Should I be feeling guilty because I don't stay at home with my daughter, when I work full time?

Question

At first I had no choice I was a single mom, but now I am married and he makes good money.

Answer 1

If you have the choice stay at home with your child - This world is far too dangerous. Day Care center employees have to have a minimal education in order to do what they do. I have to scrimp to stay at home with mine, but I do it. If you really love your line of work, can you do it at home? Can you hire a nanny? If you can't be there a live in nanny from a reputable agency would be better.

Answer 2

I am a married mother of two. I stay home with my children. I feel guilty for not having a job. No matter what we do as mothers, we feel guilty. If you like your job, then keep it! If you don't really like your job and you don't need the money, then quit it and stay home with your daughter. No matter what you do, you are still a working mother. Taking care of children is a full time job.

Answer 3

I work full time because I have to. I have a 2 year old and I am about to give birth (Thursday!) and I am only taking six weeks off. I feel guilty as well, but I need to pay bills also. My house payment alone is $2000 a month. Maybe you could work part time or even from home.

Answer 4

It is your call. As long as your daughter is being taken care of the best way and you get to spend quality time with her, I don't see why you should feel guilty. If you do, then look for a part-time or volunteer job. That is, if you can live comfortable on his salary. Many companies offer flex-time. Talk with your boss to see if there is something like that in your company. Ultimately, it is your choice.

Answer 5

No you shouldnt feel guilty at all. I know its hard not to though. But think about it this way, you are working and making even more money, regardless of how much your husband makes, so you can provide nicer things for your daughter making her life alot easier!!

Answer 6

You shouldn't feel guilty, some people just aren't made to stay at home. And a happy parent makes for a happy childhood.

Answer 7

you shouldn't waste time feeling guilty: just quit your job and spend time with her. why have a child if you can't spend time with her?? if she's in school, you could get a part-time job if you feel it's needed financially or if you want something to occupy your day. if she's not in school, wait until she's old enough but spend all your energy on her for now. you should listen to Dr. Laura Schslessinger on the radio or read her books-she handles these type of problems all the time and gives AMZING adivce. :D

Answer 8

i may not be a parent but i have 3 little sisters that r liek my kids..my dad is a great guy just a bad dad...he doesnt understand how much it means to kids when u just sit down and watch a movie or play a game with them...as long as ur kid gets the loving attention they need dont feel bad not being mommy all the time

Answer 9

i wish i had a little girl to spend all day with everyday, i had a son and tried to but the bad choice of men i had never allowed me to and i feel completely cheated out of my motherhood cause believe me time flies and makes every memory seem like a simple rare photograph in the brain,but who am i to say? go to work if you feel.

Answer 10

Depends. How old is she? Is she watched over by someone else? Do you see her frequently outside of work? Do you spend a lot of time with her? Do you provide for her in ways you couldn't if you didn't work?

This is a much more complex question than you present here.