes into our adulthood to develop these problems and issues... so therapy and our recovery takes time, too.
sometimes we never fully recover, but it helps when we can develop good coping skills, a better self-image, and some realizations about the (ill) people in our lives who brought us to this condition.
take care of YOU... you deserve good help.
2007-09-18 16:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the real oppressor isn't humans but is human pain, rather
it takes a certain amount of consciousness to be kind
but unconsciousness in someone lets their pain possess them and attack their allies
2007-09-18 16:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋