i am wasting money which i dont even make. my dads money.. need to stop. i have done this like 30 times..i want to stop.i need help beforee it gets out of hand..any one out there..please..save a life somebody is dying
2007-09-18 15:07:58 · 20 answers · asked by danta43 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
repenting would imply that you are remorseful which you aint cuz you keep doin it. if you are religious talk to your elders, priest, father, whatever
2007-09-18 15:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by beautyspot23 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I didn't die, so you won't either.
Your in need of a addiction center to sign up for classes/ private doctor.
The pleasure you receive far outweighs any guilt you feel. The thrill of doing something so wrong in your community and with your dad's money is what your hooked on.
I do not know where a center is in your community, but seriously look into one. I wasted a truck load of money, I look back on now could have been spent on college or saved for the house I will never have now.
Perhaps list all the thrills this activity generates, and reflect on why you need them.
Religiously repenting sins doesn't mean much as your addicted - same as drugs, alcohol - you need a doctors assistance for awhile. No harm or embarrassment - every human has faults.
Being honest with yourself is a good start.
I retired from my old ways because I changed communities and jobs. Then I was introduced to a wonderful woman, and I never thought about my past ever again. Also I do not beat myself up for being young, well except as I stated about the loss of money.
Fighting an addiction is not something usually done solo. Good luck.
2007-09-18 15:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU need to make yourself truly accountable to someone trustworthy..., Have you ever gone to a "sex addicts" anonymous group?? There are truly anonymous groups but probably can only be found through your doctor.., or A doctor. You can call up and just ask IF there is someone you could anonymously speak with regarding this.
If you REALLY want help, you will do it!
The advice about the book above "Every man's Battle" IS good advice, but doesn't substitute for "other" help(er's). BECOME accountable to someone who is willing and a "group" can provide that..., if you can be honest and open with an accountability partner. Those who are that, have been where you are.
2007-09-18 15:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course, seeing a therapist is a good idea. But I can recommend a book called The Game Plan by Joe Dallas that seems pretty good to me. It's a "30-day strategy for attaining sexual integrity." "A positive five-point strategy for overcoming harmful sexual addiction." It's a Christian approach, so prayer is involved, but there are also very practical steps to keep yourself accountable. You can read more about it on Amazon.
You can turn your life around, but don't wait until it becomes even harder!
God bless you.
2007-09-18 17:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Andrei Bolkonsky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I commend you for asking for help, that's a good start
ask Jesus to give you self control which is a fruit of the Spirit
believe He wants to help you more than you want help and believe He is all powerful
then be patient with yourself,
1John 1:9
if we confess our sins He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness
God is true to His Word
just know that you will conquer it and have the victory and someday help someone else
2007-09-18 15:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by sego lily 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly; you need to go and see a qualified counsellor and get psychological help. Next; go to a medical doctor to have a check-up completed and become tested for STDs. Then; ask God for the spiritual help to heal you emotionally. Remember; one day at a time !!!
2007-09-18 15:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's always hope as long as you're alive. Try checking out the book called "Every Man's Battle". I'm reading it right now. It's good stuff.
God bless.
2007-09-18 15:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel its necessiarly to pay for sex? do you have problems with commitment? are you addicted to fast sex? do you feel your not attractive enough to have a decent sexual relationship with a normal women? i dont know but you should ask yourself questions such as these. It might help you figuare this out. Good luck.
Peace
2007-09-18 15:13:55 · answer #8 · answered by theoppressed25 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
what? And your on yahoo asking for help? you need to pray and just stop doing that. no one is forcing you to sin. its your choice. spend the money on buying christmas toys for some children who might not otherwise have a christmas. Shame on you.
2007-09-18 15:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Learn more about sex addiction here and decide for yourself:
www.sexaa.org
2007-09-19 03:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to go to Sex Addicts Anonymous for help...
2007-09-18 15:23:40 · answer #11 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋