Why is it so hard for strippers to find a commited relatinoship? I mean were people too, we have needs just like everybody else. Guy's just think of us as play toys, to be used at thier convinience! The olny time an exotic dancer cand find a good relaionship is with another hustler or a trick. So don't get mad At me when You see me in public with my sugar daddy. Or selling drugs for my doe-boy boyfriend. But what about the regular guy's ? Do you think it's fun to date a stripper? Where my lawyers at? Where are my buisness men at? We , well, I know I deserve a nice man to take care of me, but they just don't understand. To be judged and catigorized on a constant basis. Because what we do is a lot harder and it doesn't come with benefits or dental. Were worthey enough to be in any playboy spread or bradcasting the news . I'm just confused as to why strippers can't be in a normal relationship? We know more about you men than You think!
2007-09-18 15:22:19 · 20 answers · asked by Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd feel uncomfortable with other guys' seeing my gf's goods.
2007-09-18 15:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Im not trying to judge u or be mean , but try to put yourself ina good guys shoes. A good man is after one thing above all. A good loving family girl. Sexy , good looking girls are a dime a dozen these days but a good girl with a heart , and morals is a like a diamond . You also just said where are your lawyers and business men at? That right there shows that your looking for money first and therefore are materialistic.
Even lawyers and businessmen that are looking to get married are looking for someone they can love but also someone that will be the mother of their future children. Can you imagine a guy taking u to his parents and then they ask you what you do for a living?
Being worthy enough to be in any playboy spread means nothing compared to being worthy enough to be in a relationship. Now you may be a very nice person on the inside but from your post, you are looking for wealth.
Hmmm, a stripper that is looking for wealthy men. That is 2 strikes against you allready. Maybe if you change the second part and start looking for down to earth guys who arent wealthy you might get lucky and find a guy that will accept your job but other than that, your in a tough situation.
2007-09-20 06:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by virgin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend was a stripper and met her now husband while she was a stripper.( she didnt meet him at her job) He didnt like her being a stripper and when she found out he was serouse about her she quit her job and they got married. She is now a mom and a real estate agent. She had many serious relationships while she was a stripper but had problems with them being jelouse of her being a stripper cause they didnt like other men looking at her. oh by the way she never had drugie boyfriends nor did she have sugar daddy's. It is all in how you carry yourself and not dress sluty in public. Have confidence in your self and maybe your not so proud of being a stripper and it shows. And honey all women know that men are pigs and like to look at naked women and men do like women that they can take home to there mom and be proud of her. If a man doesnt like what you do for a living that is his problem.
2007-09-18 15:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by yep its me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure an exotic dancer could be just as good, if not better, a girlfriend then any other girl with some other job type. But I think the main concern revolves around a guy being insecure. Strippers are usually attractive, and for a guy, to have their good looking girl, shaking it and getting naked for other guys is a hard thing to deal with.
I know, I want my girlfriend to myself, I dont even like when my buddies check her out or whatever. And so, to have my girlfriend grinding on a guy, giving lap dances and all that is something I would be uncomfortable with, those are things I want solely for myself.
Ask yourself, would you be comfortable to know instead of your man being behind a desk 9-5, he was getting naked and giving lap dances to girls. You might get jealous, right?
2007-09-18 15:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mat 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I personally would love to date a stripper, but I'm not the "bad-boy" type. To have a gf who can dance sensuously, be loyal, and at least try to stay out of trouble by avoiding drugs would be a real pleasure. And loyalty is a key part of any relationship. Most of the ladies in your profession just don't get that part. I understand your feelings, but face it; your profession has a LOT of excess baggage that most guys just don't want to deal with. I would be willing to give it a chance; I just can't seem to be able to break the "bad-boy" barrier.
2007-09-18 15:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that strippers in this day/age are give a bad name, so if a stripper asked out a guy, and he thought for a second how "hey, this is a real person, not just a toy" maybe they'd give them a chance. i think going out with a stripper would be something different and exciting!
2007-09-18 15:26:51 · answer #6 · answered by JUSTaPREPPYguy 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are either a toy to them or they won't date you because you let other men look at you and they want you all to themselves. It's a hard life for a stripper.
2007-09-18 15:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think is hard to guy because alot of them are thinking that u have been more then just dancing why dont u drop that job and became something that guys wount see u as play boy toy i know if i had a girlfriend like that i be thinking stupid **** and u may be doing when u are not maybe is because that
2007-09-18 15:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not complain about being a play toy when you are a stripper.. that just doesnt make any sense.. you chose that job but you dont have to stick with it.. get a decent job and you might get decent guys.. guys automatically make asumptions about stripper.. imm sure that they would think that you would cheat on them.. well if you kept your job as a stripper you would be cheating on them.. change jobs.. itll help
2007-09-18 15:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by Theresa 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i don't mind if i date a stripper
only if she is needing the money bad, and not for the fact she needs to pay off drug dealers
but, its hard to approach a stripper, i think they all are too committed to just lust, rather than love. Its just the vibe given off
PS, i don't go to strip clubs, and never plan on it because i don't think of women like that, so it is hard for me to ever date one because it seems like they want to be treated as objects
2007-09-18 15:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yall cant normally get "the good guys" cause you said it we see you as meat cause your sitting there teasing us and possibly doing other sexual things for us the thought of you being "a real person" doesnt cross our minds not to mention a lot of strippers are slutty and usually have a lot of baggage (the reason their a stripper)
2007-09-18 15:27:19 · answer #11 · answered by jodfie 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋